Hi back Den,
Squeeky girl...I'm glad that you like reading my sordid tale! So sorry that you are feeling sad...Den is right...a loving fling. I've been there and it does hurt. The boy is very special to you.

Do you know why he wants to be "just friends"? Not that you have to tell us everything. I was just wondering if there has been good communication. I hate when things like this don't work out. You are such a sweety and he seems to be too it just seems like it should work. Sorry if I'm making you feel worse honey!

Just give me his telephone number and I'll talk some sense into the boy.

If you go and fall in love with someone else the boy will pine after you for the rest of his life...in fact, that is my prediction. you'll fall in love and be swept off of your feet...you'll get married and remain friends with the boy. Everytime he sees your fabulous love-filled passionate life he'll rue the day he let you slip away.

And of course you will live happily ever after.

Feel better soon and if you do soak in the tub, you can cry a little, but then put some decadent bubbles in there or some yummy bath oil and buy some exfoliating scrub and massage it into your feet and elbows and light some delicious candles and place them around the tub and play some beautiful music...and exfoliate. Exfoliating always makes me feel sexy and fresh and new...especially when I do it in candle light with my favorite reggae cd playing...recently I'm enjoying Shaggy's Lover Lover CD. Especially the song Oh Carolina... and if you hate to exercise just play that CD and dance around your house. (I did that today but don't tell anyone)

Love to you Squeaker!
Soozie

Oh dear, Squeak... I said the wrong thing (what else is new?). :(
Okay, no exercise for Squeak. Listen to Dentrassi and Soozie. Look after your inner self.
And even though you can't see us, you are surrounded by our love. You are very special to us, Squeak.
:grouphug:

Hello Ladies, Man I forgot how much you guys post & how I have to check in often to keep up! :)

Squeek Hang in there! Indulge yourself, feel sad, have one of those gut wrenching, sobbing cries, then shake it off & feel better! I know that it does not help now, but in the long run, if he can not give you his entire heart & love you like a passionate lover, you should give yourself the distance to find that! You deserve that. It will be hard to move on & look for that as long as he is there. Trust me been there! Nearly left my husband at the alter when my best friend came down to hug me & wish me well. I knew that he would never love me in a passionate way, but I did know that he would be safe & love me. After being married now I realize that we would have ended up very unhappy together. We are great as friends, but not enough there to build a life on...still had he mentioned it at all, I would have left that day, even though I did/do love my husband very much, it was just that Mike & I had been through everything together & he just had some special place in my heart. He still does! Even though we are both married with children, he still seems to know when to call & when I need him. It took us a while to get her, but it is a nice place to be! It will get better!

OK now for the exercise...LOL! I too hated it before! But I started slowly & now do feel better when I am done. I actually miss the little aches after a work out! Those were proof to me that I would be fit, skinny & healthy someday! I really do miss it when I skip a day. It is just half an hour out of my day, I can certainly afford that!

My kids are a bit on the freaky side when it comes to food too! LOL! My DS prefers Salad to anything else, they both hate pudding & think Yogurt is much better. DD thinks that Calamari & Muscles should be on our menu weekly! LOL. OK they don't slimy things, but not normal kid stuff either! They want me to make Spinach Quiche for Christmas dinner!

Well everyone just came into the office so I better pretend to work! LOL!

Chris
I love your quote,"Happiness is a thing to be practiced, like the violin." Hope you are feeling much better and your life is taking on some form of normal living after all the chaos you have been through.
Squeaker,
I wish I could just give you a big ol hug. It will get better, I know right now it does not seem like it, but it will. Take care of you!
Virginia

Just a quick note from work -
Thank you so much for all the hugs and thoughts!!!

I spent an hour and a half on the phone with him last night. We are still trying to work things out.

I will be back when I have more time to explain.

I hope you all have a wonderful day!

:mouse:squeak

Awww...squeak...I hope things work out for you, whatever is best for you! Please take care of yourself, Soozie gives good advice, doesn't she? make sure she doesn't send you a bill! :lol: just kidding, sooz!

It's good to see your chatty posts again, Christina! You've sure been through a lot...but you've come through it and I know you are a stronger person for that...hugs and prayers to you!

Geez, with Christmas fast upon us, I can't keep up here! Though not for lack of trying. There are so many threads going, I try to read them all and then don't know which one to respond to and then an hour has passed and I still have dishes/laundry/shopping (pick one) to do...and THEN I have guilt on top of that for not doing any...WHEW! ...not to mention renewing my weight loss efforts...I am determined to NOT pack on 10 holiday pounds this year. I have started again...(yet again) I KNOW I can do this!

So...happy holidays to all... don't stress out this holiday season. Do what you can, and forget the rest. Martha Stewart is busy trying to stay out of jail, so she will NOT be critiquing (sp?) our decorations, menus, holiday activities, etc. Relax and enjoy the season!

:wave:

Thanks for YOUR advice Kat love...you're pretty good yourself...and about that bill...geez...I'd already mailed it...oops...do you think that is tacky?
Okay just disregard that bill Squeak!
sounds like you're hanging in there....which is good...and you know we all
care about you and are rooting for you out here in virtual friendland!
love Soozie who is now officially late for work...see my comments in the other thread about how that is your fault, no not Squeak's fault afterall she's going through enough...just the rest of you.

Ellis-I think exercise was a good idea!! I just don't want Squeaky beating up on herself if she has been a bit off program (OR a lot off!) lately. You can only handle so much at a time as we both know!!! (HEY!! I am still in my nightgown, but I HAVE called and made appointments, and had a long talk with my Mom about 12 year old's school situation! I may be depressed, but I'll be DAMNED if I'm gonna let that stop me from taking care of my kids!!)

I know... I know.... Little Squeak has forgiven me. ;)

Hey Den... I think you're doing great! And you've got the BEST family! :yes:

Squeak~ sorry to hear about you and the boy.

I agree with Soozie. Sometimes things aren't meant to be no matter how bad we want them.

You are a beautiful, intelligent and talented woman...remember that! You will meet someone when you least expect it and they will treat you like the goddess you are, have faith sweetie! :grouphug:

Question for our noble moderator
 

Mauvais,
I know that I needed to resubscribe to threads after we changed servers but...do we have to resubscribe at certain intervals anyway?
We changed servers at least twice since I've been posting here and maybe that is why but it seems like periodically I stop getting notified of new postings and have to go in and subscribe to threads again...do you know the answer or should I ask Suzanne 3fc? Thanks, Soozie
now on to the hunt for the BOOBiE discussions for Velvet.

ok first of all - Thank you so much!! all of you. You girls are incredable and so supportive. You make me want to cry in the warm and fuzzy kind of way. And you should all probably send me a bill with all of the therapy/advice I have gotten. :lol:

But this is a quick post since I am exhausted. I haven't been home much in the last 2 days, which is good in some ways. Too busy to over think things. But I have thought some after talking to him Monday night. I told him I needed to talk to him some more soon which he was really happy about. I also told him that it is possible that I will try to drop off the face of the earth and if he didn't want that he will have to make an effort. He promised to call me at least once a week.

And sorry Soozie, but communication was a big part of the problem. We ended up with a very intense, very involved relationship with absolutely no ground rules. Which wasn't good, but it hadn't caused a problem, because it had been monogamous. Until about 3 weeks ago when he did something that ended up making me upset. Then I didn't really talk to him for 2 weeks, and I got more upset. He knew something was wrong but didn't push it, and accepted my answer of "I'm fine"
And we are just friends, in part because I can't mentally or emotionally handle the half assed fling right now.

We would have been together for a year this weekend.

But now I need sleep

:grouphug: Hugs to you all!!!!
:mouse:

Soozie-I think you will have to subscribe again since the server change. Suzanne would probably have more answers for that.

Squeak- I hope that you got some rest and are feeling better soon :)

Oh crap, Squeaker. :mad: I'm really sorry.
love and hugs... :df:

It's ok Ellis. I was upset mostly because it was completely out of the blue. It was only a one time thing that he did. And it was some one he had just met. And alcohol was involved. (And my stupid California friend's influence - though she is not the other girl, just other girl's friend) I think if I had some warning, we would have talked and I wouldn't be as upset. Plus if I would have told him what was wrong and got it out of my system, rather then letting it eat away for 2 weeks I would have been better.

He has apologized about 100 times.

We just have a lot more to sort out. Now that we have started talking I feel a little better. I told him I didn't think it was a good idea to fool around any more right now, he agreed. Definately not until we are completely ok again, if even then.


I got a lot of sleep last night and that felt wonderful. I plan on going to bed early tonight to, birthday or not.