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Figured I'd throw myself in the mix.. Lesbian in Las Vegas.


As for the weight and dating- I hate my own body. HATE it. so I'm changing it and while I do that I have made a personal choice to not date. I will date again when I am under 200, quite the reward for reaching one of my mini goals.
That said, other people don't hate it (or are willing to overlook it?) and I actually get asked out quite often.

But I truly believe I have to love myself before I can love someone else. No one I know actually supports my decision to not date, but I just am not as happy as I could be so why put that on someone else?

:hug:

Hey, everyone. Bisexual woman in a committed open relationship with a man, here.

I've never had a problem with anyone being less than accepting of my bisexuality--in fact, I think it was almost a point of attraction for a lot of people--but my partner and my's disinterest in sexual monogamy is a totally different ball of wax. A lot of our friends who don't flinch at someone's sexuality are a lot less comfortable when that same person wants to share it with people outside the relationship.

I think that my partner and I having sex outside of our relationship is actually very important for the health of our relationship as a whole. Sex with the same person, while comfortable and loving and occasionally very kinky, never really has that same breathless rush as having sex for the first or second time with someone you've been attracted to and never really thought you'd have sex with. And that I have someone to go home to afterward and share with, and that it makes both of us even more excited about each other, makes it all the better.

But I feel less sexy since I gained weight, and I know that's why I haven't really pursued anyone outside my partner--not because I'm not interested in anyone else, because I DEFINITELY am, but because I don't feel comfortable enough with myself to think I'd enjoy the pursuit.

But hey. I'M GETTING THERE.

awesome
 

Hey everybody!! I was hoping there was a thread like this somewhere on this forum. Sappic sister right here all the way.( if it wasn't somewhat obvious by the avatar). I haven't done well in the way of dating, Indianapolis not really the best gay scene. I was with my ex for over 2.5 years it ended kind of badly. Its great to see a support thread here for those of us gay ladies who need to lose weight. we need to get more peeps in here. :)

Hi celticrae! I'm bisexual myself. Nice to see you! :wave: I love your avatar! I used to have a "Xena for President" bumpersticker on my old car!

Good luck with your weight loss, and dating too! :)

Yay for finding this thread.

I'm bisexual and in such a small town that it's hard to meet another woman with the same orientation of some kind. I had a gf last year, but she moved after graduating and it gets kind of hard sometimes. That is with the weight loss and not meeting like-minded people.

So again I say...YAY!

Lesbian in Florida :D Hey, all. From what I've experienced, it is hard to meet someone good even when your options are plentiful (like they are where I live). It all comes down to real compatibility, even when there are lesbimamas everywhere you look!

Hey stun, where in Florida do you live? Clearly I need to move there because I'm pretty sure there are 5 lesbians here and we've all already dated each other. ;)

Hey all! I'm a lesbian, I'm a student so I'm currently living in London and Birmingham (in the UK). And I will be moving to Spain in September to study :)

Excited but also slightly concerned that the city I'm going to has one tiny gay bar that seems to be very run down. :/

Oh well, I will just have to have a year without my constant supply of queer-y goodness and drama.

Take heart ladies, My partner and I have been together for 28 years and still going strong. There is soneone out there for you.:)

Ha, I literally JUST changed my avatar from a Xena one. Hilarious.

I'm with you and in the same boat. I'm also just focused on my career and working hard to get healthy and change my life at the moment. I've dated in the past, but I'm not looking at the moment - I will probably hold off on that for awhile. Anyway, I'm a lesbian living in LA.

Los Angeles is a great place to be gay, though, so I certainly go out and have fun.

Thanks to whoever bumped this thread, I'd have never found it otherwise.

lol!
:Dsounds like where i lived in iowa....

oh, and hi from north carolina. i'm still trying to figure myself out. i was married three times, have three grown sons...and have been living with my partner for four years now, after about a two year split. during the split i was involved with another partner, and watched her die very slowly and painfully of a brain tumor. ten months later i lost one of my boys. has led to a lot of comfort eating, but i think i might finally be getting a grip on that.

whew that was complicated. maybe somebody can explain it to me, if it's decipherable. oh, and sad. yep. been sad for quite some time now...

:hug: Oh starryblu! I'm sorry!

thank you so much, you are very sweet :)

and i do apologize to everyone for getting so whiney. i'm not usually that way. i think i'm having a bad week....:stress::stress:

starryblu, no need to apologize. That is an overwhelming amount of trauma to go through. I comfort-ate for way less! Please, no apologies... and welcome :)

Great to see this thread! I was feeling a little lonely, I think it's the username? Or maybe the big bright sun, honestly I did that because of the lupus thing, sensitivity to the sun? It was meant to be a playful joke/statement...ah well.

I have been bi, queer, and now I think I found my little niche, genderqueer chick from the midwest :D. I wouldn't say I am polyamorous, but I make deep connections with people and I tend to love almost everyone once I get to know them, sometimes this takes years.

I am happily married to a man who loves me for who I am, and understands that I won't ever cheat on him (he is not like me) because I respect what we have, I am just different, and that's totally ok with him.

I too have never been a healthy weight (well maybe when I was 6?), have no idea what that would look like for me, excited to find out!

Hey everyone! I know there hasn't been a post here in a while but I thought I'd say hello.

I'm currently having issues with dating. I met a great girl and we went on a date but I'm just still so uncomfortable in my skin. Another thing is she lost a large amount of weight over the last couple of years and I feel awkward still being in that stage.

I was feeling pretty good about myself and my body. I was trying to be healthy without counting calories. Boy did that backfire. I ended up my heaviest weight ever! Some things just don't work for me and ignoring calories is one of them.

So anyways, I'm here! Another lesbian trying to lose!

Hello, thewalrus0! :wave: Good luck with your weight loss! I know about the feeling awkward bit, but you can get there! :)

Well, I'll say hi on this thread!

I'm a single bisexual lady...who 60% of the time tries to figure out if she really wants to date a guy at all because seriously, girls are awesome. However currently I'm dating no one. Which is making me sad because both of my best friends are engaged. One is getting married in Decemeber and I'm one of two maids of honor (and the only bridal party memeber not dating someone). The other has just bought a house with his hubby to be, so they've put off the actual wedding shing-ding for a bit of time.

Usually I'm cool being single. I don't have to check in with anyone if I want to do something, I can flirt with people and no one cares, it's nice, relaxing. But lately I've just felt....left out. If I go out with my BFFs we have to bring their guys. Which really I like their guys, I have a ton in common with both of them and they think I'm super funny. But it does leave me as the fifth wheel while they get all snuggly and kissy and cute with each other.

But I digress, I'm an LGBT chick (I'm the B! The only time I say that and I'm not trying to censor a bad word), so hi!

Hello! I'm queer and poly. I belong to a fairly large, wonderful and boisterous chosen family that is centered in NYC. Everyone is really supportive. My family and lovers always make me feel beautiful.

just popped in to see who's around. does anyone here do low carb? it's my current obsession. i believe in it, though i can't say that i've had a lot of success so far. but then, you have to stick with the program, right? nope, doesn't work with cheetoes and chocolate covered pretzels :D

Hello~ I'm a queer woman in New Mexico. Pretty femme, with an androgynous streak. I've been with my partner for four years. I have been slowly losing weight since the spring, with a combination of strategic carb consumption and counting calories. I'll turn 30 in December, and I'm excited to begin a new decade being more comfortable in my body.

Hey everybody, glad to see you guys here!

My partner and I have been together for a little over four years now. She's lost 50lbs since last December, and is looking wonderful. I've still got quite a bit to go, but it's all good, I've got this. I'm also turning 30 next year, Orange Sun, and am looking forward to rocking it with a new body and mindset.

Hope you all are doing well today!

I wish these posts had LIKE buttons! :wave:

Welcome to all newcomers, and best wishes with your reaching for better health and wellness! :high:

<--- Bisexual :val2:

Lesbian here. Single, not looking. :dizzy:

And I have decided that I need to lose some weight for my own health, so I came back to 3 fat chicks. After my long-term relationship ended, my ex left me for some man she met on the internet after we'd been together over 18 years, I actually did quite well with taking care of myself. Then I had a few other losses and sort of stopped exercising and eating relatively well.

jules

Ouch jules, that's rough :(

good luck with getting healthy, hope it continues to progress!

Bisexual Canadian, together with my lesbian partner for 2 1/2 wonderful years. She's such an inspiration for me to be a healthier person- she is much more active than I am, and naturally gravitates to healthier foods as well. She's been so supportive of me.

Central Florida dyke here
 

It still feels odd for me to say I'm in Florida even after 6 years. I am from northern California and 20 years in Montana, a dyed-in-the-wool inveterate wetserner.

:goodvibes to all the other queer folkx out there! I found three fat chicks yesterday and woke up this morning convinced I could find a LGBT thread. I was right!

Florida values seems to be so much more anti-everything than where I've lived before - I've spent these years determinedly being myself in the face of those who glare, ignore and argue.

One thing I find among queer gals here in rural Florida is some sort of trend for non-skinny, non-hip queer women to be fat in an almost obligatory or stubbornly dumpy and unappealing way. What gives with that? I aim to be fitter, healthier, and less body-muffled!

Calmontflor....glad you found your way to the LGBT thread, and welcome!!

i am in a very similar situation. i've been in NC for about....umm....almost 10 years, and i still feel like an iowan! oh well, i love my new state, but miss the old one. if florida is anything like north caroliina, i can say the south takes a little getting used to! and all respect to southerners, i don't mean that in a bad way!

to everyone else--is anyone here doing a low carb diet? i have been trying for quite some time, i can stick to my eating plan very well, but fall off the wagon so frequently! can't say that i've lost anything since i begun, which was back in august, i believe. to tell the truth, i probably have gained weight.

just curious. this whole site is great, but it always helps to hear from someone who's on more common ground.

thanks and wishes that everyone enjoys the up-coming holidays!!
~starry

I was so thrilled to see this thread! I'm very new to this place...

Anyways..I'm a lesbian from Alabama. If that sounds unfortunate to you, it is :dizzy:

I'm reviving this thread after it's long winter nap.

I am a 23 year old lesbian from Southern California, who just moved to Southern Florida!

I started losing weight while I was in college, but somewhere between mid-terms and final I stopped working on my weight loss. Now that I have graduated, and found myself a good job, there is no better time to start working on losing weight again!

Heyoooo. Homos in the house.

I don't know if I should thank my girlfriend for cooking well enough that I enjoy her healthy foods now I'm dieting, or if I should hate her for cooking well enough that I gained 20 pounds in the 2 years we've been living in the same house.

I think I've arrived late to the LGBTQ party in more ways than one, but I'm reviving this thread anyways. In my mid-20s, I'm only now really putting an identity to what I've felt but avoided examining for a few years-- namely that I'm queer/bisexual. I'm not out to anyone except my best friends (two married queer women) and I've never dated or really done anything with a woman. I've been single for 2 years, and I'm trying to figure out how/if I start actively searching for women.This stresses me out, and stress causes me to eat microwave personal pizza and stay up until 2 am, which is not fantastic for my diet.

Anyways, it's really awesome to see so many great folks here. Hope everyone's making progress toward their goals!

Welcome to all! :carrot:

I identify as bi :) in another world, I'd consider myself possibly polyamorous as well, but of course you never know until you truly try. My wonderful boyfriend of 6 years has seen a number of girlfriends come and go, and as at peace as he is with the whole thing, I just don't see us ever becoming seriously involved with anyone else. And I wouldn't give him up for anything! (Even if it means I get some backlash from both LGBT and Straight folk claiming I'm straight and should just stop pretending.....ugh!)

I was really happy to see this here. I'm a 27 year old from Missouri. I identify as bisexual, but I'm mostly interested in dating women. Single right now.

I joined the site hoping to get support maintaining healthy dieting practices. I've struggled with anorexia in the past. Right now I'm at 145, aiming for around 110-115.

Good luck to everyone else!

Keeping the thread going...

I'm a lesbian and have been with my partner for almost ten years. My weight has fluctuated those ten years, not on the account of my partner, but mostly because of graduate school and work! Life's stress is unrelenting sometimes. Trying to "get right" so we can easily have many more years together. Anyways, I was glad to see this thread here. :)

I have just discovered the forum. I wasn't expecting to see a LGBTT post, but seeing it now, I'm flattered! I am bi, that's why I wished to have a say under this thread.

Yeah... Thank you for the thread!

Woo Hoo! Queer girl here. I am 27, from New York originally. I have lived in Berlin, Germany for almost 4 years now, and have been with my wonderful partner for 3 years. I am trying to lose weight and get stronger so that I can just feel better. I feel uncomfortable in my body. I really feel my weight now that I'm getting older. I was a fat kid and raised vegetarian but ate really unhealthy and binged mostly. I was addicted to fries, fried rice and pizza. I lost a bunch of weight around the age of 17-20. I use to weigh 300lbs age 17 at my highest and 189 at my lowest around the age of 21. I have had a somewhat steady weight all these years at around 205 and eat really good healthy food but my metabolism is slow, and I tend to graze the day along into the night but I never binge. I recently started gaining weight again slowly and decided I wanted to continue to lose, and this time workout and train my muscles. I'm really into going to the gym now. I love it. My partner has been super supportive and even goes to the gym with me sometimes. She is athletic, and runs/workouts often so I'm really lucky.