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Smile 300+ And Ready To Try Again #1027

We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.

We want to invite everyone to join us in our journey.
We share laughter and tears.
We share what works for us and what doesn't.
We often use a "Topic of the Day" for discussion.

Motivational Monday
Tuesday Tips
Wednesday Wish List...and what you are doing to obtain it.
Thankful Thursday
FUN Friday...don't wait until you lose your weight.
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These are not required topics...just ideas to share. We often find them very helpful. We also share heartaches and fears...joys and celebrations.

We have several extra threads going on simutaneously such as Monthly Challenges, Weekly Weigh-ins, Recipes, Bios, and more. Please feel free to check them all out.

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we have found it to become a home. We invite you to join us.


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Melissa – I am SO impressed! That is a LONG walk. I certainly know how you feel when you finished it though. The sense of accomplishment is great huh? You are certainly taking chunks out of your exercise goal for this month.
Just read your latest post and you have been walking again! You must be feeling SO good about yourself! I am glad you were able to get some healthy food, so now you are on track in ALL areas. 5 hours is a long time to be on your feet. I have had a couple of days like that lately and I felt wonderful afterwards, but definitely ready for a rest afterwards.

Ammi – I had to chuckle at the picture of you kicking up and over Beth while she slept. That would make a great cartoon with the caption “Committed… or SHOULD be committed”. I’m sure you are a long way from the “Funny Farm”, so you are obviously just “committed”. I hope Beth is back to feeling 100% soon. Oh, and about that sore throat thing and not having tonsils. I have had a couple of colds this year and both times I felt as though I was swallowing razor blades. My throat ached too, but it wasn’t my tonsils (I still have mine), it was a different pain, but still painful enough. I don’t doubt at all that Beth has a very sore throat, but it isn’t her tonsils. It probably feels in the same area, but I know mine wasn’t my tonsils. I got a prescription for antibiotics, which I don’t normally get when I have a cold, but the doctor said that if I coughed up any more ‘gunk’ then I should fill it. Well, with having the Sydney trip ahead, I spoke to the pharmacist about it and she said that with the description I gave her of what I was coughing up (sorry to people who may be eating) I should fill it. So I did, and I am VERY glad I did. I am sure that the last time I had this it hung around for ages, but (touch wood) this time I seem to have pretty much thrown it. I’m still a little congested, but I think that is allergies as much as left-over cold.
Oh, what chance do you think you’ll have of Beth’s dad not smoking while she is in the same room? Is he considerate about things like that when they concern Beth? I know she will miss seeing her boyfriend if she doesn’t go, so it may be hard keeping her home for the weekend.

Valerie – I’m sorry that you didn’t pass that driving test (well, you may have passed, but I understand that you want to pass with flying colours). I hope you find a truck to practice on. It doesn’t sound as though you will need to do much time on it. It is a pity that the guy you did the test with couldn’t let you practice in one of theirs.
I understand you on the bus driving thing. I love teaching my kids, but I am not sure I would like to be cooped up with a lot of them, in a miniature “hormone city” at times, for hours on end. I think bus drivers must have the patience of a saint.
It is SO wonderful to hear that you rode again today, even if it was just for a little while. I can ‘feel’ your smile from here. You may have felt as though you were a little ‘rusty’, but I still know what a thrill that would have been for you. Cleaning those stables would have been a wonderful workout. You would be using muscles that you wouldn’t normally use in a regular workout, so that would be great.
Brown sugar in meatloaf… ummm… Not sure I would like that, but I suppose I shouldn’t say anything until I’ve tried it. I have become quite ‘bland’ in my tastes lately, so just plain meatloaf would be fine for me I think.

Vicki – Speaking of saints! (the bus driving kind) Good luck with the driving tests. You are obviously one of those people who are a lot calmer when driving than I am. I tend to get a little worked up at times and I would worry that a choice word or two would escape and the kids would hear.
Well done on those scales moving down again. What a relief for you. Oh, and don’t worry about not being able to exercise. You have to do the best you can, with what you have, and if that means focusing on eating, and sneaking in exercise whenever you can, then that is great. At least you are making some changes in your life, and they will certainly pay off.

Patti – I am glad you waited a while before exercising with a migraine. I wouldn’t imagine it would be too much fun to exercise with a full-blown migraine. You take care of yourself young lady!!! Even exercising with ANY kind of pain in the head may not be the best of ideas.

Amanda – I’m glad you enjoyed the water aerobics so much. I have heard that they are a great workout. I wish I was game enough to wear bathers. Well, maybe I would be able to find something to cover up the wrinkly bits, but I am also not a ‘public’ exerciser. Well, I’m not into gyms, and I kinda like using my own things at home, or walking with hubby. I think I like the ease of it all. Not having to plan things around other people’s times, or getting too organized to go. With doing things at home I can simply wear the bare essentials, and just get up and go. Oh well… I DO really like the sound of doing water aerobics. I may have to reconsider my mindset on that one. I wish I had enough money (and room in the back yard) for our own pool. I would just put the music on and dance around to my heart’s content.

Valerie – Thank you for reminding me to focus on what is great in my life, not what is currently being a pain in the butt. I am going to try to do that as my weekly goal. Each day I want to find something I like about myself and something I like about my life. I want to write these down, so I can remind myself of them any time I get down about something. I know I could fill a book with things I like about my life, but I am going to have to work on the list of things I like about myself. I have spent SO long not liking stuff, that it could take a bit of training to find things I truly like.
I will keep my fingers crossed for you that you see at LEAST a drop to 275 this weigh-in.
It is great that you are cheering about exercising. I remember the feeling I got when I realized that I was actually ENJOYING exercising, rather than just forcing myself to do it. It was a miraculous discovery. Take today for example. I never used to consider walking anywhere, but I am SO looking forward to walking 40 minutes to a local teacher supply store. I was worried that the weather would turn bad or something like that, but all looks fine at the moment, so I am really happy. What a turn of events. That is when you KNOW you are getting somewhere.

Nancy – Kickboxing! I have thought of doing that. Well I have thought of getting a DVD and trying that. Is it hard to get the moves right, or do you just have to kick, punch and make a lot of noise. It looks as though it would be a great workout.
I am sure you will get some sponsors for your walk. Can you send your sponsor form around work, or have other people beaten you to it? I can’t remember if you work with lots of people, or just a few… or even if you work on your own from home. Pathetic memory I have huh? Good luck with getting some sponsors though.
OH… I understand you TOTALLY on being able to pass up food and feeling so unemotional about it. I LOVE that feeling. It isn’t regret, or ‘poor me’, or anything like that. It is simply “I can’t have that, it wouldn’t be good for me”. Very simple and SO enlightening. Good for you to have reached that point. I may have to warn you that it doesn’t always happen. For a while there I still had moments where I thought “Why can’t I have that. Other people can!” But those moments are extremely few and far between now, as I can see the benefits of NOT having those foods.

Luan – I am glad you are in such a positive mindset about the whole ‘relationship’ thing. I know you will still feel a sense of loss for ‘what could have been’, but that will soon pass and hopefully you may still be able to restore the friendship with him (If that is what you want). It seems weird that he hasn’t answered your email, but maybe he has other things on his plate that are stopping him from doing so. It may have nothing to do with you, but I know that it would be hard to not take it personally.
I hope you still manage to have a great time at the Halloween party. There is no reason for YOU to miss out on the fun just because he is being a pain in the butt.
Just read your latest post. Is this guy dumb or what??? I know… he can’t be too bad, or you wouldn’t like him so much, but he sure is acting dumb lately. He needs a bit of a wakeup call I think.

Misti – About that ‘dip’ in your neck. I didn’t even realise that it was anything out of the ordinary, because I have an indentation just like it at the base of my neck/throat. I just figured that we had matching dents. I’ve only noticed mine since I lost weight, so yours may show up a little more now too, but it certainly doesn’t look ‘different’. I quite like mine because it makes me feel skinnier as more dents and bumps show up.
Thank you for the compliments about the TV show. I thought I came across pretty well, and I don’t think the camera added too many pounds. Oh, and thank you for the comment about the kids. They truly are a special group of children. I actually enjoy spending my days with them. Not that I also don’t enjoy holidays!LOL

Michelle – I know how frustrating it can be when you want to exercise and you can’t, but believe me, it is better to look after yourself and get better than just push on and make things worse.
Sorry to hear about the melanoma scare. You never know, things could be fine, but at least your doctor is observant and may have caught them early enough. I had a skin cancer removed earlier in the year and I know the chill that goes down your back when you first hear that it is cancer. The doctor said that she removed it all, but it is a rare form of cancer and could grow back at any time, so I have to go for regular checks. You would think that this would scare me into having a full body check, but I haven’t done that yet. Living in a country that has a very high rate of skin cancers, you would think I would have had myself checked before, but the thought of having someone looking at every square inch of my skin is NOT appealing. It isn’t as bad now, but I’m still not keen on the idea. Most people I have heard of over here, in fact EVERYONE I know who has had skin cancers removed, have been given a clean bill of health afterwards. They DO get checked regularly though, as once you have one of those, it is common for more to be found, from what I understand. I think it is great that your doctor is so observant. Good luck with the specialist appointment.

Amy – I hate to say it, but you were SUCH a convincing punk that I probably would have avoided you if I saw you in the street. Scary! You did an excellent job.
I think you did a great thing getting the toast and peanut butter. Peanut butter is a comfort food for me and it is what I crave when TOM comes visiting. The whole grain toast and PB shouldn’t be a problem at all. Good choices! I’m glad it made you feel better. I hope all is well for your apartment hunting tomorrow. How exciting for you! I can’t wait to hear which one you choose and to get a description of it. You must be getting so excited about being so close to Nat. I am sure he is excited too, but he may not be as expressive as we women.
I’m sure you will make the best choices you can while you are away. You will have to convince Nat’s dad to learn to make healthier yummy things while you are there. He obviously likes cooking, now you just have to educate him in WHAT to cook so you can indulge, whilst not overdoing things too much.
I think your dinner sounds just fine! Nothing bad that I can see, although I’m not sure what cheetos are, so maybe they are not too good. Otherwise, I think you did pretty well.

Katt – Well done on the 30lbs down!!!!!! You are going SO well! I am amazed at the late nights you have. I have always been a morning person, so I am usually asleep before 10pm and then up around 5:30am. Even during the holidays my body clock just doesn’t want me to sleep in until 6am. I tried to convince it this morning, but I really just kidded myself and lay around for half an hour before getting out of bed. A waste of time really, but hey…
You know what? You’re right! I was feeling guilty about the magazine paying for me to go to Sydney (twice) and for the makeover etc, but I KNOW they are going to get extra sales by having my story in their magazine, and I KNOW they will get extra sales from the publicity I have been getting. So, I haven’t LOST them sales/money. And, as you said, the expenses they would have spent on me would be a drop in the water out of their budget. Thank you for making me think about that. I think I will just stop feeling guilty now and just get on with things. They are not worth worrying about any more.
Sorry about your horrible weather. I have been VERY impressed with our Spring weather lately. I shouldn’t speak too soon, as I know we are going to be getting some wet weather over the next week or so, but there are going to be some beautiful days mixed in there as well. The last few days have been sitting around 25C/75F and next Monday we are expecting 30C/85F. That will be wonderful. I have been hanging out for some warmer weather since I lost all my insulation. I hope you get some warmer weather soon, but not TOO warm. Problem is, we desperately need the rain too, so I suppose it is OK that there will be some wet days mixed in with the fine ones.

Kim – Well done on having less than 200lbs to lose! What a buzz it must have been for you to realise that. It makes all of the hard work worthwhile when you get to see milestones like that.
TOM arriving would certainly account for why you had a couple of extra things to nibble today. Well, it would make sense to ME anyway. I definitely get cravings when TOM is visiting. I usually crave peanut butter with something, so I try to make sure I have some with me. You certainly didn’t do too badly at all, and should be proud of yourself for the restraint you showed.
I hope your cramps will be gone by the morning so you can exercise comfortably. Well, I suppose I should be hoping for the cramps to be gone so you can get some sleep. Oh well… I hope they are gone… full stop!

Newsnerd – I hope you are feeling 100% soon. It is no fun at all when you are feeling sick and can’t do the basic things in life, let alone any extras that are usually demanded of you. I hope you have been able to fully rest and have someone who can pamper you while you are sick. If not, then I at least hope that you don’t have other people that YOU have to pamper while you are sick. I look forward to seeing more of you when you are up to it.

Sabrosaindia – Oh! I want to more about the new love in your life!!!!! I love LOVE STORIES! I know I’m just being nosey, but I love hearing about people who have met someone special. I never believed in ‘fate’ or ‘soul mates’ until I met my second husband. Now I just want everyone else to be as happy as I am. Well… unless he is being a pain in the butt… but that isn’t TOO often.
I also can’t wait to hear about your new job. I hope all works out REALLY well with that.
I am glad you are getting inspiration from coming here. I truly wish that I had found this site when I just started out on my journey, but I am just glad that I DID find it, as I am still getting so much support, encouragement and great advice from the people here.

Well, that could be about it for me. I think I have answered all of those people I could remember, but if I missed you, then just yell at me and tell me to get my act together. I am on holidays at the moment and believe me, my brain is definitely well settled into holiday mode. I have to think twice to work out what day it is, let alone what I am actually supposed to be doing each day. Hubby asked me when I was meeting with the other grade 2 teachers yesterday and I had totally forgotten that we were meeting. Thankfully hubby was awake!

I hope you are all having a wonderful week so far and that Friday will treat you all well.

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Hey everyone~I am up late here. The wind and snow is really heavy right now. I wanted to go out and see if I could see the northern lights...but I wasn't so brave in 45 mph winds and blowing snow!

LUAN~Thanks for sharing about the flu shot. You know most people I know that get it has gotten really sick. One year my mom got so sick that she had to go to the hospital..they asked what was wrong and she was like UM I got the flu shot! As far as the scale..I know what ya mean for sure. My weight varies so much in just a few days so I really can drive myself crazy!

ZELMA~Sorry you had to go through all that. And thanks for sharing that link again. You are a winner no matter what!

NIGHTKATT~Sounds like you are doing great on getting exercise! Congrats on the 2.2 pounds. You are doing so great!

Patti~Glad you are feeling better. That is cool you used to live in Alaska. I see you live in MS now. I used to live in Louisiana. Extreme difference up here compared to the south. I can't believe its still in the 90s plus down there!

Melissa~Sounds like you are doing great with working out and staying OP. Subway...I miss subway!

Valerie~Yes its great seeing any results. I usually notice it in my face and ankles/feet first. I think that is where I hold most of the water weight. The DR. told me just to worry about my eating. And of course I can still do my 5 lbs lifting. Better than nothing! I do it sitting down though. I love Grey's sucks you in and you just have to see what happens next. That is too funny your friend cancelling her date! I proably would have done that also!

KIM~Thanks...and like you said at least I have a doctor that is alert and willing to really help me. I have had some bad DRs in the past. But I am happy that at least he pointed it out to me. The hiding the scale thing was so funny. But at least I am not driving myself nuts every few days!

NEWSHERD~I hope you are feeling better soon!

Violet~ I LOVE LOST! I am addicted to that show. But after this last episode..I am sooooo confused! That is nice we can watch it for free on their site.

ZELMA~We were just posting at the same time. Thanks for the info you know about skin cancer. It is scary. But like you said as long as they can catch it things usually turn out fine. I have a few spots that are really scary looking. The good thing is none of them are bleeding...but a few are itchy. I know those are warning signs. But at least I am able to get to a derm. really soon.

Ok well I guess I am going to try to sleep now. Its about 1 am here. I hope you all have a great Friday!

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Hi Ladies - I got in a total of 3 walks today...57 minutes (which I mentioned before), 14 minutes, and 58 minutes!! YAY! John and I might go swimming tomorrow, too - fun! Later chickies!

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OH! I keep forgetting to tell you. I had an "A-HA" moment the other day when I was having a phone interview for a magazine. Almost every interview is different, and they all give me something to think about as they ask questions that I really haven't thought about before.

This lady asked me just what the weight loss means for me. I really had to think quite hard to come up with something that reflected just exactly what it means.

The best word I could come up with was "FREEDOM".

I have decided that this one word describes it all so clearly.

*****Freedom from the constraints (both physically AND mentally) of being in a morbidly obese body.*****

Freedom to be the person that you have always believed you can be.

Freedom to act the way you have always wanted to act, without the fear of people looking at the 'fat lady' and wondering what on earth she thinks she is doing. Just today, I bought a soft serve low fat yoghurt and ate it while I wandered around the mall on my own while I was waiting for hubby. Before I would have worried that people would judge me for what I was eating.

Freedom to partake in activities that non-obese people take for granted. Just the other day I went to our Royal Show (big fair) and I could go through the turnstiles just like everyone else. I didn't have to go through the pram/pusher entrance like I did the last time I went.

Freedom to take on the world. Last year hubby and I went for a holiday to the U.S. Hubby had the chance to go to a Microsoft Summit and I was SO happy to be able to share that holiday with him. He wouldn't have gone on his own and before I wouldn't have even attempted such a trip as I would have been too big for the plane seats, too big for the taxi (couldn't fit seatbelts around me), too big for climbing on the back of the truck for the photographic safari... etc... etc... He would have missed out on an incredible opportunity because of my size.

Freedom to live life to the fullest. This one I am still working on, but I constantly amaze myself with the things that I am now willing to do. I just thought I didn't LIKE them before, but it was actually that my size restricted me from doing them. For example, jogging. I used to say that I would NEVER jog, now I love it. Another example is catching public transport. I used to say that it was EASIER to just drive myself, but it is actually easier to catch public transport a lot of the time.

Freedom to eat wherever I like! No more checking out restaurants beforehand to see if the chairs have arms on them. No more worrying about going to friends' houses to eat, just in case they try to get you to sit in those small plastic white chairs.

Freedom to shop for clothes that I LIKE, not just ones that fit. I used to tell myself that clothes shopping was frivolous and only shallow people could find pleasure in such a menial task. Well, now that I can actually FIT into a wide range of clothes, I LOVE clothes shopping. I love just trying clothes on a lot of the time, simply to see that they are fit. I love having to swap clothes for a SMALLER size. I love being able to buy 4 or 5 pieces of clothing (or even more) for the same price I used to have to pay for one. I even love shopping for shoes, because my foot is still big, but not bigger than the regular sizes in stores.


I just wanted to let you all know that FREEDOM AWAITS YOU.

Many of you may not have the same problems as those I have mentioned above, and to you I just say "I am SO envious". I used to not believe they were problems for me, but I now see that they were, but I became very good at hiding them, or finding excuses, that had nothing to do with my size, to avoid doing things. I am not saying that YOU do this, but that was something I would use to survive as a morbidly obese adult. I became a master at convincing myself that my weight wasn't a problem for me and the restrictions I had placed upon myself had to be caused by something else. I am still amazed that I believed that for so very long.

Well, that was pretty deep, but I just felt SO enlightened that I wanted to share it with you all.

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Zelma -- Wow. What you said reflects my experiences so well. Especially when you said you used to think they were not problems for you, but now see they were. I am starting to see all the ways in which my fat and my fear held me back.

This weekend I am going to Six Flags -- my first time to an amusement park in... hmmm... maybe 15 years??? I am not going to have to worry if I "fit" in any of the seats. I will be able to walk around a lot. I will not have to worry about my abilities, or what others think of me.

I am discovering myself in so many ways in this journey, and realizing all the things I will now ALLOW myself to do, a) because I can and b) because I am pushing back my fears.

You are so right! And as you expressed it, it is not just a freedom of body, but a freedom of mind and a belief in yourself.
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Hello all!

Grrrr been so busy last couple of days, havent been able to log in and see how everyone is doing. Not to mention I still havent come around to take some photos and do my avatar.
Hope you all are well and having a lovely day.

As for me, Im still sticking 100% to my diet Im way too good lol..hope it's gonna last.
But I didnt have time to workout yesterday, and I very much doubt its gonna happen today as my head hurts and I feel sick (you dont wanna know why ..ok, ok, I was installing some programs on my bf's PC and also some games, and I tried to play one, but the picture was moving too fast so it made me sick I feel my head is gonna explode. I think I got a motion deases (sp.?) )

Have a great friday
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newsnerd- sorry to hear you’ve been sick. Glad you are feeling better- welcome back!

Amy- sounds like you did good for dinner! Good work- and good luck with the apartment hunting- I hope you get some good drugs too!

PPP- OMG, boys really do need some help don’t they! The nerve of him to complain to you, ask for your help- and have ignored your email for so long. As if he can just act like you never asked him to deal with something so important. I think it’s good you sent him an email telling him off- don’t let him ignore it!

Zelma- well cramps didn’t keep me awake at all, I guess I was just too exhausted. However, I did have bad cramps this morning while I was exercising, but I still got in 65 minutes on the treadmill (3 miles), and I’m feeling much better now. I think today will be a pretty good day. I know what you mean about getting into your “holiday brain”. Whenever I’m off I tend to relax, and my brain needs the break the most- so I forgot basic things. Good thing your hubby reminded you! Freedom is the perfect word to describe basically what we are all fighting for- you couldn’t have said it more perfectly. When I first read it I kind of choked up, just at the realization of how right you are!

Well- I worked out this morning- 65 minutes on treadmill and now I'm at work. i actually have to run, because Ihave a training class in like 8 minutes, but wanted to report that I'm doing well. Going out with hubby tonight for dinner, but looked up the menu and know exactly what I'm going to order, number of calories, and how to eat today so that it will fit into my plan. I'm worried that the combination of TOM being here and the fact that this training class will have tons of junk in it will throw me off, but I'm trying to remember that headache last time I let myself eat junk- plus I brought my breakfast bar since I haven't had time to eat yet- so hopefully I will be good. Okay- 7 minutes now, got to run. talk to yall latter!
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good morning everyone. FFM didnt come visit me AGAIN this week! i think she doesnt like me. anyways, i had another slight headache but did my morning treadmill anyways so now i am gonna have some breakfast and wait awhile then finish up my exercise for the week!
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Hello everyone!

You ladies are the QUEENS of replies and I'm just not even going to try to keep up with you! Forgive me please!

Zelma - I loved what you wrote. I'm not nearly there yet, but of course, I'm getting close to as small as I can ever remember being - so maybe I really can't picture it at all! Still, even now I'm noticing some of what you mentioned. I fit in chairs now. That's HUGE for me. When I go to the Dr or someone's office or house or a restaurant, I was to the point where I dreaded arms on chairs and I still expect to not fit when I sit down, but I do! And just being physically able to do what I want to do! I took a hour and a half walk with my son last week! 4 or 5 miles! I'd have never considered that two years ago. Heck, two years ago I would drive my car three blocks to eat with office mates at a restaurant uptown rather than walk it. Now I PARK three times as far away, just for the exercise! I have a friend who's planning a 20 mile walk as a Toys for Tot's fundraiser. I think he's CRAZY and have NO plans to join him...but not because I physically couldn't DO it! (MAYBE I couldn't...but I expect I'd eventually finish, although I'd regret it the next day...I'm not that healthy, if nothing else my back would KILL me! ) Still, two years ago I would have never even considered that I could the remotest possiblity - heck, I didn't think I could walk two miles, much less 20! I'm looking forward to gaining more and more freedom as I lose more and more of this weight! And YOU dear, inspire me greatly!

Wyllen: I'm going to Six Flags next weekend! DH and I were going to an SCA event, but we decided not to and to instead get some things done around the house and then take DS for Fright Fest. We'll go late and stay later for the scary stuff. I went last about 3 years ago. It was miserable. I'm not big on scary rides, so the roller coasters and such were not a problem, but the one ride I did ride they had to stick me in a seat next to a strange, skinny, teen boy because I didn't fit next to anyone else. It was so obvious that he was disgusted and didn't want to touch me! It was humiliating really, and I've never been one to worry about what I looked like to others. But the point is, I actually dreaded the trip last time and rightfully so, I was so tired all the time and my back ached. I went because I promised my son. This year I'm looking forward to it. I know the walking won't be a problem-I'm actually looking forward to it! I know I'll fit at least pretty well whereever I want to fit. I'm psyched!

There are so many things now that DH and I talk about doing that I never would have considered a couple of years ago. We were talking about finding some place where we can day-trip where there are stables and riding! I haven't been on a horse since I took lessons in law school. I was only slightly smaller then than I am now. I was never very good at it, but I enjoyed it. When DS and I were taking our long walk last weekend I mentioned finding a place to go hiking in the woods, with hills! He thought I was INSANE to want to do that! My poor little couch-potato son...he may have to learn to live a little! I think we're going to have to go bike riding again before it gets too cold and maybe apple-picking! There are so many things I didn't ever do with him when he was little...

Don't get me's not that I LIKE exercise! Far from it! It's just that knowing I CAN do something I used to not be able to do makes me WANT to do things! If that makes any sense at all?

Well guys, I have work to do today so I best hit the files! to everyone!
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Wel I've been MIA as my parents have been staying with us since Wednesday, they catch a plane to Spain on Saturday so we can get back to normal then. I don't have time to do replies but I am OP and walking80 mins per day, I hope to see a couple or more pounds less on the scales on Saturday. My neighbour bought me a box of chocolates yesterday, I put them away for Christmas, as long as they are unopened I can resist!!!!! He bought me flowers a few weeks ago too, if it wasn't for the fact he's seventy Steve might be worried, lol. His wife died a few months ago and we invite him over for bbqs and give him some of our apples (cooking-Bramleys I think) for his family to bake pies, he's so kind & nice, if he was 45-50 I MIGHT be tempted!!! lol. I have to go.
Valerie, I hope the anger sustains you, it can be so POSITIVE, much better than feeling sad or sorry for yourself.xxxx
Zelma, xxxxxx YOu deserved much better, but at least everyone here thinks YOU are in the rightxxxxx
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Thank you ZELMA. Thank you and thank you and thank you. Your Freedom post spoke volumes to me. All the way though it I was thinking "Cool!" "Oh, yes!", "Wow that's great!" "Awesome - Go Zelma!" and then you said: "I just wanted to let you all know that FREEDOM AWAITS YOU." Perhaps it was the timing of my reading it. Perhaps it was the unexpectedness of that line. (Perhaps it was hormonal?) But it pierced me to my core, took me breath and brought a tear. I was looking at you and rejoicing for you, and suddenly you held up a mirror for me. We all have some similar pain here, shared fears, shared experiences and some shared hopes and dreams. I often have 'A-ha' moments or think 'Wow, THAT said it.' But you've offered to us all your success to take for ourselves. Of course it was there anyway, but when you put words to it, you make it more real.

I do fit a little better in those white plastic chairs, but I'm not done yet. I want to race go-carts and fit in airplane seats. But I want it - so bad I can taste it... (oh great, how many calories do I count for that?) Bad enough to fight for it fiercely - as though my life depended on it... (Oh yeah. It Does depend on it.) Anyway, Zelma, you've made a promise, and I'm gonna hold Myself too it! (Yes I meant it the way I said it.)

(My goodness - aren't my panties in a wad today?! I love these days - fired up and DOing something about it!)

As for you Six Flag bound skinny girls - Have a BLAST! You know you TOtally deserve it.

LILION, your poor boy is in for a lot more little 'culture shocks' in the future, isn't he? Good for you all!!

PATTI, HANG IN THERE! I'm so glad you're keeping after that treadmill and keeping after the exercise! You KNOW that rotton, lazy FFM will get back to work and you'll win in the end!! Are you drinking enough water? I think it was AMANDA who mentioned that her weight loos was better on days when she drank enough. Between that and this challenge-plan that I'm on right now, I'm RELIGIOUS about getting my minimum 8 cups a day in, and it's really working well for me. I'll keep my fingers crossed that your very next WI is the one where things break loose for you!!!

KIM - WTG! on planning your night out so carefully. It's easier to enjoy a little indulgence when you know it's all accounted for and you can do it without breaking plan. Planning is just part of the new lifestyle, huh? on all that exercise, too!

LAVANDEL - GREAT that you're staying so OP! keep up the great progress!

WYLLENN - Hey lady! Zelma was right about the fat & fear holding a person back. Applies to me too anyway. Have fun at the park - ride something scary for us, ok? Maybe that stand-up coaster that flips you upside-down, or the thing that either shoots you straight up or drops you straight down at 10,000 MPH!? (Cuz there's NO way I'll ever be skinny enough to ride either of those! No guts where "UP" is involved.)

MICHELLE - It's good that you have those weights to keep building some muscle. EVERY little bit helps, for sure! When you get a chance to see those Northern Lights, post a pic for us if you can. That's definately a dream of mine, to see those lights in person!

Had a neat NSV this morning. At aerobics/weight class there's a mirror the full length of the room, and I'd been thinking there's some improvement in what I see over the last 5 weeks since I've been going regularly, and that was nice. But the real NSV was when someone else came up to me and said "wow, valerie, look how far you've come!" She made my day!

Well, excuse me now while I go lick the very last calorie of carefully measured peanut butter off my plate, now that the celery is gone, and then I'm off to do, you know, stuff. I'm burnin' daylight!

***SHARON - Good to have you back. I was just wondering where you were off to. I hope you had a wonderful visit with the folks, and I'm glad you've been getting all that walking in!!

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Hi Ladies - Just dropping in to say I peeked at the scale...and let's just say for now that it's NOt 322.5!!! In a good way though! Yippee! FINALLY! (Nothing huge though.) I hope I can lose more by Tuesday...get a big chunk of my 10 pounds goal coming off, maybe? What will you all do when I'm not complaining next week? LOL! Hope everyone is well! I will check in later chickies!

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valerie i may not be drinking enuff water i am drinking green tea though if that counts!yay its friday 2 days of rest!
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Valerie -- Perhaps I will pick the scariest ride and go for it!!!

Lilion, you have fun too!

And Zelma, Valerie is right, you are right to offer that freedom to all of us. I teared up too! You spoke the truth!

Everyone have a great day!!
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