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Lost_here84 01-26-2006 02:02 PM

Question..???
 
Hey everyone, i just had a question, it seems that every doctor that i talk to...insists that when u are 300 + the best way to lose weight is surgery. :mad: Surgery isn't really the road that i am personally wanting to go down, and everytime i tell the doctors and nurses "No thank you this is something i want to do on my own" ...well they kinda blow me off and still want me to think about my surgery options. Sooo..my question is, Does anyone else have this problem....annnd am i crazy for trying to do this on my own without the help of surgery???

Thanks!!

-Christina :wave:

Lilion 01-26-2006 02:23 PM

Christina:

Not only are you not crazy, I think your doctors are doing their patients a MAJOR disservice by just assuming they need surgery. Of course sugery works. If you ate nothing but a couple of tablespoons of nutritional suppliment every few hours for several months you'd lose weight too. Surgery has significant risks and the fact is, if you don't change your lifesyle, even after surgery, you can gain all that weight back. Don't get me wrong, I believe surgery is the right option for some people, but if it isn't necessary I won't let anyone cut me open. People CAN do this without surgery. It isn't fast and it isn't easy, but it is absolutely possible.

To my knowlege not a single woman on this board has had surgery. Take a look at some of the stat's in the threads.

I have lost 78 pounds - (actually 79, but I changed scales) - since last February. I'm following Weight Watchers.

Julee has lost 86 pounds in the same amount of time. I believe she's on WW as well.

Sharon has lost 51 pounds since August.

Zelma has lost 180 pounds!

Catherine has lost 268 pounds!

I also frequent a 100+ board on the official WW website. There are a number of women there who have lost significantly more than 100 lbs and are keeping it off.

I haven't had any doctors suggest surgery to me, although I have a friend who has. I know that some doctors seem to think that their patients are weak minded people who simply won't ever be able to do it without their help. They're wrong.

mechell81 01-26-2006 02:53 PM

Hello Christina...

I am in the same boat as you. I am just starting out on this weight loss journey...and I have had some of the same situations you have. My doctors started saying you know you could just have this taken care of now...etc. And then my mom who is skinny...keeps saying things like I know so and so and they got the surgery and they look great. And if you don't get the surgery you will die! She has not been that supportive ( but thats another story) But it seems like at least in my life that WLS is being pushed on everyone. And I for sure do not want WLS. The people on here are great with giving adivce and support. They are wonderful inspirations. Good luck in trying to lose weight.. you can do it! Hope everyone has a great day!

michelle

sapphire9 01-26-2006 03:42 PM

You're not alone. My doctor brings it up everytime I see him. The last time I saw him, in October, I had been on a medically supervised fast for two months and had lost about 30 lbs. He said, good, but if that fails there's always WLS! That really p---ed me off. Why do they think destroying a perfectly good organ, going through life threatening surgery with the possibility of complications is an easy solution? And the worst is that once you lose the weight you still have to be very vigilant and change your habits so that you don't gain it back. Any way you do it, losing weight is easy compared to the struggle to maintain the loss. This is not intended to criticize the people who have had the surgery, it all comes down to personal choice. Read the WLS threads as well as the posts of people who have lost by other methods. Next time you go to the doctor be very clear with him/her where you stand. Much success on your weight loss journey.

dolfingirl2000 01-26-2006 03:49 PM

Hi Christine~~:)

I agree with Michelle and with Lilion-youdo not0 need to have weight loss surgery just because you're over 300 lbs.! What the heck is wrong with that doctor that he/she is telling you that? I'll tell you what, since August 9, 2005, I have lost 84 lbs.--(I've lost 94 since last May but I kept going up and down with the same 10 lbs. until August:?: ) I now weigh 264.4 lb.s and I've been consistent with that weight for the past week. (It's driving me a little crazy, but that's another story. ;) ) Anyway--you keep coming here and talk to all of us and we'll help you through it. The ladies who come here are supportive, kind and you know what? We're in the same boat as you are so we actually do know what we're talking about--unlike this stupid doctor of yours. :mad: It burns me up when I hear that someone is basically being told that they HAVE to have WLS in order to lose a large amount of weight. It's not fair to the person who needs to lose the weight either. It's like saying that just because you let yourself get that big that you are too weak willed to get yourself healthy. It's not true and I don't want you to beleive it at all!!

:hug: Like I said--you keep coming here and you'll do okay.

sarahdafiregal 01-26-2006 03:58 PM

If I can put my two cents worth in I agree too. My doctor kept stressing to me how I needed to lose weight. His theory was to just cut back on the simple carbs that weren't good for you (potatoes, breads, cookies, cakes, rice, etc.), eat more veggies and exercise. Never did he mention surgery to me. Somedays I wonder if I'll ever lose the weight I need to. I came here looking for someone to talk to...someone to listen to me when I have bad days. Now that I've been here for a week or so I've not only found people that I can talk to, but something I never saw before...HOPE! Hope that I will lose the weight I need to. All you have to do is look at the weight trackers of our friends on this site and see that it can be done without surgery.

Good luck to you and remember YOU CAN DO IT!:yes:

Sarah

NotTheCheat 01-26-2006 04:26 PM

Often times people, including doctors, feel that it is a doctor's job to tell us what is wrong with us and what to do about it. I think really, a doctor's job is to be a parter in health and work with us to come to the best solution for us personally. A doctor should be able to lay out the information - i.e you are overweight, and here is why medically you might want to do something about it, and then offer options - nutrition, exercise, pills, surgery - whatever options are available, and then should talk about what would work best for you. Unless you are on a restricted medical plan or live somewhere where there are not many choices, if you don't like the way your doctor treats you - change doctors.

Heather 01-26-2006 06:32 PM

Just to add my $.02

I think surgery is a valid option for many people, but I agree that the medical community (and perhaps society as a whole) have a bunch of issues about it. My feeling is that if I CAN lose weight without the surgery then I am better off. And I can.

I have made a lot of lifestyle changes in the last 7 months, sheedding nearly 60 pounds in the process. I am learning how to eat healthy and exercise for the rest of my life.

There are no guarantees from any approach, surgery or on your own. So, I think you should go with the option you are most comfortable with. There are MANY of us here who can help you on your journey!

AmmiUK 01-26-2006 06:36 PM

Hi Christina,

Are you in the US? It just strikes me that the docs are pushing you to have WLS so they can get some money from you. I mean think about it, normally when a woman your size (mine too) wants or needs any surgery doctors normally say, oooooooooh No, you are too fat, you need to lose weight. So why encourage you to have surgery that you just don't want. It IS very possible to lose a lot of weight and then the only surgery you might be wanting or needing is a tummy tuck!! So you stick to your guns, tell the doctor to get off your back and if they want proof that people over 300 lbs can lose weight, tell them to come look at this site!!!

Hugs,

Ammi :dizzy:

HarpoChicoGroucho 01-26-2006 08:20 PM

I would think your doctor would only say that after you exhausted all of your options. WLS is the LAST resort in losing weight. I think the doctors and nurses have heard how hard it is to lose weight at 300+ and they think everyone would prefer to do it that way. I don't know about everyone else, but I know I'll need reconstructive surgey after this is done with, so I feel I'm saving myself one surgery by doing it on my own.

Tell our doctor he should pay a visit to 3FC and see ALL of the people who have been 300+ and haven't had WLS. I think it would broaden his perspective a bit.

dolfingirl2000 01-26-2006 10:00 PM

Okay--I have to add to the rant that I posted earlier--I agree with Wyllen that for some people it's a valid option--my problem is that it seems to me that the doctors are pushing for that option before trying other avenues. That's where I was coming from with my rant.

I know 4 people who've had that surgery and 1 of them did it because it was "the easy way". The other 3 needed it, but I know that one of them told me she looks like she needs the surgery again. :o Without making the lifestyle changes that are necessary, the surgery is a quick fix that won't work for good. That's where I'm coming from. :)

Talk to you later.

Vicki

NoLifeWithoutHorses 01-27-2006 02:12 AM

Of the two people I personally know who had WLS, one never came out of the hospital. It was a horrible, tragic loss of a dear man. The other lost the weight, but has already put a bunch back on. She DIDN'T make enough of a change of lifestyle after the surgery, and is now learning to do it "the long, hard way" that we're already doing - changing our way of life to include healthier diet and exercize! I agree with Ammi and others - doctors go for the quick - and PROFITABLE - fix, when they should be addressing the health issue from whatever angle best suits the patient. Personally I wasn't pushed towards surgery, but the two docs I asked for help just blew me off. One told me to lose 30 pounds and prove I was serious before she'd help me, and the other said "there's only one way to do it - eat less and burn more." Duh.

My personal opinion (for whatever it's worth) is to A) find your trigger(s), whether it's emotional or chemical. In my case wheat products - bread & all the other white stuff prompted cravings & binges. For other people it's other things - family stress, sugar, etc. Then it's easier to find a permanant path back to better health & a richer life. B) Keep surrounding yourself with the people who only see your success. Those who choose to see failure can go bring someone else down - not you! C) And of course, look daily at your successes and your goals, never dwell on your mistakes. We all have them, and we need to forgive ourselves as we would the people we love, and then move forward, learn and take the opportunity to make each day better as we can.

Oh yeah - and tell the doc's with the big Mercedes in the "No Parking" zone to go find another sucker.... And yes, I'm KEEPING MY GALL BLADDER TOO!!!! (Two years ago after my first GB attack, they said it would explode without immediate surgery. I've changed my diet, done a couple flushes, and NEVER had another attack. Where's the smiley with the pthhhhht! tongue when you need it?))

2cute2Bfat 01-27-2006 04:37 AM

I just want to say thank you for all the great responses.
I really appreciate each and every one of them.
THANKS !!!!!!

ZedAus 01-27-2006 07:07 AM

It certainly CAN be done without surgery!
 
Christina, I considered WLS briefly... VERY, VERY briefly, before choosing to change my lifestyle and lose the weight in a healthy way and in the right way for me. I needed to take control of food, not have something or someone control the food for me. (Aside from the fact that I am NOT into pain of any kind :^: ) That is what I am most proud of about my weight loss - I now have so much more control over what goes into my mouth. I'm not saying I have 'total' control, because I'm not sure I'll ever have that, but I am happy with where I am.

Weight loss surgery is needed for some people, but I'm sure there are WAY too many people being operated on than really have to be. I was talking to another teacher at work today who had weight loss surgery just over 6 weeks ago. She has recovered beautifully and is thrilled with the results so far, but I still can't help wishing that she had tried harder to lose the weight in another way. She is talking about the small amounts of food she can eat and how she isn't hungry and doesn't feel like eating. I am worried that she won't get the nutrients she needs if she listens to these signals and just doesn't eat. Still... I will keep my nose out of things and just be there for her if she needs me.

If you want any more information about what I have done to lose my weight (180lbs in 2 years so far) I have a Word document that I have written up about my journey. It may get a little boring at times, as I tend to go on and on about things, but there may be some info in there that could interest you. I am happy to email it to you if you want. Just PM me with your email address.

I have a link under my tracker for an Internet page that shows some pics of me, including 'before' ones. I am VERY pleased with where I am at now and always want to show off - vain huh? You may want to look though, just to see that everyday people CAN do this without surgery.

Good luck with your journey.:hug:

Take care,

Zelma

jillybean720 01-27-2006 12:30 PM

I have never had a doctor suggest surgery to me. Perhaps it is simply because I have never asked, though. I don't ask my doctors for weight loss advice or suggestions because I seem to always get the same responses (eat less, move more--duh!). Last year, at my gyn check-up, the doctor did ask me, "So, why aren't you on Weight Watchers?" :dizzy: At my gyn appointment yesterday, I was about 30 pounds lighter than last year--which isn't a lot, but it is improvement--and she didn't say anything about my weight at all.

I agree that surgery is an option for some people, but I tend to think that many (not all, but some) people think of it as a quick fix and don't realize they still have to exercise and eat right for their entire life. One woman I worked with had the surgery and was taking fistfulls of supplements with every meal once she lost the weight, and her hair was still falling out. I don't ever want to have to take that many pills every day (I have a hard enough time remembering to take 1 pill every morning!).

HeatherUSNWife 01-27-2006 03:54 PM

My mom had the surgery 2 years ago February. She has lost 60 pounds of the around 200 she needed to to be at her goal weight. For 2 years she hasn't had a single bubbly drink (not a soda of any kind, no champagne for toasts, not a single beer...etc)...she has been dealing with vomiting after meals because it just comes back up, heartburn, you name it.

She has been trying to talk me into the surgery. But, I look at her, and say to myself "why?". I will be the first to say that I have thought about it. I am even in the "process" with my Dr. See, in order to have the surgery, you have to see a Dr and a dietician for at least 6 months, and also a shrink. If you still feel you need it after 6 months and they all agree its a go, then you can have it. My Dr for one put me on the program, but assured me that in NO way do I have to actually go through with it, and he would rather I didnt.

Now, about my mom. I know from watching her that the reason she isnt losing more is because she hasnt changed the way she eats (aside from soda) she just eats less of it. She eats more junk food than all my kids and me put together, she piles on carbs and fats....so, until she changes her choices and lifestyle, she wont lose any more weight, surgery or not.

As far as I am concerned right now, 60 pounds in 2 years is easy with right choices...maybe even 2 or 3 times that much! Exercise and food choices will win in the end. And without the surgery, I can still have that beer, or soda, or whatever I feel like, I will still be able to eat a "normal" size meal any time I chose, and I will be able to have another child some day should I chose to. With the surgery, I wouldn't.

Just my 2 cents. I thought surgery was the way to go, being over 350 pounds, but learning HOW to make better choices and HOW to exercise for my size, have really opened my eyes to what I have to do if I am serious about losing my weight :)

christineu 01-27-2006 06:36 PM

I've never had a doctor suggest weight loss surgery for me, but its probably because my stomach disorder (gastroparesis) would disqualify me so its a mute point. I do read & post in the WLS forum here because it causes some of the same issues people have post-WLS such as only being able to eat a small amount at time and worrying about getting balanced nutrition (I still use my feeding tube for some of my nutritional support). I do think some of the people, like Heather's Mom, probably develop gastroparesis as a result of WLS; though it is rarely labeled as such in WLS patients.

I do think WLS has become too common place here in the US- it is like there is something wrong with you if you are obese and haven't had the surgery or aren't planning too. Kind of like years ago when you got married, it was expected that you would have children- as if no other options existed. We are obese- morbidly obese at 300+- and therefor we must need WLS to fix us, because there is no way we can do it on our own :dizzy:

Weight loss surgery is a wonderful tool, but it is nothing more then that- a tool...just like WW, counting calories and/or carbs, pilates, WATP, joining the gym, etc. No one can lose weight without using a variety of tools and no one set of tools works for everyone. WLS happens to be a much more powerful & potentially dangerous tool that needs to be considered carefully. For some people, it is the only solution- I know some people are very successful after having it and it does save lives. But just like any other powerful tool, it has a lot of risk and shouldn't be used unless it truly is the last resort. Sure it might take longer to lose the weight the old fashioned way, with our basic 'tools', but if we fail we can always decide to have the surgery. Once you have the surgery, there is no changing your mind- no going back to normal. I like the idea Heather's doctor has about the 6 month weight and all the steps to prove you are really committed to weight loss, not just weight loss surgery. Unfortunately WLS is also a big money maker, so there are always other surgeons who are willing to bend the rules and perform the surgery with little or no evaluation that it is right for the individual. What scares me is it seems like people are having it done at much lower weights and that they are doing it on younger & younger people. We really don't know what is going to happen long term- what happens as you age and your body changes? Can you met your nutritional needs with a compromised GI system when you're 70 or 80?

Jillybean- your comment about your doctor not even noticing you'd lost 30 pounds gets me. I've had it happen all too many times and heard it from too many friends. If you'd gained 30 pounds in the past year, I bet you would have heard about- right? Don't these doctors know how much we dread those lectures? That we sometimes avoid going to the doctors because we've either gained weight or not lost weight? Yet they can't make a simple statement to acknowledge we've lost weight...a small gesture that might help encourage us to continue to lose weight? Guess they forgot about psychology 101 somewhere along the way and that positive reinforcement is a more powerful then negative reinforcement & punishment. I think its wonderful that you've lost 30 pounds- that's almost 10% of your starting body weight, which is suppose to make a big difference in your overall healthy & health risk. :bravo: on your success!

CatherineM 01-28-2006 02:12 PM

I had a doctor, a new doctor, tell me I should have the surgery. He didn't even know me yet. I found a new doctor pronto. If anyone has a doctor hassling them to have the surgery and they don't want it, have them call me. I will explain in words even a Harvard educated MD can understand that it can be done naturally.

WildViolet 01-28-2006 04:48 PM

I also believe that WLS is beginning to be way overused. It gives great results fast, but you still have to watch your diet and exercise. I've finally come to the realization, after several attempts to follow this diet or that diet, that weightloss won't happen until I can successfully change my lifestyle. No amount of dieting or surgery will work if you don't change yourself.

Instead of medical insurance providers paying the extreme cost of WLS and any complications that result from it, seems that a lot of people wind up back in the hospital for complications, why not cover a healthier alternative. It would be cheaper to cover the cost of a dietician or a proven weightloss program like WW etc., and allow for a personal trainer and/or gym membership. It's just so much easier to go for the "quick fix".

NoMoreHurt 01-28-2006 05:06 PM

Hi,
I am new here BUT not new to being a fat chick BUT really don't know where to start however yes the DRS have tried the surgery stuff with me also and I am NOT doing it.

Too old to be young and to young to be old but so tired of hurting. :?: Hoping I am posting this right.

Surgery is simply not an option for me either.
~No More Hurt

HarpoChicoGroucho 01-28-2006 06:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WildViolet
I also believe that WLS is beginning to be way overused. It gives great results fast, but you still have to watch your diet and exercise. I've finally come to the realization, after several attempts to follow this diet or that diet, that weightloss won't happen until I can successfully change my lifestyle. No amount of dieting or surgery will work if you don't change yourself.

Instead of medical insurance providers paying the extreme cost of WLS and any complications that result from it, seems that a lot of people wind up back in the hospital for complications, why not cover a healthier alternative. It would be cheaper to cover the cost of a dietician or a proven weightloss program like WW etc., and allow for a personal trainer and/or gym membership. It's just so much easier to go for the "quick fix".

You can't get a dietician covered through insurance? I haven't had insurance in 5 years, so I don't know. You do have a good idea though, WildViolet. It would be SO much cheaper if they came up with alternate solutions. Isn't WLS over $15,000 in most cases? Extreme. I'm actually SAVING money through my new diet/exercise program.

BTW, welcome to the boards. (You too NoMoreHurt) Everyone is very supportive and encouraging. Don't be afraid to post your introductions!

kayleystar 01-29-2006 05:02 PM

Heather - It's stories like you said about your mom that made me NOT want to get it done.

Lost_here84 01-29-2006 07:22 PM

Wow Thanks for all the GREAT advice and comments! I personally know 5people that have had WLS of thoes 5 people only 3 of them have lived, and while 2 of thoes 3 lost a drastic amount of weight in short time period, they both are currently gaining it back. The 5th person....was force feeding herself Mcdonalds 3 months after the surgery. I just want to thank all of you for being so supportive and encouraging, it really helps a lot!

kayleystar 01-29-2006 07:37 PM

And just think! When you DO lose all your weight, you'll be able to have the bragging rights, because you EARNED it.

2LosinIt 01-29-2006 08:02 PM

Hi everyone... I'm pretty new here to this site... have been reading a lot (even THAT'S been helpful) but haven't really connected with a group. I know you all seem to know each other really well... but you also seem so welcoming, I'm hoping one more might be ok. I'm doing the Weight Watchers thing on my own (not the meetings), but I have a partner doing it with me, and since we live together we can plan together and give each other help. It just seems, though, that having such a wide network of people doing this can also be such a great support for all. I have a significant amount to lose--I'd like to lose 120 (you know.. I've never admitted that to anyone!). I started on Jan 6, and have lost 10.5 as of my last weigh in on THursday, so I'm feeling pretty good. I know that there are good weeks and bad weeks, but I'm determined to stay with it THIS TIME.

The only time I've had success in the past has been with WW (well...if we don't count once due to a really bad relationship break up.. heh heh...) but never stuck with it for the long term. Long term--here I come!

I'm pretty new to any type of forum, so I don't really know much about threads and posts and all those cool things you put on...but I figure learning that can be fun, too. I also discovered fitday thanks to this site and am keeping everything logged there as well.

Well, enough for a newbie..... hope to connect!

2LosinIt 01-29-2006 08:06 PM

Maybe this was the wrong thread.. (see? I'm new!) becasue this was specific to a question.... I'm happy to take suggestions!

kayleystar 01-29-2006 08:15 PM

Hello and :welcome3: You may want to join the Hens, or 300+ forum! You are certainly welcome in either! :) I hope you find all the encouragement you need to achieve your goal. No one judges you here, so you DONT have to worry! :)

2LosinIt 01-29-2006 08:29 PM

Thanks kayleystar... will look around some--may see you again!

Bifocals 01-30-2006 01:16 AM

Hello ZedAus
I'm fairly new here. Your post and pictures are inspiring. You have every right and reason to be proud. You offered to make your journey notes available. I'd like very much to read them. I've got to lose 145 lbs, plus I have physical limitations, and am over fifty. :mouse:
BF

Heather 01-30-2006 08:56 AM

Just to echo a hello to the new ones -- feel free to join us in the ongoing numbered threads. And if you are looking to make exercise a habit, join us in the exercise thread -- We'll start a newe one for Feb in a couple of days!!

maegdaeien 01-30-2006 09:17 AM

I think it's absolute crap that a doctor would try to coerce you into a surgery that is not only dangerous, but that will not help you out in the long run. The father of a friend of mine died a few days after his surgery because the doctor had accidentally knicked a vein, and they didn't figure that out until it was too late. Not only that, but as several others have been saying, it certianly doesn't reinforce the importance of healthy food intake and exercise! He probably just is used to people who aren't willing to work for it, and honey, it sounds like he totally misjudged you and I'm proud of you for that.

Oh, and wyllenn-- I LOVE YOUR PUGS.

LAnneCarrington 01-30-2006 02:41 PM

Contrary to many a belief, weight loss surgery is NOT a cure-all nor a permanent solution to weight loss. This is a procedure that requires some serious lifestyle changes for the rest of the lives of patients that get these types of surgeries. It is a MAJOR operation, and one of the pre-op requirements is a psychiatric evaluation, to make sure the patient understands what this involves as well as has realistic expectations of said surgery.

And like any other surgery, it has its risks and complications, including infections and death, which my own surgeon was able to calculate at about 2 percent of risks happening, but they are indeed possible nevertheless.

Weight loss surgery is also meant for those that are 'morbidly obese' to have done when other options and weight loss plans have failed. This isn't something that should be recommended on a routine basis for the reasons I stated earlier.

I am suprised any doctor is pushing for their patients to have surgery when it is obvious the patient has no interest in it. Many 300+ people haven't had surgery and done well on healthy weight-loss plans on their own, and I have great respect for them, because I don't always have that kind of restraint! Good for them, I say.

I have lost 70 pounds on my own, but it took almost two years to do it and I am a candidate for lap band surgery; which is now being in the process of getting things together and get a date eventually. I was to have gastric bypass done, but a rare condition was discovered prior to surgery in the hospital and obviously, they couldn't do the Roux-n-Y bypass and referred me for the lap band instead. But in my case, surgery options were agreed upon by both my PCP and myself.

thinthinker 01-30-2006 04:07 PM

Lori: I'm surprised with your terrific progress (70 pounds) that you or your Dr. are still considering surgery. I would think you should be so happy and proud of your accomplishments thus far.

dolfingirl2000 01-31-2006 12:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LAnneCarrington
Contrary to many a belief, weight loss surgery is NOT a cure-all nor a permanent solution to weight loss. This is a procedure that requires some serious lifestyle changes for the rest of the lives of patients that get these types of surgeries. It is a MAJOR operation, and one of the pre-op requirements is a psychiatric evaluation, to make sure the patient understands what this involves as well as has realistic expectations of said surgery.

And like any other surgery, it has its risks and complications, including infections and death, which my own surgeon was able to calculate at about 2 percent of risks happening, but they are indeed possible nevertheless.

Weight loss surgery is also meant for those that are 'morbidly obese' to have done when other options and weight loss plans have failed. This isn't something that should be recommended on a routine basis for the reasons I stated earlier.

I am suprised any doctor is pushing for their patients to have surgery when it is obvious the patient has no interest in it. Many 300+ people haven't had surgery and done well on healthy weight-loss plans on their own, and I have great respect for them, because I don't always have that kind of restraint! Good for them, I say.

I have lost 70 pounds on my own, but it took almost two years to do it and I am a candidate for lap band surgery; which is now being in the process of getting things together and get a date eventually. I was to have gastric bypass done, but a rare condition was discovered prior to surgery in the hospital and obviously, they couldn't do the Roux-n-Y bypass and referred me for the lap band instead. But in my case, surgery options were agreed upon by both my PCP and myself.

You're the kind of girl who will do great with this surgery--not because it'll be easy, but because you have already started making the lifestyle changes that are necessary to take the weight off and keep it off. I don't think there's anything wrong with someone having it--I just have a problem with the people who have it when they haven't been trying to lose weight through diet or exercise. The people who I know who've had it used it for a "quick" weight loss but they didn't really change their diets so they're gaining the weight back. :( I don't care how much psychiatric evaluations they want you to have--I'm thinking that almost anyone can listen to what has to be done and say they understand and that they'll do it--meaning watching their food and actually exercising--and then when it's time to actually walk the walk, :^: they just can't do it. Most people aren't morbidly obese because they eat too much due to hunger--let's face it--most of the time that we're eating it's because we're

bored
unhappy
angry
depressed
lonely

and I'm sure that we can all add more to that list. Those are the issues that should be dealt with before any kind of WLS is performed. If a person can start to make the eating changes necessary it will show. If a person can make exercise and integral part of their life--it too will show.

Good luck with the lap band surgery.:hug: It's got to be scary to make a decision like that, but we're here for you. Let us know what happens.

Vicki

CruisingForALosing 02-06-2006 09:29 AM

Hi Christina,

I'm new here and I did think about doing WLS for a few years but decided against it after losing my mom to an unrelated surgery. Truth be told, even though I've tried many diets in the past to lose weight, I've never seriously tried to change my lifestyle over the long haul; just quick fixes. Since I don't enjoy pain nor do I relish the idea of being cut open (and the fact that heart disease and diabetes runs on both sides of the family), I have decided to make some serious lifestyle changes.

I've only had a few doctors suggest WLS to me, most of my current doctors haven't mentioned WLS nor anything about my weight, unless I bring up something about it first, not sure if that is a good or bad thing. Surgery may be an option for some, but not for me.

Zelma, I would be interesting in getting more info on how you lost your weight. Looks like we started out as the same weight and you would be a great inspiration for me.

Thank You,
Michelle


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