[msnewbooty]

The love of my life told me many months ago, in casual conversation..."[One of his ex's names] has lost 30 pounds..." He wasnt saying it as "You should lose some weight" or "Hey, look what she did!" It was just a casual conversation...he could have been talking about one of his buddies.

For some reason, I picked that little phrase out of the entire conversation and I havent been able to forget it. Part of my wanting to lose weight is to know he could tell someone else "Erin's lost 80 pounds."

...and yes, I know you shouldnt try to lose weight for anyone but yourself. And I know this isnt the healthiest of goals.

But it's my confession and it's one of my main motivators, so there it is.

[Obsidianbbw]

If it got you started and keeps you going then I say woo hoo. A good chunk of the reason I started was my boyfriend telling me he wanted to be with me for the next 50 years. He didn't say it in a you need to lose weight so we can be together, but thats why came up in my head. Now while that is still a motivation I do it more because i love the changes in myself and all the additional benefits.

[Tippy05]

hmmmm.......... sounds strangely familiar

I have the tendency of taking the most innocent of comments and turning them into a personal attack on my weight or my body in general.

Whether it's for us, or for someone else, or both, as long as we're losing weight and doing it in a healthy way I say go for it!

[eightbitgirl]

I do the same thing. My boyfriend's a tiny little rail and loves me for my "curves", but I am so self-conscious about my body that I was like ENOUGH!!!! I've lost 40 and I look a lot better than I did, and there's nothing more fun than realizing that those 40 lbs inhibited me from doing a lot of things that I can do now. plus, his coworkers hit on me in front of him and it's hilarious.

[beautifulone]

I can totally understand that. I think oftentimes we need something to get us started - I hope that overtime it shifts into doing this for yourself and your health, but like I said, I understand

[Jessie_777]

I understand why it is motivating for you. I plan on moving back to my hometown in about a year. Since I left 5 years ago I've gained probably 50lbs. I want to go back looking better than I did when I left. I want to do it for my health too, as I'm sure you do It's one thing to use it as a motivator and another to do it to make someone else happy.

[Oh So Swish]

To each his own. If if motivates you. Run with it. My husband works with a local artist and he is out at shows and clubs all the time. I dont have any doubts in my husband or marriage...but my motivation is that I need to look as good or better than all the other chicks that are around! I want him to be proud of the girl hes got at home, ya know.

[futurepixie]

yeah i agree with everyone else-

I admit that I was the same way a few months ago. I started out wanting to lose to look good in a (hideous) bridesmaid's dress. then it turned into visiting an old friend and not wanting to be seen 30 pounds heavier. Now it is so that I can run faster, for longer, and not have chub rub in my thighs when I do it.

My point is that your motivations will change over time, along with your body. But I do believe that at some point it has to become a committment to yourself and a healthier you, or you won't stick with it or maintain it. I know that I have never been motivated by lasting change before, and always gained it back.

[LaBonita]

Wow...we have like the same motivation!! Only my boyfriend didn't tell me. His son told me that his dad's ex was losing weight. Let's just say...she's a lot bigger than me. It took that comment that made me think "Oh **** no...she's NOT going to get skinny before I do!" LOL...it's a little evil of me, but it's what keeps me going when I feel like quitting!

[Mamato4under5]

sweetie I'm sure he didn't mean it the way to bother you but if it motivates you then use that You can do this! Just remember that