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Old 07-08-2011, 09:34 AM   #6
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Originally Posted by kaplods View Post
I spent 35 years on the perfect or lousy roller coaster. I was either perfect or bingeing, because I believed that bingeing or even one bite off plan was "blowing it" (no sort of about it).

Every one of the 91 lbs I've lost so far has been by "blowing it" by my old definition. I can truthfully say that I "failed off" 91 lbs. I make as many or more mistakes than I did before, except I don't see them as a reason to make bigger mistakes. I just pick myself up and keep going. No more telling myself that I've blown it (sort of or not). The only way I can blow it, is by deciding that a mistake justifies a bigger mistake (might as well really blow it and start fresh at some future point in time - I don't do that kind of thinking anymore).

In all 91 lbs lost, I don't think I've even had a perfect week.

You don't have to be perfect, you only have to be better.

I'm not saying you shouldn't stick as closely to your plan, as possible - but life happens.

I try to look at weight loss as if I were climing a steep mountain. If I tripped and fell mountain climing, I wouldn't throw myself to the bottom of the steepest canyon, and decide I'll start fresh tomorrow (if I survive the fall).

If I trip, I pick myself up and keep going. Just by giving up the "throwing myself to the bottom" I've climbed higher than I ever have before, and I've not had a significant backslide in all that time either. I may struggle with a few pounds around TOM, but for the most part I've only moved onward, not forward and back a thousand times like I did for the first 35 years of my dieting.

So unless you've given up, you most assuredly did not blow it, not even kind of, sort of.
Thank you so much for this post!!!! This is just what I need to read this morning

I am learning to accept the idea that nothing is wrong with me! It is major and difficult as I have lived with the idea that something is wrong with me for my whole life.

OP- My goal is to eat healthy and exercise everyday, weight loss is just a pleasant side effect

Anyway some days I miss my goal for the day or some days I almost do but I change my mind and reach my goal for the day (like when I decided at the last minute I am going to aquafit even though I just spent the last hour trying to convince myself and DH why I "shouldn't" go )

Or have a mini binge mid day while feeling sorry for myself but coming on her to get awesome counsel and eating healthy the rest of the day. I feel good about that, that was a grown-up way to be Don't have trigger food in the house if that helps.
2nd Mini Goal-Onederland! - On hold

Met first Mini Goal of 10% lost Aug 19, 2011
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