One week today I started Nutrisystem. I'm a tiny bit disappointed because my weight jumped up a pound so I've only lost 1.5# which I often do on my own. But at least it went in the right direction and I did get to see 163 once, so that makes my lower number lower than it was before. They set my calorie limit at 1500 and I guess I may need to stay lower than that esp since I haven't been exercising very much for more than two months until recently. Today I walked about a 1/2 mile, rode the stationary bike 15 min at 10, and did three weight machines for 3 sets of 10 reps. So I've actually upped my exercise in that I'm doing more sets. Hopefully that will help me lose more in time, but it is only 3x week, sometimes less. I need to do more at home. I have been below 1500 every day but I had 3 days in the high 1400s. I used to lose on that, but maybe no more.
Carol/Glynne - I think that's a great idea Carol had about asking your dh for some money to spend on the food/snacks you crave sometimes, and I would hate to have to account for every penny I spend on food, so I feel you there.
Do you each get an allowance for your own personal spending of things other than food? If so perhaps you could buy it from that or get it increased a bit to account for these type food purchases. I think everyone needs some money to spend without having to account for it.
I think though that in regard to your feelings about the discussion, that it is not just a matter of facing the truth, I think it hurts that it seems he does not respect what you are sharing with him. I know from my own experience that it is hard to admit we can't control our eating and then to not have the other person acknowledge our feelings with empathy hurts. He may be right in what he is saying but that is still implying that you can easily be different. You CAN change, we all can, but it IS difficult.
I also agree with Carol that speaking in a positive way is important to success...words go some place...often we become what we say we are. I struggle with this myself, so know how hard it is to stop it, but learning to speak more positively about ourselves and our goals is important. Glynne - my goal is similar, in addition to losing weight, I want to be able to eat in moderation most days and if I eat a bit more at times, get right back to moderate eating. That would make me feel normal.

And if I am going to mess up I too prefer single size mess-ups.

and my dh doesn't understand that either but recently he's been better about only bringing home small amounts. What I try to say to myself is I may not be where I want to be yet, but I will take the steps I can to change and one day will be in control of my eating (or whatever I'm dealing with).
Gayle, I personally am leery about antidepressants. I mean are you going to take it the rest of your life? If not it will only help you lose weight and then what? I had a bad experience with one but it was during pregnancy when no doctor should have prescribed it anyway. I became light-headed and refused to take another one and ended up I only gained 25# with that pregnancy just like all my others. That doctor was just concerned I was gaining too fast but it all worked out. I also took at OTC one time that controlled my eating but made me jittery. That scared me.
If you want something to suppress your appetite, try upping your fiber. You should be getting quite a bit with the beans you eat and some veggies, but you can also add powdered fiber...there is a kind that is blends in clear with anything..I put it in my mochas and when I eat cereal...anything that has a little liquid to it. There is not really any taste to it. Just be sure it says that it blends in clear and does not thicken on the label as the old kind are nasty. Don't take too large amount at first, build up gradually and drink LOTS of water. Once I took 2 Fibercon and it made my tummy bloat up huge and I was miserable for hours, but the powered doesn't do that at least not to me. I only use 2 t. at a time. I take it for my colon but taking it with water before before a meal can help to prevent overeating to some extent. You maybe able to increase to a tablespoon with lots of water. I've seen Trulicity ads on TV. They all have possible side affects but it might help you too.
I got two more gifts yesterday...my giving bag is getting full and I will have to start wrapping soon, but waiting for our tree. We haven't had to inclination to set it up yet. If it weren't for the kids we probably wouldn't bother.
Tonight I think I'm going to eat a flex meal which means my own cooking. It will be tri-tip steak (I will eat only a little) and veggies and rice (small amt). And maybe a serv of fruit for dessert.