lol omg! this is my life as well. literally read the title and laughed with tears in my eyes!!! my fiance is the same way! He was for a very long time! I have been on (this) life changing journey for a year straight now. ups and downs. but my fiance seemed to be my biggest detourent as well.
in the first 6-8months he would come to me with like sad broken face saying "do you want a piece" like the poor puppy thats starving herself and suffering. lol trust me im not starving im just not eating that stuff. and of course i would cave but its like he felt so bad i couldnt have it. he would make me feel deprived. lol he is of normal weight and doesnt excercize and can literally eat the world and stay the same. so he snacks alot and by snacks i mean 6 med-large meals a day. lol lucky him but in the beginning he felt so bad for me. sh*** i did to when i watched him.
There are certain things we have worked out over the last year. the biggest one is midnight snacking. he midnight snacks 2 or 3 times a night. so now he does it in the kitchen away from me. we only see eachother on the weekends so i would sit with him while he snacks and inevitably cheat. >>>>> now he goes to the kitchen i stay watching TV or sitting outside on the back porch or just keep doing as I am. I ignore that he is eating. He will get up and still offer i say no thank you and thats it. its done.
or when he wants to go get fast food. arrgh lol he always wants it late at night and doesnt want to go all alone. lol and then feels bad i cant have any. ive finally got it in his head, "I can have as much as i want!!! I am choosing not to! and no I wont go with you!">>>>> we are still working on this one. cuz now he brings home two burgers and says have a couple bites please its ok its just a couple bites. lol THIS Boy! lol but he is getting better. i know its out of love to.
but theres other things we gotta work out and as long as you explain and stick to it firmly. To the best of your ability over time you will stick with it more. The more my fiance sees i am serious the more he understands.
Sometimes he doesnt even realize he is doing things like this. I will tell your doing it again.. I lvoe you I know you love me and want to me to be good. I am thank you. That Big Carl will not make me safe haha.
So i think its just a habbit process. I spent the first 3 1/2 yrs of our relationship scrafing alongside him. Then suddenly Bam! I eat within a calorie range and am breaking my habits. I control myself not him. So his habits will take a while to change to.
i think i covered all i could think of lol what a ramble. let me know if i can help in any other way! Goodluck!