I hate it when strangers call me "honey". I mean, I really hate it. I am short and good natured and that makes people want to call me "honey". Or "Hun". Hate that, too. One time I even reprimanded some young gal for callling me "honey". Spiny, you do not ever have to address someone as "honey" in the name of being nice. You have my permission. :lol: You didn't know that you would hit on one of my very favorite pet-peeves, did you?

is a very, very nice mantra for life.

I happen to like being called by my first name. I don't mind being called ma'am, or like southerners do, "miss" or "Miss Gail". In my job, lots of the sailors who call for info. call me Miss Gail. It sounds respectful, yet friendly.

There are people in the world who always take advantage of someone trying to be nice. They will talk for hours, never let you talk, ask to borrow money, never listen to anything you say and never reciprocate your kindness in any way. Those are the ones that wear you out. Avoid them. They usually have a few loose screws. You are not their mental health provider.

I sure know a lot for a short, good natured person, don't I. :lol:

Miss Gail,
I hate being called Honey, too. I mean, I don't even like honey, the food. Now if I were to call someone a term of endearment based on an ingestible thing that I liked, I'd be calling people things like Merlot, Cabernet, Chardonnay, Jameson's, Havarti, Brie, and Marinara.

:lol: :lol: Stilton? Roquefort?

Hon, that's how we talk in the South. Ain't nothin' meant by it. ;)

Oh, my darling clementine! Yummmm...

Jay

Sounds like I may have opened up a can of worms here Precious.

OK Ladies...and I swear this is a serious question!

As most of you know I am 53 and quite good looking....hahahahaha

OK back to serious...I know a lot of women, because of the church members I know. Now then, at my age I may not always recall their names right off the bat. Many times I just call them "dear".....as in Good morning dear...does this offend anyone? I also call younger women that I don't know by name dear....as in Thank you dear...to a waitress, etc.

I have never had anyone object to my face....but...you just never know for sure.

I'm enjoying the "kind" banter! I am one of those people that always tries to be nice to everyone. And I've actually heard myself calling people "dear". I cringe when it slips out of my mouth. I'm used to "honey" Mom lives in TN, after all :lol: Being in a customer service job - I think I "wear" a personality like a piece of clothing. I put it on before I go to work and I take it off when I come home.

The weather is unseasonably warm here - fog and 40's all day - and a LOT of rain. It melted all of our snow. Now everything is brown and yucky and wet. UGH!

I tried Leslie's Shortcuts Upper Body Routine today. A simple dumbell routine that went by pretty fast. I did pilates this morning and I felt too sore to do a full weight machine routine. And after working all day and grocery shopping, I was too pooped to walk with her.

Spiny - hope those hind legs are doing better today!

Jay - glad you got to use your fireplace. They are so cozy - I love them!

Hi to everyone else:) Hope you had a great day!

It might just depend on what kind of mood I am in whether I object to anything or not. :lol:The following is NOT logical, so just take it for what it is worth....In my opinion you are, by definition, in an intimate relationship with people with whom you attend church. Therefore, it is ok to call the ladies "dear". I don't know what you should call waitresses or other folks with whom you have business. More not logical stuff: it doesn't irritate me nearly as much when a man calls me "honey" as it does when another woman does. I guess I think women should know better than to call each other "honey". Men are men. :lol:

Hey! I see that another interesting topic has come up! :D And we have Gary to thank... ;)

I don't like it when men I don't know call me dear. If I don't know you, I am not your "dear"! It seems patronizing to me. But it doesn't bother me if women I don't know call me dear. I guess it's just my unconscious perception of a difference in society's "power balance," for lack of a better term.

How are all you honeys and dears and sweetie pies doing today? I had to go to a work-related meeting yesterday afternoon where I managed to avoid the cookies. It was no small feat for me, and I'm glad I did.

My current favorite reminder phrase is, "Only kind words come out of my mouth." :D

Jay

Gary, if I went to your church and you called me Dear, it wouldn't bother me. However I would also make sure I did something weirdly memorable so that you couldn't help but remember my name!

Now I feel like I'm listening to Bonnie Raitt here. I like her, but I wish she wouldn't put so many "darlins" and "babies" in her songs. That would be baby pronounced "bay-bay." I really don't want anyone to call me baby or bay-bay just because they are singing the blues.
I remember being a little kid and you know when you are about 7 or 8 or so the biggest insult anyone could give you would be to call you a baby, and I couldn't figure out why all those songs on the radio had people calling people baby. "Oh where oh where can my baby be, the Lord took her away from me....." AARGH.

Definitely not a Buddhist song... :lol:

Jay

Help me here...What am I thinking about? Some song by maybe Mickey and Sylvia that has "bay bay" in it??? I kind of like the song, but I remember the "bay bay" very clearly.

Is it the one that goes Baby... my sweet baby... you're the one??

Here's an interesting video:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=LDEqWCG7NTk

Jay

I can't look at U Tube at work because it is banned. I can't look at it at home because of my cranky dial-up.

Sorry Gail--but do you recognized the song? It must be. Baaay bay... Oooooo Baaay bay... my sweet baaay bay... you're the one. (guitar here)

I've been working all day long and I'm tired. I'm going to drag my sorry self down to the exercise center and ride the bike.

Jay

Maybe I'll just stick with PUNKIN.

Ok PrunePitPoopsiePants.

Speaking of work related meetings my favorite mantra for that situation is, "Never argue with the peasants." Keeps me from saying anything I might regret.

LOL - I LOVE this thread. You all help me put work into perspective!
On an unrelated note - NSV tonight. My DH and I were attending a meeting at church. I was across the room. For a brief period of time, he scanned the room and couldn't find me. From behind, he did not recognize his wife. Absolutely made my day/week/heck -probably YEAR!

Oh, that is funny!
Maybe you should wear pants or a skirt with your name printed across the hips for a while till he gets used to the new you. :D

Ok what is NSV?? Maybe everyone at church should wear a name tag for a month and you can all get to know each others names.

Ok what is NSV?? Maybe everyone at church should wear a name tag for a month and you can all get to know each others names.

Oops! double post, hijude. You can delete one of them--use the buttons in the lower left corner on one of your messages. Click Edit, then in the next window click Delete.

NSV = Non Scale Victory.

"PrunePitPoopsiePants"??? :rofl:

I went to the exercise center and did the bike and did the stair climber, so THERE. Even though I didn't want to.

And today is another day! :yes:

Jay

CountingDown, that is just too funny, but cool, too!

I remember that song, Baay-Bay.
Wow, Gail, that's just sad that they ban you from You Tube at work. That's way worse than the much-discussed Cupcake ban in schools, IMO. I mean we are responsible adults. I am too old and responsible to be treated like a delinquent child who didn't do their homework or something. Whew!

:wave:

Another quick fly-by from this drastically over-worked retired person. Hopefully it will soon be over and I can get back to the important stuff -- chatting with my 3FC pals, for example.

In the meantime -- how about just saying 'please' and 'thankyou' and 'smiling in all the appropriate places' and you shouldn't need to add "dear" or "honey" or "poopsie-pants" at all. :lol3:

Keep fighting the good fight everybody -- see you again soon -- :carrot:

Hey JUDE I mean those "senior" moments sometimes when you can't remember a person's name even though you know you have known them for 25 years!!

"Dear" always seems to work for me....but then cute guys can get away with it....hahahahahahahaha....yeah right! ;)

:chin:

Jay

Hi Sucroseplums,
You all will never believe what I just did. Well, maybe you just might. At the fitness center they are having a Biggest Loser Challenge. It's expensive. It costs almost $400 to enter. For this you get a bunch of inspirational and instructional emails, a bunch of body fat measurements and 8 personal training sessions, one a week for the 8 weeks of the challenge. There are four winners at the end of the challenge, because the categories are divided into male and female, under 40 and over 40. The winner in each category wins $200. So you don't even get your entry money back. But what the ****. I just got a check in the mail for $500 that I lent someone 9 years ago that I didn't expect to ever see. And I want to do this because I want to do any thing that will make me motivated to lose this darn fat. Oh - the winners are determined by who loses the most body fat, not weight. I have a lot of fat to lose. Challenge begins Jan. 29. That should give me time to get these hind legs to stop screaming at me.

Jo - wow - way to go with entering the BL contest! I entered the one here on 3FC last time (came in 2nd on my team) and so I entered again this time. I agree, that for some people (me) having those types of challenges is an extra motivator to stay OP. I actually exercised more because I knew that I didn't want to let down my team. I'm betting your hind legs will be in fine form by the end of Jan.

Linda - I'm watching you and your busy schedule. You are a mentor for me when I retire (at least 5 years, unfortunately). You definitely don't sit around and knit all day :lol:

Gail - I am blocked from YouTube AND 3FC at work (as well as a host of other sites) Both have "sexual content" that we don't want the kiddies to see - and we have one filter - for all computers on the network.

Jay - I applaud your tenacity with working out. I can't seem to stay focused on the Gazelle, treadmill, etc. Even my weight lifting day was shorter than is should have been. I'm thankful that I have so many DVDs (and I ordered 2 more this week). They work for me. I do what I am told, when I am told to do it, and stop when it is over. Pre-measured, pre-planned, canned, and relatively foolproof. Without them - ugh - I don't want to think about it! More "Sizzlin' Salsa" aerobic dance today. I ALMOST made up for only doing a 20 min. weight session.

Hope you all had a great day :D

Well . . . I wish I could find a little more time for knitting, sometimes. :lol:

But just look at this, I got to stop in here at 3FC two days in a row. :yay: Not that I hven't got pension calcs to do, but at least things are starting to slow down a little. I put in a second load of laundry and even spent an hour outside in the mild morning, scraping at the last few lumps of ice on my driveway (call it exercise). My house faces north and right up near the garage the sun never gets at the driveway so it takes a long, long time to clear off. We are supposed to have another relatively mild day today but they are saying freezing rain for tomorrow so I guess Winter is coming back after all. Hey . . . at least I'm starting over again from clean bald ahsphalt. ;)

Guess I'd better get back to the mathematical stuff again . . . have a great moving and shaking day, gang . . . see you soon . . . :carrot:

Are you all moving and shaking as Linda suggests? ;) I'm not... I've gone and caught another cold. Crap.

Snurf...

Wow, Spiny, a challenge... well... it should be an adventure for you! And hey, you might win! and lose fat! and collect $200! :cb: :cb:

I think I'll go back to bed now...

Jay

Jay, you stop that. (getting sick, that is!)

I moved and shook yesterday (sounds like one of those frenzy-inducing churches with the snake handlers - hey, is there an exercise DVD for that???) and have been planning my hypothetical exercise schedule for the BL challenge. This is going to be a real good time for me to do this because 1) that $500 check 2) this is the first time that I can remember that the new year feels like a new year. I don't know why. 3) the bar that I usually go to after work is closing this Saturday! Can you believe that? Yes there are other bars, but they are not as enticing, as they are not part of my usual routine. Yes, they serve beer and wine at the gym but it's safe to say I'd only have one light beer there after an evening workout, and I'll probably be working out mostly in the morning. So I'm taking these two weeks to get in a new routine, and start the challenge with non-sore muscles.
Counting - I'll be on the BL here on 3fc too. Hope we're on the same team!

Linda, we are supposed to get snow tonight (actually under a winter storm warning tonight) after losing virtually all of ours this week. It is really windy and feels cold after the mild weather :(

I'm entering a busy season at work as well. I've had to put in an extra couple hours a day just to stay afloat. Sometimes I wish I wasn't salaried :tired:

Jo - I hope we get on the same team too! I'm hoping that I can get my weight loss back in gear. I would love to get these last lbs. off by summer. I think summer would be a grand time to try maintenance. It is so easy to be active in the summer :)

Jay - I hope you are feeling better soon!

I'm babying myself with a whirlpool bath tonight. DH has to work late and I pulled a hamstring yesterday. After icing it yesterday, I'm thinking a nice bath is in order http://i106.photobucket.com/albums/m...miley_bath.gif

Sounds like everyone but Spiny is sort of limping into the New Year. I'm trying to get back on track but with all of the schedule disruptions since November it is sooo hard to get back into a routine of shopping and meal planning and counting calories and all the effort it takes to live a healthy let alone reducing lifestyle.

My new pedometer that I bought through the 3FC link to Amazon is just the best! I now know that during my regular day I walk 2.5-3 miles. I don't really understand if this helps in weight loss because it is in fits and starts not in one long walk. I am hoping though that measuring my distance daily will help me to add more steps each day. At this point this effort certainly will not hurt:?:

I think it's better to walk for at least 15 minutes, but any is better than none!

Sniffle. Cough. :(

Jay

Bra Story
 

I don't know what got into me. I must have had a couple of glasses of wine too many, when I got on the internet and ordered not one but two bras. I mean real bras, the kind with cups in them. I've always said I need a bra like I need a jock strap. I can count on the toes of one foot the number of times in my life that I have worn a bra. But, I am starting to exercise now, and if I go to a class where I get sweaty, I don't want to look like a bad entry in a wet T-shirt contest.
I do have some of those sports items of clothing that are basically tight-fitting stretchy tank top things that are only called sports "bras" because they don't go all the way down to the waist. But they don't have real cups in them. I should really stick with those to wear under my T-shirts.

I ordered the real bras because of too much wine and because I measured myself and according to the formula I would wear a size 40 AA. This is not an easy find. I think that the manufacturers assume that if one is big around in circumference they are also big in cup size so most size 40 bras are not available in cups less than B or C. So when I found a place that sold a size 40 A (not AA) I jumped on it like it was a rare find, and ordered 2.
They arrived yesterday.
Wow. What the **** am I supposed to put in those cups. they looks like two soup bowls.
I put on one of the bras. Here are my comments.
1. Not only do the manufacturers assume that a large chest circumference means bigger cups, but they also assume this means bigger breast height and width. These cups, even if flattened out, would look if not like soup bowls, at least like small dinner plates.
2. The band circumference is fine. I think I need to detach the cups, buy a size 34 AA bra, and attach those cups to the size 40 band.
3. How do you ladies stand to wear these things??? The bra is constructed so that the seams and tag are on the inside, next to the skin, even though no one is going to see this garment. Seams and tag next to the skin = itching. I want to scratch myself constantly all around the bra area. I am considering wearing it inside out. I did cut off the tag but the tag residue still itches because I can't get rid of it completely without ruining one of the itchy seams.
4. This is quite the harness. Where's the snow and the sled?

jo

Well, there are companies that make bras specifically for sports--if that's not where you got yours, then you might want to look at some of those. Places like Title 9...

Sports bras are made so that they don't chafe, but any bra will feel tight, and one does feel itchy here and there, especially with a new one, until one gets used to it. Washing them before wearing sometimes helps. Don't dry them in the dryer! Ever!

I have worn a bra all my life, even during the years when everyone was going bra-less as some kind of statement, because I am large enough that I do not feel comfortable without one. And running and strenuous sports are just not possible for me without one! So I can't tell you how I do it except that I'm used to it.

Lesson: Don't drink and buy bras? :lol:

Jay

Wow! thanks, Jay. I never heard of Title Nine before and just looked it up. I noticed that their bras only start with A, not AA, but the pictures look like they might work.
So now my question is, if the sports bras don't chafe and itch as much, why would anyone choose to wear a non-sports bra, for anything?

:wave:

Still crazy busy but I think it's almost over . . . can't think of much in the way of weird questions that I haven't already been asked about ten times.

You can always rip off the tags, SPINY and some of us who have the sort of opposite problem to you find that sport bras don't provide enough support for those fancier occasions.

Gee . . . why can't we all be perfect and/or at least fit the "average" description a little better . . . :lol3: