SUM...how did u pass on cake? I don't think I'd ever be able to do that...not unless the cake was made of vegetables!

Mrstrying...I'm ready for a tattoo....something small and somewhere no one can see it for sure....

Wel I had my binge last night.......so ashamed. I was bored and anxious..had ice cream , chocolate malt balls and bread.......ent to bed feeling guilty and depressed. Have to make up for it today....hitting the gym and eating healthier...may just have shakes today.....

Kind of icky out today.....am going to take out some Christmas stuff and bring flowers to a friend....she had to put her cat down today......she had him for 17 and a half years.....thats like being 90 years old!

Onward and upward.......going to manhattan tomorrow....so excited! Love the city but something about it during the holidays makes it magical....I'm a born and raised city girl and need to get out of the burbs every so often....hoping all the walking will burn calories.....:dizzy:

I am soo jealous Zumba. I love NYC. My work used to take me there 2 times per year, but it has been nearly 18 months since my last visit. HAVE FUUUN!!

I had two weigh-ins at 141.4 this week, and then today it was up a bit to 142.8, but that’s because yesterday I ate a bit more than usual, and I went out to a restaurant and had fries and two glasses of wine!

Okay, ladies, an insecurity glitch! I have a friend who MAY come visit me next weekend. I was really hoping that I wouldn't see this friend until after I lost the weight. She was VERY successful in losing about 15 pounds recently, and she was already at about my goal weight. She's only 5' and WAS about 112 pounds. Now she's about 99. I have to admit to feeling a little self-conscious. I don't want to feel like a huge person around her when in the past-past, we were not so far apart in size (just me being about 2 1/2 inches taller with equivalent weight added). Now I'm going to feel chunky and BIG next to tiny her. Do you guys ever feel that weird comparison self-consciousness thing around smaller friends? I know it's silly and I'm going to very much TRY to put it out of my mind if she ends up coming to visit!


MrsTryingAgain – I’m sorry your paperwork continues to be frustrating. –shakes head- And you will get there with the weight, day by day! I’m a natural tiny gal, but I’ve let the weight pile on so I can’t wait to see my tiny self again at some point, haha.

Lizard – doctors tell you you’re fat? Ugh, that doesn’t sound very encouraging at all! Ironically, even though I AM overweight for my height, I’ve never had a doctor tell me I was overweight or needed to lose weight. It’s weird. Maybe I’m not alarmingly overweight to them? I have no idea. I’m so glad that you feel better though! Thank you for the instructions on uploading pictures! I need to attempt that at some point. I’ve just not always had good luck uploading pictures to forums before. I don’t have a photobucket account, but I have a shutterfly account. I wonder if that would work…

Zumba – go you on the whoosh! That’s such a great feeling, isn’t it? And yeah, all my fat settles on my hips and thighs. From the waist up, I look like I’m about 120 pounds! ;D

NEmom- oh gosh, buffets are deadly! For me, my weakness is Chinese buffets! I can’t stay away from those little fried doughnut-like desserts!

Sum38 – wow, congrats to your 18-year-old daughter! My ex-husband lived out of the country, but it really was too much for us since we did not have frequent visits. In the end, our marriage ended since there was no end in sight to the separation (and there were other issues, too, not just the separation). But it was a good decision for both of us and we still skype almost every day.

GOOD EVENING TO ALL THE LADIES OF THE 40'S BOARD!

Finally home from work. It was a long day, mostly because it was a very short & noisy night. There was a stabbing 4 doors down from when H & I live. Some guys stabbed 2 guys & the cops couldn't find him. So there was patrol cars, helicopters, ambulances & all the rest swarming our neighborhood til about 2AM & I had to be up at 7AM. :yawn:
Been an okay day otherwise. I ate healthy. Drank H2O. I didn't get a walk in today before work. I was just too wiped. I'm going to go for a nice long walk tomorrow. Might even take H to the park. It's so funny, he loves to go to the park...kinda like a little kid.
I still have that stress knot in my neck! I need to really walk hard tomorrow. I've thrown hot showers at it, Tylenol & stretches. Maybe I need to ask H for a neck rub, but he always seems to get distracted & quit.

olehcat: Sweetie, you really can't compare yourself to someone else. We are all different, which is actually a really wonderful thing. You are on your journey to becoming more healthy, and that in & of itself is something to be proud of! Also if someone is really your friend, you both will always see each other as nothing less than BEAUTIFUL!!! Anywhos, I hope that you 2 enjoy your visit!

Zumba: I love my ink! I sooo want more! But finances kinda hinder that, also I'd like to be near/at my goal before I go in again. I have a portrait of my parents when they were in their early 30s (looking awesome) I want to have done. So I need to find someone who does an awesome job on portrait tattoos. Kick your binge to the curb...get back at it. You can do this! My condolences to your friend, I know how hard it is to loose a beloved pet. Enjoy the city for me...I'm the opposite, country through & through. I need to see the mountains & the stars in the sky at night. But it takes all kinds. :)

Sum: Thanks for reminding me to take care of me. I think maybe I can do so a little now. I got him a media alert bracelet with a USB. I was able to input all of his meds & conditions. It gives me so peace of mind. Finnish Independence? KEWL! I'd love to know more! I used to go to a Swedish church a very special dawn Christmas service. Enjoy your independence, but don't go too overboard. ;)

Well, night to you all. Rest well. Be healthy! Catch up with you all later!:tired:

hi guys not going to catch up on stuff until tomorrow and then i don't know how much time i will be online...got to go to hydro tomorrow..meeting physio at about midday..going to be bloody hot..but will wear sunscreen and t-shirt and hat...hoping to get in at a cut price because of my back problems..but this may not happen...please everyone cross their fingers for me!!..i have everything crossed eyes, toes, arms legs and i look like a human pretzel..lol..lol...see ya later then..cheers liz

Thanks for all the good wishes, I am feeling better, hard to get into the xmas spirit, it's been kind of warm, rained and everything's kind of gray, on the other hand it's nice to be able to be outside in a light jacket.

Sum, it's funny you mentioned the decadent baked potato, I made mashed potatoes last night, hadn't made them in so long...they were divine, luckily I didn't make too many, they disappeared pretty quick.

MrsTrying, sorry to hear about your struggles, I have something like your neck prob. with stress, I don't know what they're called, but those muscles that run from your neck to shoulder across the top, they get like iron bands, I hate it.

Zumba, I'm going to NYC on a bus trip next weekend for the day, can't wait, it should be fun, you're right xmas time makes it magical, and will be spending time with my BF, my mom and my sister-in-law which will make it even more magical!

Going to try and get a hike today if rain holds off.

I remember when my mom's doctor put her on BP medicine, he kind of looked at her over his glasses and said something like we've been talking about losing weight for awhile...he looked like he was waiting to see if he was going to get a smack..lol

best to all
:sunny:

hmm had a good weekend....went out to a gallery showing of my aunty pats paintings (she is not a real aunty but a good friend of mums and we grew up knowing her and her hubby as aunty and uncle)..she passed recently due to cancer and uncle george had all of her paintings for the showing framed and organised..it was a lovely day i took an apple and had a skinny cino with sweetner and also 1 piece of pizza..said no to a lot of other things though so proud of me...still trying to do the exercise thing...tis frustrating cause i wanna do more and my body screams no at me...starting hydro exercises today...hope to do that every day if i can...should make a difference...ate more protein than i usually do on sunday...more fat than normal as well..oh well back on track today..had a shake this morning....geeez it is hard to find one that is sugar free..some of them are high in sugar..no good to me considering the diabetes...planning on having an early lunch as i have to be at the pool at 12ish...and i don't want to be hungry and tempted by bad stuff...gotta do pilates this morning been for my walkie with the doggie...done my christmas card for this year...will post it here..not happy with the photo of me but it is me!!..lol..lol..lol..will do the housework today needs doing badley...oh the chia pudding was nice but kinda tasteless...needs more flavour i think..so i will try banana next time and some more vanilla perhaps??...hope you all had a good weekend and kept on track!!...wishing everybody and healthy and happy day!!...cheers liz

zumba-whooooooot whooooooot on the loss!! love to hear it!!oh it is hard when you lose one of your furrbabies.. a friend of mine was battling cancer..we lost her yesterday it is sad...i am mad at cancer it is such a horrible thing!!

nemom-thanks for that hun..with my back i live with it and i think cope well..just means i have to rest more often to relieve the numbness and stiffness and of course the pain...i sit for a bit and then keep on going..lol..lol..lol..i use the washing trolley to put my shopping in and wheel it around inside..i don't hang clothes on the line much if at all..i use our dryer but we have solar power so it is not too bad cost wise!!! oh wow hun a buffet..have not been faced with that then but i understand how you feel..i am not sure how i would handle it!!

sum- happy belated birthday to your lovely daughter!!...what a milestone..congrats congrats!!i bet you look amazing in your dress too!!

see-thanks for worrying about me..it is very comforting that you should care hun..yeps well kinda..i have been thinking of yoga but i am doing pilates...doing 4 different exercises twice a day with my small amount of walking starting water exercise today!!..looking forward to it!! good thing i bought up on swimmers when they were cheap!! yeah def leppard is amazing!!..i love that the drummer does soo well with one arm he is amazing and an inspiration to us all i think..i have seen them once in concert and
it was just stupendous..i know all the words and sang along at the top of my lungs...i too like a wide variety of music!! i watch def on you tube a lot too!!

mrs-i sooo hope you are getting somewhere with your dh's medical stuff i am about to swallow my pride and jump on the benefits bandwagon..well try anyways..they can only say no!!...be careful of yourself hun..that
knotting muscle sounds painful....look after you and yours!!ooooooooooh i soooooo love metallica as well! apocalyptica is awesome too..there is something extremely sexy about 4 hotties playing the cello and covering mettalica!!..lol..lol..lol..such passion love it!!..funneee makes me wonder how they don't get their long hair caught in the strings!!

oooooooops forgot to post my christmas card...merry christmas all!!

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Hi everyone! I'm still here. So far, December has been a busy month. I've been short on relaxation and "me" time. I've remained on track with my weight loss efforts, though my exercise has been less frequent lately. A few days ago, I was within 10 pounds of my goal weight, but as my pesky scale sometimes does, it's been up 2 pounds since the low I saw. I am in desperate need of smaller clothes, particularly casual things. Today as I walked around in my smallest jeans, they were just sagging and bagging on me. Nice problem to have, but I only wish it wasn't Christmas time on the credit card as well. My Christmas shopping is almost done and the wrapping is well under way. That's a good feeling.

Liz--Cool card! I've got to get mine out. That's another project.

MrsT--Every time I hear about your struggles, it makes me feel so angry. Health care should not be so hard to get. I'm thinking good thoughts for you and your DH.

Zumba, Sum and Kelijpa--New York is on my bucket list. Except for a brief stop at the airport, I've never been. Enjoy! I'll live vicariously for now.

NEMom--I'm so impressed with your efforts. You won't regret them. You're going to have a whole new, healthier you.

To everyone else, :hug:

Hi all.........back from city..really nice day.....shopped and ate at a Brazilian steakhouse....I'm sure ill pay the price for that tomorrow on the scale, can't believe weekend is over,,,,,,dreading that 5:00 am alarm clock tomorrow....!:(

:df:GOOD EVENING ALL! How are the ladies of the 40s board? Hope all are well!:df:

Well, my one day off that I was just going to sleep in, go for a walk in the park & not much else changed really quick when Mom called at 8:30AM. She's an early bird. so that was like noon for her! :p She wanted me to do some Christmas shopping for her! Not for kids/grandkids or great-grands...they are all grown & gone. But for Toys for Tots toy drive! It was actually kinda of fun. We bought a couple of Disney princess dolls, some Hot Wheels, some stuffed animals, a few Lego kits & a couple of Nerf Basketball games. It's nice to know that eventhough H & I don't celebrate Christmas some kids can! We still have a little $$ left so I'll go out one more time & get a few more things. I guess I have a pinch of the Christmas spirit. Thanks Mom! Course it goes to reason Mom & Dad always made Christmas AWESOME for us when we were kids.
Ate healthy. Drank plenty of H2O. Didn't make it to the park but we did walk the mall...H was feeling a little "out of sorts" & I didn't want to possibly get somewhere that if we needed help that it would be hard to get. Fact is, the local fire academy was sponsoring a gift-wrapping table for charity. So we had help if needed & yeah, even Santa was there! :santa:
My weigh-in? Stuck at 257.5. I really think it's menopause. I'm having hot flashs, mood swings (wish this counted as exercise!!!) & feeling a little bloated. I'm going to see about making a dr. appt. for me...I haven't had a physical in far too long.

Zumba: Glad you enjoyed your visit to the city! Hey, the dinner at the steakhouse is just specail ocassion thing. Forgive yourself, get back on track in the AM. Yeah, I know 5AM comes early. Rest up!

Moving: Good job! Enjoy the smaller sizes! I can't wait til I can do that!!! Good job on getting Christams shopping done...good for you! Thanks for the good thoughts. Hoping to hear something this week. H has blood work scheduled for Mon & Fri this week. It's to check how the newest meds are working. My fingers are crossed. :crossed:

liz: Love your card! Wish we could have more critters, espcially a dog, but we just don't have the room, time nor $$. Aggie is enough of a handful. Good job on keeping on track today. Sorry about your loss, but the show sounds awesome! I lost an aunt to breast cancer this spring...she fought the good fight for 2.5 years. We thought she had it beat. And as for cancer...DO NOT get me started! That stuff ticks me off! (Being very, very "soft" about that) I lost an aunt, 3 uncles, my MIL & several firends. I'm sooo done with cancer...I just pray that H stay healthy that way...it runs in his family (lost his parents & sister).

kelijpa: Glad your feeling somewhat better. I know this time of the year is really rough. I know I get the "blues", but I know in my heart it's temporary. Hope you got a hike in! I know exercise always seems to help my mood. Maybe it's endorphins, maybe it's fresh air, maybe it's just getting out & getting away for a little while. All I know is, I like it!

Work tomorrow, late shift...again. Oh, well. Means I can take H for his blood test, get my walk done in the AM, have lunch then go to work. Just wish I would've had a day to sleep in...oh, well. Next Sunday, maybe? ;)

Hi, all! I may be gone a bit on and off this week -- am trying to get something done for a deadline so my internet time may be a bit more scarce!

MrsTryingAgain - holy crapola, a stabbing down the street sounds awful! And you're right -- I know the road to comparing myself to others is only one of unhappiness. I have to let that go completely and not think too much of it.

kelijpa - it's warmer here than usual, too, and rainy. I'm not complaining, though. I HATE snow and ice (I used to live in warm climates and I never have been able to deal with midwestern winters), and so every day it doesn't snow this winter is a happy day for me, lol.

lizard -- beautiful card with you all and your animals! ;) In that pic, the cat you're holding looks like my lynx point! ;) I still need to get a good picture of my two kitty babies together! They are tolerating each other and playing together now.

MovingForward -- that's so awesome that you're so close to goal! I hear you on the low and then losing the low. I think I'm probably two pounds up from my low the other day. I had a pretty heavy eating day this evening. Yeah, it wasn't so bad until I went to my parents' for dinner and then I had a LOT of food I normally wouldn't have. *sigh* Well, I'm not going to weigh tomorrow and give myself a really clean-eating day to recover.

zumba- 139 by Christmas - I think that's my goal, too! :) We can DO it!

Morning :rain:

We were promised some freezing rain, but thank goodness it did not happen. I always worry about my DH flying during winter months.

By some miracle, after eating out on Friday, party on Saturday and breakfast out on Sunday, I ended up with a loss for the week. Not a big one, but a loss :yikes: I am happy about it :dance: Perhaps this will give me a boost to do really well this week!!

House has gotten a lot of attention and two people are interested in it. I am not too excited until I see a decent offer. It would be amazing if we were to be able to sell this house before Christmas.

I will be volunteering all day; I hope that does not mean another lunch out :( I will pack mine, but it is pretty hard to resist when everyone else goes out.

Sending :dust: to all!!

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Hello, all! Good job on the overall loss, Sum! Yeesh...I have never once been able to say that I ate poorly over the last week and yet still lost weight. Any time I think I overdid it, the scale readily agrees with me. :devil:

Well, I did overdo it over the weekend, and I was too chicken to weigh myself. Still am! However, I have a doc appointment later this week, and then I will be forced to face the music! I am not looking forward to it. Plus, at the doctor's office, they weigh you with shoes and clothes. At home, I weigh myself au natural, after the bathroom, before any food - I even take hair clips out! ;) So, I always weigh more at the doc's office anyway. I am prepared to feel pissed! :mad:

I have to say that I am feeling annoyed this morning. I was volunteering at my kid's school, and was surrounded by skinny chicks! The annoying part was that they were all talking about working out and how "FAT" they all were. All of them were reassuring each other that, "No! You are totally skinny!" While others claimed that, "No, I'm not kidding! I've gained so much weight! I'm so fat!" Ugh....it went on and on. Meanwhile, I felt like a moose. I kept my mouth shut and hoped the conversation would change quickly. I also wondered how I would feel if I were in the middle of this conversation two years ago at my high weight. I would have been mortified. Luckily, no one there was noticeably overweight or large except for a very pregnant chick, which doesn't count (although, maybe she still felt bad?). Would any of them have been sensitive enough to refrain from the "skinny" talk had there been heavier people there? I really don't know. This is why I don't discuss losing weight or weight in general (except here at my safe zone on 3FC). You never know what other people's sensitivities are, even if they aren't currently obese.

Anyhow, good luck today people! I appreciate all of you so much! :hug:

Happy Monday All!
Eating this weekend was so so. I was not totally OP not did not binge on junk either. Scale remains about the same this morning. Again, I will take it as a win because I generally start Monday's with a gain.
11:00am marked 7 days of no regular cigs. I am still using the e-cig and actually really enjoying it. So much better than trying to quit with the gum, patches and medication that I have used in the past. Trying to take this no smoking, like my weight loss, one day at a time because I have tried and failed so many times in the past that I don't want to jump and shout "I quit, I quit' just yet.

Have a great day all!!!

HAPPY MONDAY!
im sooo sorry i havent been keeping up things are just crazy right now and i cant find time to just catch up just yet but i am thinking of you all and wishing you all the best each day!
12/10/12 weigh-in: 197 down 3lbs I MADE MY 1ST MINI GOAL ONEDERLAND BEFORE 2013!

Hi all! Caught up on everyone's posts....will address you all later...I am in a bit of a rush..today was a busy day..taught classes and then food shopping....a manic Monday......
Scale was ridiculously high this morning! That steakhouse did me in.....so depressing. I really doubt that I'll get to my Christmas goal at this rate.....just having a shake for dinner tonight....cooking pork for kids but after yesterday I don't even want to look at meat! :barf:

Trying to be optimistic, proactive and happy....Gosh it is so hard lately........:(:(......first my Dad dies and then I'm handed all this divorce nonsense.....is losing 15 lbs going to fix all that? No....but atleast I'll look skinny while I am miserable! :D

Talk with you nice ladies later.........:hug:

oooooh pool exercises were awesome...boy did i have a work out...i was soooo sore this morning i could hardly move but it got better with time as it usually does..went for a walk around the block 3 times this morning..i lost my keys on the way...darn it...went back to find them and could not!!..i clip them
onto roxys collar but they fell off somewhere..good thing i have spares...went out shopping and had to stop several times because of the numbness...grrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!..steaming some vege and trying out a turkey
burger for lunch..they are really low in fat and carbs..so all is good...been having a shake every now and then and i have found that a lot them are high in carbs and sugar..what is with that??..found one that is good with carbs fat and sugar and it tastes okays to me...also going to try out almond milk instead of skim milk...that will be interesting...anyhows i will not go for the disability pension i don't think.. not yet..will talk to my doctor first i think...there is such a lot of paper work to do..they want to know ALL of your assests even ones you don't have yet such as death insurance and super annuations...oh i discovered red palm oil..it is very nice..and very good for you too...i buy a mix of canola and red palm oil and it is yummy..that is if you don't mind your food a slight yellowy/orange colour...lol..lol..lol
thanks everyone for the lovely comments about our card...i take them to Big W and get them printed like a photo...oh i forgot i did get in at a cut price...woooooooooooooooohoooooooooooo!!..have to renew it in 6 months and the physio has given me one whole year so that is good too..will reassess things after that to see if i need more hydro or not...probably will though!..cheers liz


moving-woweeee 10 pounds to go..you can do it..not long now!!..you go girl!! oh and don't forget about you!!

zumba-oooh glad to hear you had a good time hun!! fingers crossed the scales behave hun!! oh i am sorry to hear of the gain...boo hiss to the scales...yes christmas is a hard time with loss like that..my heart goes out to you..know one thing we will be here somewhere!!

mrs-oh sooo good to hear you had a good time too..you deserve it for sure...i love giving too when money permits..lol..lol..lol..bummer about the scales hun and yes go see the doctor!!..hopefully he can help get back onto the road of loss!! oh and wishing you many mornings of sleeping in!!..ever since i have been using the cpap machine i am awake at about 5ish every morning!!..perhaps i should do the pool early..less kids around to jump on me or get in my way when i am doing laps..good idea i think!!

olehcat-yeah i thinks nicky is a lynx point we just call them different names is all!!

sum-whoooooooot whoooooot on the loss!! you are an angel to volunteer your time!!

guac-oh i feel you there hun!!..that sort of talk annoys me too..heck they have no idea what it is like if they have been skinny forever...they should try walking a mile in a bigger persons shoes for sure..i watch that show on tv where the ambulance people are specially trained to cater for their what they
call super sized patients..a lot of the people they see are over 22 stone in weight..woweeeeeeeeeee...the problems these people have is staggering..i am almost 20 stone and i don't have that much difficulty mobilising..a bit but not much..most of what effects me is of course from my back..but some of these people have not left their bedroom in years..wow!!..how would those skinny people feel if they were in these peoples shoes??..this really motivates me!!

nemom-good on you sweetheart...baby steps are best..that is what i am doing with exercise..just a bit at at time!!!

dangerous-whoooooooot whoooooooot!! CONGRATS!!

Zumba-- I'm sorry that things are so hard right now. I got a chuckle when I read your opinion about 15 pounds. That's positive thinking there and it will help get you through.

Dangerouscurves--Congrats on onederland! And ahead of schedule! Yes!

NEMom--You've got a few wins going on. Usually, people gain as they are trying to quit smoking. I hear your reluctance to declare victory, but I'm optimistic for you.

Guacamole--Take it as a compliment that the skinny chicks felt comfortable having that convo with you there. I hope they would have been sensitive enough to pick something else to talk about if you were heavier. At this point, I'm guessing you look like a skinny chick yourself! Your point is nonetheless well taken.

Sum--I hope your day worked out for you. I hate those unplanned social situations where you are expected to eat. It throws everything off, doesn't it?

Olehcat--Thanks for the reassurance on the elusive lows! It's so darn mystifying. I don't even have a bad eating day to blame mine on. Oh well. I know I'll get there.

MrsT--Yay for all you do so the little ones can have a good Christmas, especially since you don't celebrate yourself. Now THAT's the spirit.

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I just did some math and realized that the past few weeks I've been averaging 1100 calories per day. I'm thinking of upping it a bit, but am in a quandary. I don't want to slow my progress (either from more calories or slowing my metabolism), but at the same time I'm doing OK on the 1100 calories. I know I'll have a few higher calorie days this weekend, so I think for now I'll just stay the course. Today, a co-worker told me that she was envious when she saw me come into work this morning and decided then and there that her diet was starting today. I don't think she needs to lose any weight and told her that, but what a nice compliment.

Liz--Your message came in as I was writing, so I didnt see it. I'm glad you got in for the cut rate and got a good workout in. I think your idea of going early to beat the crowd is brilliant. Somebody recently told me that their physical therapist told them "Motion is lotion". I think this definitely applies to you. Keep it up!

Hello ladies,
My name is Robin, I used to check in with 3fc daily back when I did Ideal Protein. I lost 10 pds total on ip but couldn't deal with the migraines that came with the artificial sweeteners and preservatives in the food.
Then, I just gave up for a while until I watched Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead. After watching that documentary, I juiced recently for 13 days straight, just homeade vegetable/fruit juice mixture. I lost another 10 pds doing that. I am now wanting to try good old fashioned weight loss and exercise.
I am trying to find the right thread for that.
Thanks,
Robin

Godo morning, had a few minutes, so let's see if I can say hi to a few of you.

My low was 141.4 a few days ago, but now I've been hovering around 142.something the last few days, *sigh*. I'm hoping to get back to my low and then pass it by Friday. I would LOVE to be 139 by Christmas! I haven't run or exericsed in about a week since I got sick because even though the aches and congestion in my nose mostly went away, it all went to my chest and I couldn't stop coughing. I think I'm about ready to return to the gym today, though. I know it will be hard after a week off, but i need to do it!

Yesterday my grad level class ended and we had food. Everyone brought food. I really tried to tone it down for myself since I get VERY excited about food since I never keep food like that at home, like chips and dips, etc. I had a little bit of the unhealthy stuff and tried to focus on these vegetable spring rolls that someone had brought. I think I did pretty well.

whirlybird - hi, Robin! I had never ever heard of Ideal Protein until I came to this message board and it seems like so many active people on this board are into it. To me it sounds awful with artificial food, but maybe I don't know enough about it, so I shouldn't say anything. So far I've lost almost 10 pounds by just eating less, trying to keep my carbs a little lower, but still enjoying some treats on the weekend.

MovingForward - I'd say as long as it's working well, and that you know you're going to have a few days that are higher calorie, then go for it.

lizard - pool exercises seem like a good idea for back pain, actually, so I'm glad you're able to do that!

zumbachica - everyone else seems to lose weight during a divorce, I gained almost 10 pounds this past summer when I went through mine. :-p Good luck with your 15 pounds! :)

dangerouscurves - wow, great job hitting onederland!

guacamole - that kind of talk is very annoying. The good news is that they probably saw you as "one of them" if they were not self-conscious about saying that kind of thing in front of you. Not that that makes it any better... I had a college roommate once whose legs were as tiny as my arms and she was just skinny all over and she used to talk about how fat she was all the time. My other roommate and I would just roll our eyes, as we were just "normal" slender so we thought she must have thought that we were obese....

OLEHAT: You and I have the same goal for Christmas but I doubt I am going to get to it...trying to be optimistic. You are a lot closer than I am...you can do it......Good for you for keeping in check while being surrounded by all that food. A WW leader told me once that skinny people eat at events, but the difference between them and "us" is that they stop when they get home......I want to get to a point where I can go to a party and eat and not worry.....my life used to be that way....

WHIRLYBIRD: Good for you for juicing! I wish I had the discipline to do that. I need to see that documentary that you are referring to.

MOVINGFORWARD: That really WAS a nice compliment that you got...hold on to that the next time you are feeling down about your progress.

LIZARD: try and find low carb shakes, they do exist. I know you probably have different brands than we do.

DANGEROUS: YAY on reaching your mini goal!! Like the song says This Girl is on Fire...LOL

NEMOM: keep up the good work with the smoking.....You are doing your body the greatest justice and giving all those that love you the biggest gift.

GUAC: I HATE when skinny people do that, especially when there is someone there that isn't a skinny mini. I hope I didn't sound like that when I was skinny....but i have to say this one thing..that some thin people really do see a big person when they look in the mirror...they truly feel they are big....it sounds insane but it is true. I have a friend that has a disorder like that. She doesn't see what other people see meanwhile she has a close to perfect body and is a size zero. Still, I can see how you can be annoyed, I know I would be. I'd probably tell them all to shut the frig up and eat a sandwich.

And now for my sad post......:(

I really have no words. I am at a weight that I have not been at since pregnancy 12 years ago. It isn't a high number according to some but to me it is horrific..a symptom of all that is going on in my life. I feel like a huge failure...marriage failing and now letting myself go like this....don't forget what my livelihood is. Noone wants a big fitness instructor. I feel shame to the point of not wanting to go out or do anything...I could easily become an agoraphobic at this point. You can all tell me to shut up now, because I know I'm having one big pity party. Not even sure what to do at this point because nothing I do really helps. Took out the shake mix , there isn't a lot left and I can't afford to buy another bag.....so just maknig shakes today with whatever I have left.....maybe another cleanse will do me some good.

Thanks for listening........

Oh Zumba :hug: I am so sorry that you are feeling so down. My weight was 152 pounds the day I delivered my DD, and today I was 154; I can totally relate and understand!! Big hugs to you!!

Zumba - Don't give up, girl! I know it's so hard and frustrating when weight loss and life isn't going your way. You will get there...cut yourself some slack.

Hello, lovely ladies! I am so happy to have all of you to check in with every day - even if I don't post every day, I do read every day. Life just gets busy.

I feel so confused about my appearance. I am definitely at my "new fat" point. Being stuck in the 150s for so long is my personal new fat. It's frustrating. However, and I don't know if I am just making this up, my fat seems to be redistributing and settling in a different way - I can now fit into some Mediums and size 10s - whereas a few months ago, even in the 150s, I couldn't for the most part. This weekend I had someone gush over how "tiny" I am. She told me how people were remarking to her about how skinny I look. I would not call myself tiny by any stretch of the imagination. I felt pleasantly surprised that people would think that I have lost weight in the last few months and gotten thinner, when I haven't.

However, that all changed yesterday due to something, quite literally, juvenile. One of the secret reasons I wanted to lose weight was so that my kids wouldn't be embarrassed to have a fat mom. Yes, it's true. When I was heavier, kids used to tease my oldest son about how his father and I were fat. Well, yesterday, two of my 10 year old son's classmates came up to him and asked, "Do you know who the fat lady version of you is? Your mom!" My son came home really angry and said he felt like hitting them for making fun of me. I played it off and told him not to get upset over people acting ignorant. However, deep down, I felt hurt. I don't want to be the fat mom anymore, and I don't want to cause my kids embarrassment. When will I be thin enough for people/kids not to make fun of me? :(

Have a great day, everyone.

Oh, guacamole! :hug::hug::hug:

I just read your post. I have to say it brought more than just a tear to my eye. :cry: :cry: Maybe it's hormones, but I really want to "talk" about it. I know that many of you have kids, H & I never did. But I want you to please, please, please listen to your children.

H & I were both horribly bullied when we were kids. Not just words, but actual physical attacks. Course this was back in the day when parents, school officials & all the rest basically told kids who were bullied that it meant nothing. I was actually told on more than a few occasions that people picked on me becuase they LIKED ME!!! :?::?: They could not have been more wrong. 30+ years H & I still carry the scars, still hear the taunting & (in my case) have nightmares. I think the reason why is because my parents didn't listen/believe that it could happen to one of theirs. My parents were popular in school as was all my older siblings...I guess that gene ran out when it got to me. :(
I was a "big girl" in school, but not overweight. I had breasts by the time I was in the 4th grade. Not training bra breasts, but nearing C-cup breasts & all the other girls were basically flat. That lead to a lot of teasing & tormenting.
I won't go into are the nasty, horrible details, but just suffice it to say...I haven't gone to a HS reunion EVER and I NEVER WILL. I did NOT want to see those people in school so why would I want to see them now? My mom doesn't get that, she's gone to every reunion there's been in the 60+ yrs. since she graduated. More power to her, she has friends & classmates who treated her with respect & love. Most even showed up to Daddy's funeral in 2000.

Last thing, if your child is being treated badly at school, listen to them. That can make a BIG difference for them. Put your arms around them, give them a safe place to turn to when mean things are said/done & make home a safe haven. Yes, DO SPEAK out against bullying. But also let them know, you're in their corner & they do not have to cry alone. Do not think for one moment that the great school days you may have had are the same ones your son or daughter may be having. They maybe walking through a **** that you cannot imagine. So much so that it becomes one of the reasons they do not have kids...

I've gotta go for a walk. I'll climb down off the soapbox. Just please, please, please love your kids. Don't say, "Oh, they know I do." Show it! Talk to them, LISTEN to them, hug them. Your love can be the healing ointment they may sooo desperately need.

MrsTryingAgain - :hug: I'm so sorry that you and your H dealt with bullying in school. I have had my fair share with my kids and myself too in elementary school. I do have this son seeing a social worker every week to work through school/peer/family issues. Fifth grade seems to be the turning point when kids go from getting along to getting cliquey and mean. I started him in therapy this summer to head off any problems. Unfortunately, I had to learn the hard way with my older son's elementary school experience. So far, my 10 year old is navigating things ok, but he is very sensitive. I am in constant contact with his teachers and social worker about things that happen during the week. Sigh. Growing up isn't easy and being grown isn't easy.

:df:GOOD EVENING ALL! HOPE TODAY IS FINDING YOU ON-TRACK & DOING WELL!:df:

I'm feeling better than I was earlier. Sorry, hormones. Like I said guacamole's post really kinda pierced my heart.

guacamole: It's fine. It just caught me was all. Give your son a big hug for me. :hug: Yes, growing up is tough tougher with bullies. And you're right 5th grade does seem like a turning point. I wish him all the best. He's got a great start with a mom who's listening & trying to help.

zumba: Repeat this to yourself: I AM NOT A FAILURE! I AM NOT A FAILURE! Keep this in mind everytime you feel down. We all go through changes...it's part of being human. Trials & hard times suck, but you are stronger then they are! You can do this! And for those of us watching...regardless of how you feel, you are inspiring to all of us!

olehcat: :dust: I kinda see my goal for Christmas slipping away. I'm not sure why. Hormones? Stress? I've been pretty well on track, but I guess I just don't lose weight like I did in my late 20s - early 30s. But I'm not giving up! This weight will come off, I just have to not give up.

whirly (Robin): :welcome2: I think this is a great place to find people who can give great support. I've been here a little over 2 months & can't really go a day without popping in at least once. Good luck! Hope to see more of you here! :)

moving: Yes, it was fun to buy toys for the kids. I guess maybe I'm only a "scrooge" on the surface. ;) Sounds like you've hit your stride. Good for you! Hope it keeps that scale moving in the right direction. :cp:

liz: Glad the hydro workout was sooo awesome! I'd love to be able to do that! I have arthritis, sciatica & possibly nerve damage (my left thigh is almost alway numb). Who knows, maybe once I'm able to get in & see a dr. I'd love to get completely checked out. Perhaps if I can get it dr ordered for H, that I can go with him as a "chaperon", since he could possibly pass out. It's something to wish for, right? :lol:

Now, that I have caught up, I think. I'll let everyone know that I had a good day, in spite of getting a little choked up at guacamole's earlier post. Went for a walk in the park with H. We got to feed the fish! The park has a stream that runs through it that is filled with all kinds of fish. Ate well. Drank plenty of H2O. And now for something that I haven't had the guts to do til now...
This is me. I don't like getting in front of the camera, but I did it today at the park.

http://i1323.photobucket.com/albums/...n/P1040093.jpg

Sorry for the big pic. Tried to reduce it, still getting the hang of it. Liz, any suggestions? Anywhos this is me at my favorite park today. Far as I know I'm still at 257.5

Ugh! I was just nearly to the end of a long message when something glitched in the program and I lost everything. I'll briefly re-cap what I remember. But this will be the abbreviated version. :?:

Guacamole--Your post broke my heart and brought a lump to my throat. Please consider letting the school administration know what that boy said to your son. Nobody deserves to be treated that way. Give your son an extra squeeze from me. :hug:

MrsT-- I'm sorry to hear that old stuff was dredged up for you. :hug: I think it's wonderful that despite what you went through as a kid, you've grown into a caring, supportive, empathic woman. And the fact that you picked yourself up and managed to have a good day speaks to your resilience. Thanks for the picture! Your park looks beautiful too.

Olehcat--Congrats on the party victory. Those situations are tough!

Whirlybird--Welcome! You'll find lots of support here.

Zumba-- :hug::hug::hug: You are clearly not a failure. You are going through a major life stressor and feeling the turbulence. Take one day at a time and be kind to yourself.

Hi there lovelies!!Yes I too feel for the little lad who is bullied. Kids say the most hurful things and no matter what you do it is really hard to forget that hurt. I won't say too much more because I think that the other gals have said it beautifully. Well I had a fat mum and sheesh I never thought anything about it...never felt that she was not a good mum or anything so guac hun i am sure your little ones do not think anything about your size and love you just the way you are!! mrs trying you are such an awesome person soo strong and resilient to be the individual you are today despite all of that awfulness as a child and your DH too!!

okays here is a little about me..i am on track still...changing things up a little with food...trying a new exercise schedule..not walking in the mornings but doing hydro instead..walking of an afternoon though...i hurt quite a bit and getting numb 3 or 4 times whilst just shopping..very frustrating..but sigh i just rest for a bit and wait for it to go away then keep on trudging on..so thats it for me!! going to a funeral tomorrow for my friend..going to be very sad for her lovely hubby..she was such a nice person...would you all like to see the card i did her??..there is 4 parts to it and a lovely verse as well??...anyways i am tired to day...will go to bed tonight and watch the tv i think!!...hope you all had a good day despite the ups and downs...well the ups more than the downs...cheers liz

mrstrying-yeah i too go numb and yep it effects the outside of my left thigh all the time and only the whole leg of both when i have walked too far or stood too long in one spot...i find i have to stop when shopping now about 3 times...need to have more xrays done on my back and stuff and see the doctor before i can file for disability..yeah you can go as DH's carer at a cut price..at our pool they pay 1.25 which is way cheaper than full price of 4.20..that is why i needed to get the lower price cause i want to go everyday if i can!!..paying 4.20 is way out of our budget range so the lower price suits me better!! you look amazing i think...i soooo love your shirt..my hubby would love it!!..lol...lol..lol!!..beautiful park you have there too...oh about the photo see if you can reduce its size in a photo editing program??..
i don't know what you have hun so i really can't suggest much sorry!! let me know via pm and then i can help you!!

whirlybird-welcome welcome!! nice to meet you!!

All these bullying stories arevmaking me want to cry......I was bullied for being different ethnicity than everyone else.....kids can always find something to bully another kid for.......

I don't have to teach today....going to take out one of my workout DVDs....

DangerousCurves~Congrats on Onederland!! That's so great!

Zumba~:hugs: stay strong, you're going to overcome, maybe try getting back to the basics, drink water, track what you're eating, get in some exercise, I tracked my food last week, it helped, but of course I haven't done it this week...

Xmas lunch with my old coworkers today, BIG challenge, I'm just telling myself to get right back on, hopefully that will happen. :goodvibes

Whirlybird~:welcome: we watched Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead, too, definitely changed the way I look at getting in fruits and veggies, I've never managed more than a 3 day juice fast, but eating alot more fruit and veg since then.

MrsTryingAgain~that's great doing the toys for tots thing, it makes you feel good to do for others, I wish I could do more, will definitely do more when I can.

I'm only halfway done reading everyone's posts but had to post something and will post more later.

NEMom~congrats on the progess you're making with the cigs, I think it's one of the best thing you can do for yourself and combining with the weight loss/fit lifestyle is great.

Guac~so sad to read your post about the nastiness, it's amazing the affect of others' words, brought me back to my ugly duckling days growing up, kids can be so mean at times and so wonderful at other times, maybe not the same kids, but hopefully you know what I mean. Some people, whether kids or adults, know what to say that pokes at your tender spot and will say it even if it's not true. :hug:

MrsTryingAgain~thanks for the picture, you look great, beautiful smile, that park looks like a great place to walk!

Liz~I have to look back, somehow I missed your card, sounds great, hope your numbness is going away. You're doing great. Just saw your card, it's great, thanks for sharing!

I never would have thought it would be this hard to maintain through the holidays...
best to all :sunny:

Today weighed in at 142.2, so I'm REALLY hoping to be back down to my low by tomorrow so I can drop further than that by the weekend. Water weight, GO AWAY. I have to keep perspective in that a few weeks ago in mid week, I was dancing around 144-145 a lot, so I'm making progress, albeit slow. This is SUCH a hard time of year, too. I WANT cookies!

Zumbachica - Please don’t feel like a failure. I was exactly where you are at the end of the summer. My marriage, which had been deteriorating for the past few years, finally ended this past summer and I was the highest weight (for me) that I’ve been in a very long time. And not only that, I couldn’t seem to pull it together enough to take care of that problem, so my weight kept hovering around 149-150 for months even though I felt like I was “losing weight” and depriving myself of everything. Things will get better, though. Just keep up the good work and nourish yourself.

Guacamole – I know what you mean about “new fat”. Omg, when I first put on the extra weight this past summer it felt totally weird and unnatural, but the longer it stayed, the more it spread out or felt more “natural” on me, and that scared me! I seriously can’t believe that that friend of your son would think of you as “fat” at your weight/height!! That’s insanity. I’m not much below that and I’m shorter than you and I work with children all the time and no child has ever referred to me as fat (and believe me, they would, they don’t have a sense of being polite all the time).

MrsTryingAgain – that bullying sounds HORRIFIC. I was like you in that I developed really early (I reached my full height and boob size when I was in late fourth grade) and I remember having my period, then, too, and feeling SO self-conscious, but I wasn’t teased for it. I’m so sorry you and your h. went through that kind of thing. :( OH, and NICE PICTURE!!!! You look great!

MovingForward – THANK YOU. I still struggle so much in social party situations and controlling my urge to binge there.

Good Morning,

I am new to the boards - just joined yesterday but have been reading for a few days. Hope it's not too late to join in the December chat! I posted a bio in the 40 somethings.
I have been heavy and thin and, unfortunately, back again. Many, many times. HW-258, LW-130. My husband and I committed to getting healthy - only thing is - he wants to wait until Jan 1 and I am ready now. Since the holidays aren't a big thing around here (no kids at home) there is no need to worry about overeating or anything like that. If I don't buy it I figure I can't eat it! And, sadly, I have travelled this road so SO many times I know I can do it. Just questioning how to maintain it once I get there. So, I figured I would join this forum and gather support from others. It's funny- when I woke up this am I fed the dogs, jumped on the elliptical and couldn't wait to visit the boards and see how folks were doing. You folks were inspiring me and you didn't even know it!


-Courtney

Thanks for all the kind words everyone! Quick check-in today. I weighed in this morning at 151lbs. Not as bad as I had feared. Two NSVs happened to me-

1. My doctor's office has the smallest hospital gowns ever! At my high weight I couldn't even close them, last year I could barely tie the strings together, and this year they fit with room to spare! Woo hoo! I finally fit into those small a&* gowns!

2. I went to a department store to try on some evening gowns for an upcoming wedding. I fit into a size 8! I know it was vanity sizing because this was an upscale department store, but still! A single digit size - even if for only a moment! Woo hoo! I still haven't found the right dress, though. Still looking.

Anyway, overall a good day. Hope you all are doing well!

Thanks for your support everybody. I took out my Belly Fat cure book and will try and start that tomorrow........hopefully I'll make some progress before Christmas.

Stayed in all day....no desire to go anywhere....needed the time out.......ready to start over now......

Will go food shopping tomorrow for all the stuff I need for the jump start of the diet....

gUAC....great NSVs!

SUM...good luck with the showing!

2fatcats....good for you for notvwaiting until January 1!!!!

OLEHCAT.....I had cookies today....you just wanted them.

Kelijpa.....you are making progress..don't forget that!

GREETINGS TO ALL THE LADIES OF THE 40S BOARD! HOPE YOU ARE ALL HEALHTY & WELL!

Another busy, busy day at work. Evenso, I ate well & drank my H2O. went for a 40 min. walk with H this AM, before work. I was wondering to myself on the way home from work if hot flashes burn calories...I REALLY HOPE SO!!! :hot: I think that would be a reasonable pay off for going through the change, right? ;)

guacamole: I like that you fit in a SINGLE DIGIT dress, who cares if it wasn't the one. :rofl: About the hospital gown! I HATE those things!!! I always feel like I'm putting on a "show" for everyone & believe me, I DON'T WANT TO!!

zumba: Good luck! Sometimes reaching back to something we know worked is helpful. I've been thinking about adding even more strength training, I just feel like it's needed...can't hurt. Let us know how it goes!

SUM: Good luck with the housing situation. And congrats on keeping moving. You inpire me, girl!

2fatcats: :welcome2: Why wait til Jan. 1? Do you know that in 2 weeks you can pretty much solidify new, healthy habits? You might even drop some pounds? Sure, many people start on New Year's but why be "normal"? If you have the desire to start, I say start! Strike while the iron is HOT & you have all us right here with you! GO FOR IT!!!

olehcat: I know what you mean about cravings. Earlier this evening it popped into my head I wanted a burger & fries. WHATT?? I said, "You've been good for this long. Do you really want it?" I decided no & brewed myself a cup of extra spicy chia tea. All was good. One thing I try to do, is ask myself 3 or 4 times do I really, really want it...usually the craving goes away. Most times it's just something I've seen, smelled or I'm stressing about something.

kelijpa: If it weren't for my mom we wouldn't be able to give toys at all. Mom is 84 & really doesn't get out a whole lot. Not that she can't do it, I think she is self-conscious of her ever so slight limp...she broke her leg last spring & with her age, arthritis I don't think it healed perfectly. She is still a go-getter. She lives on our home ranch alone where she takes care of her 2 dogs, 1 house cat, 6 barn cats, 1 mule & 2 burros. The animals are the reason she gets out of be each day. SHE IS MY HERO! Tough as nails, but kind, giving & loving.

It was soo cute! I'm sitting here catching up with everyone on the board & H asks, "So how are the gals in your group?" He's so cute! Maybe I'll have to get a photo of the 2 of us together & post. Anywhos have a great Thursday!

BE GOOD! EAT HEALTHY! EXERCISE! YOU CAN DO THIS!