Ya know someone asked me that 25 years ago when I was not even fat. People just do not think about what effect that will have on a woman. And people just do not think heavy women care or they feel free to be rude to us.

You know how many times each of us has probably heard that or worried about hearing that? Or worried about being called out.

yesterday I was at the grocery walking hand in hand with my thin husband and as we walked through the doors 4 or 5 guys were hanging out sort of heckling people as they walked thru. I cannot tell you how much I wished for some invisibility. I may have closed my eyes. Not sure. But I just did not want to hear "she is gonna crush you"!

For some reason the world thinks it is OK to be cruel to the overweight. We apparently deserve it?

I am sorry that happened to you.

I had someone ask me once about 3 years ago when I was due. I told her December of 97. She looked at me sputtered and stammered and fled the area. ( We were at the grocery store)

Love the replies, ladies! Thank you so much. You all have made me feel better. I suppose I won't feel better until I have lost the weight and feel confident that I DON'T look pregnant. It's the kernel of truth in the remark that hurts.

Yes, some people have no filter. Someone would have to be literally going into labor in front of me before I asked if they were pregnant. :lol:

I don't ask if someone is pregnant unless I see a baby dangling out of her va-jayjay.
I'm so sorry!
I think some one on these forums says something like, "I can't believe you just said that! You must be so embarrassed!"

I have been asked that or had a rumor repeated to me that I was pregnant. I was never able to come out with a good response to that. I make it a practice to never ask a woman if she is pregnan unless I see her coming out of the delivery room with a baby.

That's actually the very thing that caused me to start my latest weight loss venture. I was at a party a few weeks ago and a guy I hang with sometimes at the bar said "Salem said she thinks you're pregnant, are you?"

I wanted to die because not only did it mean my friend Salem thought I looked pregnant but he must have too. I just said "no, why on earth would you think that?" And he just backed off.

Still it hasn't left my mind since which is why I'm working so hard now to lose my gut. It's depressing though that I seem to be losing everything but my gut. My legs and *** look great, but my stomach is still roughly the same. I'm most bummed about the cleavage going first. I just keep telling myself that once the fat is gone from everywhere else my body will have not choice but to start eating away my stomach!

Sorry to hear someone said that to you but you are definitely amongst those who have been there. Just keep moving forward and know that you are improving every day!

i was asked that once by a lady at the running track that i used to jog at...because my spine curves wrong at the base of my back, i know my stomach tends to poke out more than it used to before i had those back problems...if i stand still and straighten my spine than it looks alot flatter....anyhow she asked me that and i just said "no my body is built like that" and she was really embarrassed...i felt badly too because i dont like that and also because she felt so bad...she actually left the track after that, that day

Well, hearing these stories, I guess it's important to have some sympathy for those who ask dumb questions. I'm sure most of us have said some stupid things during our lifetime that we wish we could take back - I know I have.

But, yes, it is really tough to be whittling away at the weight - it has taken me 1 1/2 years to lose only 27 lbs - and the reward to be people thinking I look pregnant. It sucks. However, like mfreetofly, I guess I am using it as motivation to keep going in my weight loss.

Exactly!!! That gal had better be clutching at her belly and panting before I'd assume that she was pregnant!

I had the opposite experience once. I thought a co-worker was pregnant but was afraid to say anything in case she wasn't and would take a strip off me.

So I diplomatically ignored the issue and talked about other things. She later told another woman in the office how I blathered on other things and never congratulated her on her pregnancy which she thought was obvious enough that I would have said something nice about it. She said I was "self-centered".
Guess it's a no-win kind of situation.

If I had a baby everytime someone thought I was pregnant I would have 20 kids!
 

I am a nurse on a medical/surgical ward so I see every age range and condition you can imagine. More than once; I have been asked if I am pregnant (usually by little old ladies that truly mean no harm---or have dementia). Once, I was even called a fat gorilla by a man in alcohol withdrawal (or maybe he was mad because it wasn't time for more meds--I don't remember). My reply to this question is standard. I say "my baby is 18; I just can't keep out of the pie in the cafeteria." They really should outlaw pie.

I'm sorry, guacamole! It has happened to me, too, several times. A couple of those times were when I wasn't heavy at all (I was working with pregnant teenagers and they seemed to believe that all adult women were pregnant or something). The oddest time it happened, though, was like 2 days after I got my positive pregnancy test for my first pregnancy. I decided to go ahead and believe it was because I was glowing. I was definitely not showing.

Then something worse happened recently. At least with the pregnancy Q, I know it's coming, it's a thing, I must look kinda pregnant. BUT I didn't know I looked OLD! So, I was at target with my two year old and this woman leaned down to him and said, "oh how nice to go on a shopping trip with your grandmother!" That was really rough.

Hi all... This is a horrible comment to hear. Its happened to be on both sides... When I wasnt preg. I was asked and when I was preg. Someone said "so are you pregnant or just living large?" please!!! People can jus be plain stupid.
Glassmenagerie perhaps that was a required question on pharmacy's part just poorly worded. My friend's 4 yr old was on a cancer med and every month when she renew the Prescription the 4 year old had to have "counseling" to be about not getting pregnant while on this drug!!! Seriously?? A 4 year old!!! But it is true. Of course from the many many posts this question gets asked often because some people are just plain stupid.

I only had this happen to me once. I laughed and said, "well, I don't know whether or not to be flattered that you think I'm capable of that at my age(If I hadn't hit 50 I was pretty close) or to be insulted that after leaving the house thinking I'm looking pretty good, you've just told me I'm fat." He was soooo embarrassed and I'm glad I embarrassed him. Not for one second am I going to back down and think of someone else's feelings when they say something stupid to me. I'm not going to be embarrassed for one second because he had no ability to think before speaking. That's on him, not me. I suggest you think of it in those terms too. You have nothing to be embarrassed about and you should not be hiding from the world for one second.

Btw, congrats on your weight loss. You Rock!!!