I can definitely relate to your frustration. As you know, we can't lose weight in the order that we'd like. In order for me to be happy with my lower body, I have to be very thin in my upper body and even then, it's disproportionate to the the point that I can never find a great fitting pair of jeans no matter how thin I get because the waist is always too big. I'm now starting to tell myself good things about my body. Maybe you can too? I look in the mirror and focus on what I do like, rather on what I don't and I actually (mentally) complement myself. I'll say something like, "That's a really small waist you got there," or "I can see my cheekbones and collar bones now." Have you tried doing this?
We really are our own worst critics so please keep that in mind.
I saw someone post a link here several times and it had photos of different women of different weights and what that looks like and it was so interesting! Have you seen that sight?
Ok, I think this is the sight I was thinking of:
http://www.mybodygallery.com/