300+ And Ready To Try Again....#714
 

WELCOME !!!

We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.

We want to invite everyone to join us in our journey.
We share laughter and tears.
We share what works for us and what doesn't.
We often use a "Topic of the Day" for discussion.

Motivational Monday
Tuesday Tips
Wednesday Wish List .. and What you are doing to obtain it.
Thankful Thursday
FUN Friday ... don't wait until you lose your weight.
Sit-up Saturdays - any physical activity
Share your Success Sunday

These are not required topics ...just ideas to share. We often find them very helpful. We also share heartaches and fears ... joys and celebrations.

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We have a bi-weekly 2x2 Challenge.
Our goal is to lose 2 lbs in 2 weeks.
We have a long term goal of losing 300+ lbs within our 300+ group in 2005.

We have found this thread to be more than just a support group...
we have found it to become a home. We invite you to join us.

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:angel: Hi everyone. You are all such angels to me! Thank you for all of the inspiration.

Hippievanlady: :lol: You crack me up. I guess the warrenty on the scales go out the window too. Thank you so much for sharing. I feel better. After I posted this afternoon I went and swam for 1 hour. I swam laps for 30 minutes straight without stopping then did water arobics the other 30 minutes.

Twinkled: I am happy for you to have a neighbor to walk with. That will be nice exercise plus you can really get to know your neighbor. Win win situation.

Sue: Oh, I know how awful that is. I was once doing Nanny work for a family and one morning I got there and it was a normal mornig. Then the police showed up. They starte questioning me about one of the children (girl 3 years old) being taken to emergency the night before because she had been penetrated with something. I had already given my two weeks notice to quit working for them prior to this happening and I only had about two days left. Praise the Lord because I was so uncomfortable in that house knowing that someone did that to that baby and they asked me all kinds of questions almost like I did it. I was not blamed because the Mom said she was fine when she got home from work and I went home. It was later after their baths that she noticed. It was very scarry and it also ended my career as a nanny. I used to love it before that but it was just to scarry. Hang in there. Thank God you had someone with you. It was probably some mixed up kid that said they saw you. Just try to keep your head up. :)

DoxieMom: Welcome, Welcome, Welcome. I have been here for one week and the inspiration is wonderful and motivating and finally I don't feel like I am the only person in the world that goes through things. You will enjoy it. Check in often and get inspired. :D

Well, my Wednesday wishlist is of coarse that I can't wait to be able to take my weight on one scale. What I am going to do about it is: be an active member of this board. Exercise every day that I am able to. Eat only if I am hungry! Pray for God to help me to get to the size he designed my body to be at!

As always, thank you all. I love you guys! :love:

Blessings,
Dogpal

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I am sneeking a post. Life is crazy right now :?:. Hope everyone is doing well. Hopefully it will slow done in a little bit and I can start posting again.

I just had to stop in and do this...

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I AM UNDER 300!!!! WOOHOO!!!!

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Dogpal - well if it was a student, the security guard will be in trouble for sure because he did not go through the proper channels. If it was another adult, perhaps not as much trouble, be he still should have gone through the proper channels. My concern is what if this child goes home and says "guess what mom and dad, a security officer said that this happened when I went to the restroom with this person" so then his parents freak out and then they contact that school and then it's gonna go into havoc mode. :( I gonna talk to the principal tommorrow to see if anything was found out.

Scooter - I'm SOOOOOO jealous! Congrats!!!! I can't wait til I get to that mark!


Well everyone, I just got back from my dr appt. My lab work gave me a lot of info. No diabetes, no high cholesterol, matter of fact it's lower than was expected. Liver function is good, everything was great, except I had a high uric acid level, but that was because I had to wait for them to draw the blood and I was holding it in hehehe. Also my Triglycerides were high. I believe it was 171 when the high max should be 140. So I have to watch my fat intake.

She said other than that, once I lose weight, that should come down.

So I'm good to go. She yelled at me tho for not getting my yearl paps so I scheduled that and go in next month. Other than I feel better. Still have that major headache from crying earlier :( but I will know more tommorrow when I talk to the principal.

Take care everyone...

Sue...

Scooter--yippee!! :dance: :cb: :jig: :dancer: :jig: :high: :cheer: :bravo:

Sue Marie--Hope all goes well.

I wasn't going to recommend this book until I was sure for myself wether the messages worked. I too am tired of reading books that offer no help. But I have read exerpts from the book from Christianbooks.com on the day that I gave my weight worries completely over to God. I found this book called The Lord's Table by Mike Cleveland. I was totally ecpecting God to show me something and I stumbled on this book just before I was about to shut the computer off and go to sleep--thinking that God may not have heard me. If you can, please look on the web site for this book. Amazon gives it a 5 out of 5. Everyone who's read this book has lost lots of weight and most of all has gained a tighter relationship with God. I have ordered the book and the Lord's Table Leader guide. Both cost a little under $30. I think it's worth it-- you're worth it to God. If this doesn't work... I don't know what else to do God. SO I'm trusting that this will work for me and those who buy or borrow this book. Amen.



~Mochahontas

Hi EVERYONE!!!

Just a quickie post. I'm here. I just don't find time to pop on the site and get the messages. I'm lucky if I get to check my e-mail.....LOL

Anyhow, Congrats to everyone who lost weight...YAY!! And those who didn't lose any this week...KEEP IT UP! I haven't lost any in 2 weeks, BUT I haven't gained........

Take care, talk to ya'all soon!

Confession Time
 

Hello Friends,
I have to confess. I have totally lost it today! Not only did I lie to myself..I lied to you guys. I am so mad and disappointed with myself. I posted earlier and stated that I was no longer going to go to fast food for two weeks. It was almost as if someone dared me...As soon as I made that post..I went to take my brother to a job interview and I dropped him off and said I would be right back and I went straight to Burger King because the little girl I am babysitting was hungry and I thought I would buy her some chicken tenders...so what did I do? I bought myself something too. BUT...I looked in my WW book of "dining out" and looked up Burger King and found that the chicken ceaser salad was only 3 points. So, I ordered a ranch dressing and a fat free dressing...I ended up using the fat free...but I did add the croutons. Anyhow, I guess I could have done worse...but I was content with the thought that I had gotten the salad instead of anything else. Well, then I did ok...ended up going to my mother in laws for dinner...BIG MISTAKE. My downfall is her house! ...HOW DO I AVOID THAT ONE? She is one that is known to cook for an army and to top it off...she makes like three to four meat dishes because "everyone likes different stuff"...i say let them eat what there is or forget it. SO...she made...fried potatoes with corned beef in it ...fried steak...corn w/butter...baked bbq chicken legs...and to top it off..she had a store bought swirl cake with whipped cream frosting that she recieved from her daughter for mothers day. SO...I tried a little of each..I only had 1 point left for the day because I had eaten badly as I mention in my previous post ...and there I sat...i ATE AND ATE...it was like i had been starving! I ate two plates and then went and got two huge pieces of cake. When i left there...i felt miserable..so miserable that i thought i was going to throw up! and then the dissappointment set in..so whatever satisfaction i thought i was going to get out of it...just went right down the drain. I have been mad at myself all night so much that it is now 12:43 in the morning and i cant sleep...thinking of how much more dissappointed i will be at my next weigh in. I cant handle seeing that i gained back any of that five i lost. i mean, i know i still have 5 days til i weigh in again..but can i do anything before then that will take away the damage i did tonight?
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR RRRRRRRRR
I AM SO MAD AT MYSELF! I CANT BELIEVE I DID THAT! And i am so afraid that it will happen again. i mean, its my mother in laws home and she is one of those mother in laws that wont do things just because you ask her..like make a special exception on the night that i may be coming for dinner..even though everyone "likes different things". honestly i believe its because she doesnt know how to cook any different than the way she always has. she is an awesome cook...but more for someone who needs to gain weight ;)
I dont know...and now that i have whined and complained all i can..i feel like i shouldnt even send this post because you all are doing so good and i dont want to be the downer for anyone! i just need some suggestions though...i feel like i am just going to spend the entire night crying because i dont know what to do and i am so frustrated with myself. :(
If anyone has any suggestions ...please tell me...
sorry to be such a downer... i just dont know what to do. :?:
But thank you to all who did read this mile long post! You guys are great. i just needed some venting space and i am so glad i can do that here. i will try and be more posotive next time..thanks everyone!

Let's Try This Again...
 

Right. I'll try and salvage what I can of what I lost yesterday... if I can remember everything that is!

Yesterday I had a 'bad' day. I felt soooo lazy. I woke up feeling tired. Hubby grinds his teeth at night and tries to take over the bed so sometimes my first two hours of sleep are a matter of wrestling with him and cringeing because all my life my one and only non-negotiable pet peeve has been teeth grinding!!! It just goes through me... and of course the love of my life is a CHAMP. It's like clockwork... he begins cuddling with me, then he rolls over to his stomach, then his side, then his back and the grinding begins... my nights begin by trying to force myself to sleep as he plows through his positions :lol: And, he definitely holds his breath for long periods of time so I'm sure he probably has sleep apnea as well... How does one go about getting tested for this?

Anyway I felt so lazy in the morning that I had to force myself to make a bowl of porridge for breakfast. Then I fell asleep on the couch around 12, woke up at 1, had a snack of low fat cheese, grapes, and crackers because I thought it would give me energy!!! Next thing I know I woke up at 4!! Then I started scrambling to tidy up, make salads and stuff for dinner because we had a movie date. When hubby got home I buckled down showered and did some exercise. I did feel better but was disappointed in myself for 'wasting a day.'

On a more positive note... We went to see Kingdom of Heaven and thoroughly enjoyed it! The first good movie I've seen in a long time... We go almost everyone wednesday and I've been sooo disappointed in movies! Oh, I ate almost a whole small bag of popcorn, but I didn't feel that bad since it wasn't an impulse buy. I was good all day because I knew I wanted to get some popcorn - haven't had it in months! (and my snack was my lunch. I had tuna, salad, and a wholemeal pita for dinner).

Anyway... I just read everyone's updates... Sue marie, I am soooo sorry that happened to you! I'm sure the wierdness will go away soon and hopefully the ignorant person who said that about you will be reprimanded for going about it the absolute wrong way!

Dixiemom, Welcome!!! The short time that I have been posting here has been so rewarding I can't even tell you... keeps you from falling through the cracks... I hope you enjoy posting here and reading about our diverse and crazy lives...

Scooter, A BIG CONGRATS TO YOU!!! You go girl!!!

I know I wrote all sorts about sweating, weighing, exercising blah blah blah but I can't remember it... lol

Thankful Thursday blurb: I'm thankful to find this board for support and I'm thankful that I woke up and decided to change my life around for good!!!

Love you girls.. good luck everyone!!!

Testing For Sleep Apnea
 

Biggirl27
I was reading your post and you asked about sleep apnea..how to test for it...well, I have sleep apnea as well. The way i was tested was that i went to my regular physician and explained my symptoms to her and she referred me to the sleep center * cant remember the exact name of it right now. anyhow, they have you come to the hospital and stay the night. The place that i stayed at had a nice room..not a hospital bed..dont worry. and a tv etc. however, noone is allowed to stay with you..obviously. They hooked up some sticky things..like they use on your chest at times...they have several so your hair is just peachy in the morning..lol. anyhow, you have these things hooked up and you finally go to sleep and they begin monitoring you. They have a camera watching you at all times and they can hear everything in your room. (Dont eat beans before going ;) )
The doctor then will schedule an appt. to discuss his findings of the test and will schedule a second sleepover which you will be using the CPAP machine. They are very accomidating and nice while you are there.
I have to say it is a wonderful thing! I get used to it and think..oh i hate this thing and go without it for a while..then when i decide to put it on and try it to see if it is making any difference really..i realize i dont know everything like i think i do. lol.
It is defenately worth every second of getting it checked out! Good luck and hope this helps. :)

Still here
 

Sue Marie ~ I'm sure that was traumatic for you. I hope things will go well with the principal. I can only imagine how you felt.

Scooter ~ So happy for you! Go 200s!

Catherine ~ I think you should consider writing a book. You describe our experience so accurately. I think you could open a lot of people's eyes and help us get more understanding in the world.

As for me, I blew it yesterday with a binge. I am PMSing and I went to McDonalds and took it out on a chicken sandwich and fries and...

I'm back OP today, but annoyed with myself because now I probably won't see a loss. I sabotaged myself again. Along with PMS (I have horrible mood swings and depression during this time of the month), work sucks and my family always gets on my nerves. I have a tendency to medicate myself with food, which I did. I could eat a horse -- and a couple of his friends -- right about now! But I won't. :(

I'm still trying.

Twinledpink, Don't You Give Up!!!!!
 

Twinkled, I'm so sorry you're having a rough time of things. Don't feel bad for having a hard time and writing a long post - that's what they're there for. I do read all the posts and try to provide support when someone needs it because Lord knows I have been supported here!

HM... here I am feeling down on myself because I've had the munchies and eaten some extra fruit and nuts... reading other people's experiences is a real reality check!!!

Twinkled, I would ask you to

1. take some time to read the Success stories board - and to read the weigh in boards - those are real boosters for me when I am not doing too well.

2. Another thing you could do is try to stop yourself while you are still thinking of eating something off plan and ask yourself how you think you might be feeling about that 5 minutes after it's over AND how you might feel about that on weigh in day. That usually stops you.

3. Carry a small notebook with you wherever you go. When you have an impulse to eat something you shouldn't, write in you 'journal' about why you want to eat it, what the consequences are, and what's happening in your life that day. You will probably see a trend. My trend is stress! And, by stopping and writing you are taking the time to distract yourself which will also help you determine if you really want to make that points sacrifice or if you're just stressed or tired or PMSing.

4. As for your mother in law... this is a tricky one, but I think it could be easily handled. Could you come over and help mom-in-law prepare when you're invited to dinner? That way, you could set your portions of meat aside and cook them in a healthier fashion? For example, if she's making fried steak, you could cut the fat off your piece and flash fry it in water and olive oil with veg for a steak stir fry...? You could also bring a salad with you...

I have a difficult question about the mom in law issue actually... Do you feel that you *want to be tempted* when you go over for dinner? I ask because she sounds the way my mom was when I was growing up... she had no idea about 'healthy eating' Most of our veg were steeped in oil or cooked to death with meat - and it was fabulous!!! She is such a terrific cook! Anyway, when I was in College my dieting always fell apart when I went home to visit because I knew what the situation was, but I never prepared before hand (and I had no idea about nutrition and healthy options). I always imagined myself just eating a plain salad while the family scarfed down collard greens, fried chicken, steak, mashed potatos, chocolate fudge cake, etc.. needless to say, I would soon find myself joining them. AND THEN I WOULD BLAME MY MOM!!!

Anyway, if you really want to do this, take control of the situation and you will see a change. It becomes easier the more you do it. Now, STOP beating yourself up. This was just one day. You can change your life around in one day. Tomorrow is your day. Take it one hour at a time, if you have to.

Twinkledpink: Don't you give up! We ALL have times like this. You weren't here for my fajita rant! http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/show...012#post797012
I assure you...I thought I'd gain about a dozen pounds from that! But you know what, I lost! Having one "bad" day is NOT going to make you stop losing weight unless you give up and start doing it every day. I regularly have had "bad" days since starting this in February. Haven't gained once. Had one week where I stayed the same, lost all the others. Burger King wasn't cheating if you had the points to cover it. MIL's house, well, that may have been a slip, but these things happen. Heck, on Mother's day I ended up at a family BBQ. Had some kind of potato cassarole, seven-layer salad and a chicken breast AND a hamburger. Did I need the hamburger? NO. Did I have the points for it? Probably not. Did I destroy my diet with it? NO, I started over the next day and have been good all week. My WI is tomorrow. It's entirely possible I'll see the results of last weeks not-so-good eating. I hope not, but if so I'll know that I simply have to be more careful.

You CAN do this! If MIL is so hot to cook what people like, try to get her to cook something special for you! My MIL is the exact same way. However, I'm lucky because they both have cholestrol problems and FIL is diabetic so she works toward healthy. But I assure you, if I were on a necessary high-fat, high-carb diet...she'd make me something special. I bet yours would do it for you if you tried asking. The rest is up to you. You have to be the person who decides the number and sizes of portions. And I'm sure you CAN do this.

Since you mention points, you must be on WW. Try carrying your books with you so you can look stuff up and your journal so you'll write down everything. This is one time that obsession with food is a good thing! ;)

Hang in there!

Lost .5 last night..or at least that's what the scale said. But then after the meeting I had to go to the bathroom again...I had felt a little bloated before I weighed in...so I got back on the scale (sneaky me) afterwards and it had gone down...so yay!

Our leader told us about the new Boca Chili Bowl...150 calories, 1 gram fat, 12 grams fiber, 20 grams protein...2 points for the whole shebang and she said it tasted yummy. I know they are carrying it here at gelson's but it might be worth looking into.

Twinkled: Is there anything you can do to undo the damage you did at dinner last night? No...nothing healthy anyways. But you knew that. All you can do is start over again today and not do it again. We will all overeat eventually. That is the difference between a lifestyle change and a diet. When you change your lifestyle you have the wiggle room to indulge now and then and still be fine. With a diet, it's about deprivation and punishment. We tell ourselves that we have to be perfect, and when we do something less than perfect (overeating on yummy MIL foods) we punish ourselves...often by continuing to eat. So....you identifid her cooking as a trigger..that was step 1. If she is so willing to cook ots of stuff so that everyone will be happy, it sounds like she will be willing to be accomodating to your efforts and preferences too. Sometimes we eat certain foods because there is no alternative. Maybe next time, she will put out a nice fruit salad...so that when everyone else is eating their cake, you can also have a sweet dessert...that is helthy!

Scooter...YAY!!!!

Doxie: Welcome!

I have to run...need a quick shower before my nail appointment.

Oh...AI commentary....thank you America for finally getting it right. Whew. I was going to hurt the TV set if Anthony stole Vonzell or Carrie's votes and became the next Nicki McKibben. At this point, I still love bo but no longer care who wins because the correct people are in the top 3. Ta-ta Anthony..have fun in coach.

Wow!!!! We have all these new people here, yay. I'm so glad this thread is more active. I must confess that I haven't been around much this week, not because I've done so bad, I've just been sorta depressed. I know that I am not going to give up though, today is a new day and I have the WHOLE day off..yay! I am at my cousin's house, house sitting for the day. So today I will make sure that I get my walk in, I'll do another walk Friday and then Saturday, and I should be all set with my four a week quota.

Anyways, I plan on going to get a grinder now, and I WILL report the good news later..the good news that I have done my two mile walk ;p

Talk to you all later, and I look forward to getting to know you all better....


Melissa

Now that I've done the cheerleader thing for Twinkledpink and finished another hearing...

Good Morning Ladies! :D

The day is only just starting and it's a busy, busy day! I managed to overdraft my checking account and had to start the day by running to the bank to deposit cash from another account at another bank. I swear, I'm going to change all my accounts to one bank! We only use the one we have because DH had it for a dozen years prior to our getting married and because we have all these autopay things directed there! There must be a way to get them changed easily and quickly so I don't keep doing this. :mad:

Anyway, then I had a not-so-healthy breakfast of bacon, egg and cheese on toast from the deli upstairs in my office building. I figure it at about 10 pts...(bacon 3, egg 2, cheese 2, bread 3). NOT what I wanted to spend on breakfast, but quick and I was late this morning. Now I've done two hearings and can finally breathe. I really could use coffee. The Diet Coke isn't handling the caffine needs this morning. I also forgot to bring lunch, so I guess it's salad from the state cafeteria for lunch. I just have to make myself avoid the parmesan peppercorn dressing - my favorite :T , but SOOO fattening!

My big plans of exercise last night went out the window when I came home to find DH mowing the lawn. After that there was NO WAY he was going to the Y. I suppose I should have gone by myself, but I didn't... I have just GOT to quit being so lazy!

Well, on to replies:

SCOOTER! I'd been thinking about you!!! I was waiting to dance with you!
Sue: I'm sure it'll all work out fine. Probably the guard has an overly-active dirty mind! You have yourself, the child and the other adult all saying what really happened. Don't worry. ((hugs))

Biggirl: I've been wondering this since I was about five years old....what the heck is porridge anyway? :?: Also, I can't wait to see Kingdom of Heaven. Folks on my SCA yahoo groups have been talking it up like crazy! The last movie I saw was Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. Really funny, but then I have a great fondness for British humor.

Tashabella: You hang in there! Like I said before, one slip does not a diet kill! As long as you don't make it a habit, you are going to be fine. Personally, I STARVE when I have PMS, it's like I just can't get enough to eat! That's been the hardest time for me. My stomach literally growls!

DoxieMom (and anyone else I missed): Howdy! :wave: We're glad to have you!

Well, I suppose I should try to get some actual work done today! I've not had a very good time of it so far this week as productivity goes. So....back to the grind.

Have a happy, healthy OP day!

Oh glorias PMS.
 

Tashabella: That darn PMS is a killer. I'm fighting it too. My down fall during this time is salt and sweet cravings. I used to eat Doritos and M&Ms together. This time I found myself a substatute that worked for me. Quaker makes Quakes rice snacks.I like the cheddar cheese ones. They worked perfect instead of Doritos. And they make my mouth sore after a reasonable amout, instead of allowing me to eat the whole bag like the others do. AI found sugar free malt balls at the candy store. They were a fair trade for the M&Ms. The sugar free chocolate helps in its own way because too much has a laxitive effect. You only over do it once !!! I ate what felt like a pig-out amount. Then when I checked my self I had done 1/3 the damage I would have with the old junk. I felt satisfied and not like I was restricted. I'd love to hear any substatutes anyone finds that fill in better than the fat stuff..CELERY IS NOT AN OPPTION.

TwinkledPink: I'm sorry you feel so bad about over indulging at MILs house. That is a place you go to socialize and for some reason, we tend to think food and company MUST go together.Its being a good host to feed your guests. MIL is set in her way of hosting her family. An alternitive that would allow you to visit with less tempation would be to not visit at meal time. Or even leaving when its time. Any way, I here when you need me. And the support inhere is fantastic so don't give up girly.

I have been doing well and staying op very well. Other than depression from other parts of my life, my eating hasn't shown the effects.. Been very lucky with lots of praying !!Good luck and strength to us all.

Glad to Be Here
 

Hi ladies! I am so happy to be in this group. Thank you all for the wonderful welcome. As I mentioned before, I have been really sick and had prided myself on staying OP while being off from work and sick. Well... I broke down last night and rummaged through the pantry until I found some PB cookies we forgot to toss when making the junk food "sweep." I slathered PB on the cookies and put them in the micro and the whole time I was eating them, I knew I shouldn't have been, but I think that d*mn prednisone makes me so hungry. But, I'm not going to beat myself up over it. I jumped right back on this morning and plan on going back to work tomorrow, and I do so much better at work.

Twinkle - I too used to have the MIL problem. Mine is what you call a "sabotager." She would intentionally bring chocolate iced brownies, donuts, etc. over to the house saying they were a special treat for the hubby and my son. My husband actually finally took a stand on my behalf (been married for almost 18 years) and told her not to bring another thing into this house. If she brought that crap over, she was just going to take it home with her. I was sooooo proud of him! Now when we go to her house for dinner, I actually preplan my meal and even prepare it at home and take my entire meal with me. I always make sure I bring myself some dessert (strawberries on a rice cake, sprinked with splenda, and topped with some FF cool whip) and enjoy my meal and dessert with everyone else. Once she realized I was serious, she has finally given up. And as everyone else said, don't beat yourself up over it - everyone makes mistakes. Pick yourself up and start all over.

Scooter - YEA FOR YOU! :dancer: :encore:


Thought for the day - "Write it before you bite it."

Pink-calm down. One of the seven habits of successful weight loss maintainers, is to expect slips, but to never give up. I used food as a sedative for so many years, that when I stopped, I have had to learn how to deal with a whole range of emotions that I used to simply avoid. Sometimes I feel like an alien from another planet. The thing I am most thankful for is I have achieved a calm that I have never known before in my life. I wish I could explain where it has come from, so maybe I could share it. I describe it as a bubble of calm that surrounds me. Even when people are freaking out around me, it can't seem to touch me. My best guess is that since I am no longer lying to myself and others about my eating, I have become an open book. There is a relief that comes from having nothing to hide. I wake up every day and try to have an attitude of gratitude for having enough. Just keep trying.

Scooter-Man I am jealous. I haven't been in the 2's in 15 years, and then I was only there for about a year. When I hit 299, I am going to sign up for scuba lessons. When I hit 350, I'm going to buy a bicycle. Do something really nice for yourself, you have earned it.

Tashabella-I am writing a book. It's called "The Lying in Bed Diet." Kind of a how someone can end up weighing 600 pounds, and then get their life back. I wrote a lot in the beginning, being in bed most of the time, I didn't have much else to do. I only write a little at a time now because I am caught up to the present, and don't know how it's going to end yet. I know how hopeless being super morbidly obese can be, and I want to give other people the hope that I have found. I believe in the AA idea that to keep it, you have to share it.

I'm going to go hit the sewing machine. I am making a new cover-up/towel for the pool. Being big doesn't mean I can't be stylin'.

I posted a pic of my OOAK Barbie over at the picture thread today, LOL. . .

I wonder why I remain fascinated with such things: Barbie, Disney girls, anime girls. . . probably because they have the type of figure I've always wished for but never had.

I don't expect perfection out of my body, I really don't. All I really want is to have a waist that curves in a little instead of protruding way out and to lose my double chin.

DARN! I did it again!

My friend offered me Gummy Bears. "They're fat free," she said. Cute little Gummy Bears. Innocent little Gummy Bears. How bad could they be? I ate 12 or so, then on impulse, checked the nutrition information.

Serving size: 4 pieces.
Servings per container: 9
Calories: 110
:eek:

WHEN am I going to learn to check the nutrition information FIRST! Chaulk another 330 calories (about 6 pts) up to stupidity! :cry: Sigh.

Well ladies...

The kid changed his story. It's going to be an investigation now. I called my union rep. I think the security gaurd scared the boy into saying what he wanted him to say. My God... my whole life is going down the toilet. I dunno what I'm gonna do, my whole career is in jeopardy and I havent even finished my schooling to begin a career. I'm so depressed right now. The principal told me he is going to talk to the teacher about the kid, see if he's one to get ito trouble, or lie. Then he is going to have him re-questioned to see if his story changes. I'm so distruaught I dunno what to do. My eyes are burning from crying so hard. I didn't even go to class today. I couldn't. Pray for me that the truth comes out. Once I get my job cleared, I'm going to sue that security guard. He violated my rights and the procedure for chain of command. I mean for goodness sake, the principal and assistant principal didn't know anyhting. he took matters into his own hands.

:'(
Sue

Hello all
I haven't posted in a while[I don't type very well] but I come and read the post every day! and boy am I thankfull for you guys just being here! I've been feeling better and that makes all the differents in the world.
To the new comers; Welcome!
well guys hang in "there" and may our wt. loss jounerys take us to new highs and most of all new lows :lol: [wt. loss that is]
AUDREY

Oh Sue, how awful for you! I can't believe that they'd have even talked to the boy again after you and he and the lady you were with all said they were wrong! How awful! But you know you did nothing wrong and you do have another adult to back you up. Surely this will all turn out okay. Keep your head up and remember that you have the truth, and another witness, on your side! (((hugs)))

:( Sue,

I will definately be praying for you. That is awful. Hang in there. I'm sure the truth will come out.

Blessings and may the Lord clear this matter up quickly,
Dogpal

Hang in there Sue
 

Sue, although I am new to the group, my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry this has happened to you. Keep your chin up and know that I will be praying for you. If the security guard got the kid to change his story, others questioning him will definitely get conflicting stories, and then hopefully the kid will finally break down and tell the truth. As for the security guard, I do think something should be done about the way he handled the situation. If he would have followed the chain of command none of this would have happened. Any child would be intimidated by a security guard and would be easily manipulated to change the story. Just remember, YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. My prayers are with you.

Hey Sue -

I just wanted to tell you I can TOTALLY empathize with you in your situation. A couple months back I found myself in a similar situation. Only, it involved me caring for a girl with brain damage...someone reported me as doing something that I did NOT do (and I had witnesses to vouch for this)...but still, I lost my job while they were "investigating." I don't even think proper procedure was EVER followed with this situation, but to make a long story short, I never went back there. I could have called to find out what happened, but I seriously had lost all faith in human services..I have no desire anymore to work in a non-profit agency, not if my good name is going to be run through the mud like that...it was mortifying, and I am so disgusted with the ******* who totally took my career into his hands and single handedly ruined it.

I don't care that I'm innocent, some jerk still had the power to make me lose my job over something I didn't even DO. After my suspension, the girl I took care of lost a lot of state funding because no one was working with her, so they decided that she didn't need as many hours a week, so even if I had gone back, I would have been out of my comfy well-paid full time job (I got 14.50 an hour, for entry level human services, that is almost unheard of in this state anyways).

I applaud you for still wanting to perservere, lord knows I couldn't do it. It's just not worth it to me anymore.

I am sorry if I was a downer, but I just had to share my experience and honest thoughts with you.

You'll pull through, keep us all posted though.

*Hugs*

Sue,

I feel for you, I really do. :(

If I were you I'd do more than call my union rep, I'd call a lawyer. Seriously, it might be the best thing you can do. How old is the student?

I don't talk about it much, but I was once under investigation by DCFS over an accusation made by a girl I had once babysat for. It's a long story, but I remember how scary that was. . . I'd randomly burst into tears during those three months I was under the investigation.

I was scared to death of the impending trial. My word against a "poor, defenseless" little girl in a wheelchair that I used to treat like a little sister. Not only was I wrongly accused, I was betrayed because she wanted to get back at me for encouraging her to be more independant and not feeling sorry enough for her like everyone else. Luckily, the case was dropped before the scheduled trial because my lawyer and I had gathered character witnesses, leaving the accusors with nothing to stand on.

I swore I'd never work with children again, but here I am working at a school age center. . .

Remember that you have an adult witness; that will be a big help in your situation. If you need to talk or vent or whatever feel free to PM me. Like I said, I know what it's like, and sometimes it just helps to know that someone can relate. I only wish I could do more.

I wasn't going to post tonight... but SueMarie... I had to stop long enough to give you {{{ HUGS }}} and support. :grouphug:

Detroitlady / Audrey ... Just keep typing away. You will get better.
When I first started posting I could not type well either. I have certainly built up speed... but I still having typos everyday. LOL

I want to thank everyone who has given me such wonderful moral support! Lilion, Dogpal, Doxiemom, MissMeliss (thank you for sharing your experience, it hurts badly :( ) 2Cute, Esmaraude ( Once I see where things go with the Union Rep, I will see what happens. Not to mention if I find out this Security guard tried to play God with my life and he in some way intimidated this kid… you bet your booty I’ll file a civil lawsuit. 1) for not following proper procedures and taking matters into his own hands, 2) for defamation of my character… I know that had this child been questioned properly and in the correct environment, there would be no lies) I can understand thinking you saw what you thought you saw, it’s easy to misconceive something from the distance they were at. I do not blame them for accusing me. Because I would have done the same thing, only, I would have gone through the proper channels. It is our obligation to ensure each child’s safety. The only thing I do blame is the way this situation was mishandled. I truly believe that had it been done properly, the accusations would have gone through, and then been dropped. I was just telling James, it’s completely different when it’s in the classroom. Teachers can say they are gonna give you a time out or a referral or detention. The kids could care less… but when they say Im gonna call security and have you removed from the classroom, MANY of them back off. I honestly think this child was scared out of his mind that he was gonna get in trouble and said what he said because he felt that is what the officer wanted him to say.

If I missed anyone, my deepest thanks go out to you as well. You cannot imagine the heartache I have and the migraines. I’ve cried so much I can’t cry anymore. So I got a migraine instead.

I called my Union Rep, as mentioned previously… They got back with me and I will have someone at my work to represent me when I go in to talk with the Principal tomorrow morning. I’m just going in as a follow up because the Principal told me he would speak to my witnesses and the boy again, and question his teacher (his primary teacher) to see if he has any history of lying or causing problems or what not. The rep is just for my protection. They know the district policies like the back of their hand and I feel it would be best to have someone there with me even if it’s going to turn out to be nothing. Does it sound selfish of me if I said that I want to go after this security officer if it turns out he was wrong? Cause… oooooo! I so wanna rip him apart right now.

I just wanted to stop by and update you all. I’ll be sure to update you after what happens tomorrow with the meeting.

Thanks everyone…
Sue…

Hi Sue

I just caught up with the thread now, but I want to send you my well wishes and ditto everything everyone else has said. It sounds like you're moving past 'heartbreak' and on to 'Action.' I'm so happy for you! DO NOT let this security guard INTIMIDATE you or make you feel bad about yourself because you know the truth and when you persist, it will come out and bite him on the a**. Good luck with everything...[[[[BIG HUG]]]].

Tammara

Hi Everyone!!!
 

Just joined your site today and looking forward to getting envolved,making new friends, giving support as well as getting support in the battle of getting this thin person out!!!! Will write soon... take care. ;) :angel: :cb: :ebike: :tantrum:

Welcome, ChrmnVaRN! :D

Hey, look at that count, it's time for a new thread! You guys know the drill; let's all continue the conversation over at the next thread, #715!

See ya there!