So last night my friend had her 30th birthday party at a club and reserved a VIP section. She was concerned that I wouldn't be able to go because I am dealing with foot issues (supposed to be wearing 2 walking boots but waiting for a new one to come in). So I wore my braces and tennis shoes with a really cute shirt and some dark jeans. Well, she and all of her closer friends were wearing mini skirts, high heels, and dresses (they are all normal weight/skinny).
I had a great time, had a few drinks, and even danced for a couple of hours (wasn't feeling any pain lol). I really enjoyed myself, then about 20 minutes before I left I was kissing my boyfriend and my friend pinched my butt playing around. So I started talking to her and she out of the blue said "I think you're really cute! I know you want to lose weight but I think you're really cute, and it is all here she made a hand gesture*to face* and your personality."
Which I know she meant well but after that I was so self conscious and it really hurt my feelings. It made me think -So my body can't be cute just because I am bigger? I mean I know I am not perfect but I didn't think that I looked bad or not cute-including my body. Or maybe not just cute, but beautiful or sexy!
*Sigh* those types of comments really make me feel like I am different from "everyone" else (i.e. people smaller than me). I know she was drunk and didn't mean to hurt my feelings but she did. I guess for someone who has NEVER been fat much less have much fat on their body they just don't get how that kind of comment can be perceived. I just want to feel normal, like I fit in regardless
It was pretty embarrassing , too.