Karen, Just because someone has MD after their name does not make them a rocket scientist. My first suggestion would be a second opinion. Giving him the benefit of the doubt, I'm going to assume that he meant low fat and low sugar carbs but not low complex carbs. Doing both seems like he is setting your husband up for failure. Tell him it can be done. I started at 592. I didn't start all at once. I took baby steps. For the first six months I did nothing except cook all my meals at home. No take-out or fast food was a big change, and I lost 80 pounds without doing anything else. I do know one thing, if your husband has lost weight the next time he sees his doctor, the doctor is not going to care how he did it, just that he did lose weight. Tell him that is worth everything, the look on a doctor's face when the nurse says how much weight you've lost. It's priceless.

As for his family, my mother is the same way. I finally had to break off contact with her to have a chance this time. I believe that is why God invented caller ID and voice mail. As a recovering sneaky eater myself, what helped was having nothing in the house that could hurt me. Do a pantry purge, get everything he shouldn't eat out of there, and replace it with stuff he can snack on. Fix him a lunch box everyday filled with okay stuff, and he will be less likely to mess up. Sneaky eaters are also lazy eaters. I'd pick bad stuff if it was available, but better stuff if that was all I had. It's easier to eat available good stuff than make a 7-11 run.

Kymberly-I know you were complimenting me, and I appreciate it. I have always had problems accepting compliments. I remember a time when I lost a bunch of weight, and when people noticed, I told them I had been sick. It was easier to have them think I had AIDS or cancer than to admit that I was trying to lose weight. Because to admit I was trying, was to admit that I knew I needed to all along, and hadn't worked on it until then. I had to practice some answers for this time. To compliments, I say a simple thankyou. To questions about how I'm doing it, I say "eat less, exercise more." That usually results in a sour look, because I think they are expecting me to have found the magic bullet. When asked if I had the surgery, I say, "no, I've done enough damage to my body over the years without rearranging my plumbing." I surprised myself last night though. I went to a highschool baseball game, and saw an old friend. She asked me how much I had lost. I usually say about half of what I want to. I actually told her 208 pounds. I've always hated admitting the amount. I have always weighed much more than I look like I do because of my height, the way I carry my weight, and my flab tends to be very dense and solid. I could see her looking at me, estimating my current weight, and adding 200 to it. It was really a big moment for me. I truly believe that we are only as sick as our secrets. I am trying to live my life now where I only tell the truth. It makes things easier because I don't have to remember what I might have told someone. The truth is so much easier to remember. I also don't hide things anymore. If the cops wanted to lay a search warrant on me, I have nothing they could find now to embarrass me. I've cleaned the pantry, I've cleaned the cobwebs, and I have simplified and uncluttered my world and my life. It's another reason why I am sure that this time is going to be the last time I have to lose weight.

Well, I'm off to the YMCA to do my Shamu impersonation. If anyone doesn't like it, they have my permission to kiss my big, white, etc. It will be easy too, my suit is now too big in the bottom area, so that portion of my body is quite accessible in a pinch. Flashing a cheek at the hard bodies won't get me in as much trouble as the wardrobe malfunction I had when the top of my suit was too big. Yes, I'm getting my sewing machine out this weekend to deal with the situation. Think of the headlines otherwise, "400 pound woman arrested for indecent exposure in pool." "A forklift was required to remove her from her protest sit-in while chanting, "Free the St. Pete Two!""

Hi all! :wave: I was just checking in for a moment to read before the International Adventure starts. :lol: I wasn't going to post, but just had to after the chuckle I received reading Catherine! :rofl: :lol3:

Catherine: You are a HOOT, honey! Just love your sense of humor and your positive attitude. I could read your stuff over and over again. You really are an inspiration. You truly are the poster child for taking positive baby steps and it's helping me immensely. My scale continues to move in a Southerly direction for the first time in months. It's the baby steps that I'm taking, I'm sure, that are making this happen. THANK YOU for joining us. [[[hugs]]]

Karen Joy: Welcome to the group! How wonderful that you care so much about your hubby to try and help him. That's what marriage is all about. The other girls have given you some great ideas. All I would do, I'm afraid, is repeat what they have already said. #1 in my mind is get everything out of the house that isn't healthy. THAT really does help.

kclay: Welcome to you as well. I couldn't tell if you were just dropping by to respond, or were thinking about joining the group. I see you do post elsewhere. Either way, you're more than welcome to be here.

Vera and Angela: Nice to see you two dropping back around. Hope you'll get into the swing of posting regularly.

I know there are plenty of others, but I'm outta time. See you all later. Love :love: ya bunches!

:dancer: Hey everyone...Thank you for all your advice and support...you all are awesome! My hubby's at day 3 and he is a bear.....but I made him a very nice dinner....2 pcs. of grilled salmon with a dry rub of curry, pepper and garlic, topped with a grilled red onion and diced tomatoes, steamed string beans and a salad. Also made a fat free easy chicken and italian veggie soup to keep in the fridge for his late nights, it is supposed to be pretty gloomy this weekend... :chef:
Right now my hubby is in a mode of not wanting to discuss his diet at all...he doesn't want to over think it. So...i do not push the issue...just yet...but any ideas on how I can motivate him to do some walking/ exercise with me? :grouphug:

12 Shots - a funny friday night "bar" joke.... :joker:

A guy goes into a bar, orders twelve shots and starts drinking them as fast as he can.

The bartender says, "Dang, why are you drinking so fast?" :doh:

The guy says, "You would be drinking fast if you had what I had."

The bartender says, "What do you have?"

The guy says, "75 cents." :cheers:

Thinthinker (sorry, don't know your name) Thank you for the welcome. I thought I would pop in and take a look around. I notice you're from Michigan. I have several family members from MI and my oldest child was born there. My family is from Alpena, but they are scattered out. One is in Hillman - some are in Pontiac - some are in Bad Axe - and I'm sure others are elsewhere. Only get to see them once in a blue moon.

Well have to go ~wave~

It's only by 1/2 pound, but I'm UNDER! Gosh, I can't belive it! :D I almost can't remember being 299 (and a 1/2)! I was soooo expecting a gain after vacation. What a BOOST! :goodscale

Not much time, but I had to stop and brag!!! :smug: Now to get to the next goal...275! I'm giving myself until August 1...that's about 14 weeks. Think that's reasonable??? I know I may hit a big plateau any time.

Catherine: You just slay me!!! I love your attitude!

Karen Joy: Welcome! I know you'll get lots of good advice here for your husband. I can't add anything that you haven't been told by the others I'm afraid. I do agree that a good first step is to get the bad snacks out of the house. My husband is a snacker and we always have chips and other stuff in the house. Luckily, there's a ton of yummy low carb/low fat alternatives out there. Good luck!

esmaraude: Keep plugging away at the finacee and be sneaky! Substitute low-cal/fat whereever you can. I suppose if he eats a chicken sandwich at home and then a whopper, it's still better than 2 whoppers....

Meliss: Hope your feet feel better after a day of mystery shopping. :lol:

Everyone Else: :wave: Have a happy, healthy, OP day!

Well, it's back to work for me! I'll catch you ladies later,

Good morning All,

Catherine- you are awesome!! I too have hard time accepting compliments to do with me individualy. But I'm learning. It must be that 'Heart of America humor', but you do have a way with words.

Lilion- Way to go!! I hated having to move the Dr's scale to that last notch, GRRR

Terri- have a safe trip. And have FUN!!!! I'm going to hold you to that walk when you get back so I can hear 1st hand. hehe

Karen- I used to get angry when people told me what I should do to lose weight, it's like everyone feels entitled if they are thin. But it's different when people encourage you to do better, a little atta girl, or boy as it were, does wonders sometimes. Like Catherine said, small steps.

Flingers and anyone I missed-enjoy your day!

I've spent two weeks of the last month in Oklahoma helping get my MIL's house ready for sale. She is 83 and can't live alone anymore, so she lives with my SIL but she had soooooo much stuff we had to go through for passing on to next generation, garage sale, trash and keepers etc.... I had to come home and start decluttering my own house. So I've gotta get back to it while I am motivated.

I probably won't be posting for a while, I'm pretty upset. I just broke up with my boyfriend of five years.

Meliss: I'm so sorry to hear that! Please know we're thinking about you! We'll be here if you need to vent.

Hello Ladies, How is everyone doing today?

Meliss, I am so sorry about the break-up with the BF. :sorry: That hurts I know. I don't have any advice for you, and I know that words won't heal the heart, but we are here for you. You can come and cry on our shoulders anytime.

Not much going on here to talk about. Just wanted to let meliss know that I am thinking of her.

Catherine, :lol: :lol: What more can I say than has alreday been said. I enjoy your post SOOOO much.

I don't mean to leave the rest of you out, I just don't feel very talkative right now. See you tomorrow. Iwillbe :wave:

Lilion-Big congrats!! The last time I was under 300, was 15 years ago. I'm hoping to be again by the next new year.

I decided to try the deep water aerobics class this morning. Mostly because they were in my area of the pool. Usually I go later when the old folks are having their "happy hinges" class in the shallow end. I was afraid that I couldn't keep up, but did fine. Fear is one of the biggest hurdles we face. Fear of failure, sometimes fear of success. Alot of fear of being embarrassed. I don't want my tombstone to say, "dead at 55, she was so afraid of taking a chance, that she never had a chance at life." Fear of having someone see me in a bathing suit kept me out of the pool way too long. Fear of looking silly or being made fun of kept me out of the gym, out of the health food store, and even out of church. Being overweight is one of the only diseases were the victims quarantine themselves. We are in the majority in America now, unfortunately. They are doing gastric-bypass surgery on teenagers now. Kids with their whole lives ahead of them think they have no other options. Whenever I have a moment of weakness, I remind myself that until some 400, 500, 600+ pound people show that we can lose weight without rearranging our insides, people are going to continue to believe there is no hope. If nothing else, we have to have hope.

KarenJoy: Don't couch walking as "exercise" but more as special time together for the two of you. Something you can do at night together to unwind from the day and not have to wory about the phone and the kids and everything else. Anything more than you and he are curretnly doing is an improvement and a step in the right direction.

Catherine: I don't even know how to respond to your posts...as they are so full of wit, wisdom and humor. You truly redefine perseverence and personal triumph. I know you have spoken about having a hard time accepting compliments. I think we all suffer from that a little. I have gotten so used to thinking of myself in certain terms and when people tell me positive things, I have to censor myself and not tell them that they are wrong. People keep telling me that I am looking really great with my weight loss...but I see myself through the same eyes in the same mirror every day and to me I look the same. I am so harshly critical of myself and I know that I cause myself far more stress and angst than is necessary...but I'm working on it. I just really admire you and hope that I can keep molding my attitude into something more positive and confident.

Meliss...I'm not even going to try to tell you that I know what you're going through. I know what my pain was like when Jason and I split up last year...but we each suffer in our own way. Just know that when you come back to chat, I'm here to talk...whether we talk about him or not. You have a friend in me!

I still have a few more little things to do to get ready for Passover...I think I was supposed to get some cookies for the house I am going to tomorrow...but I do believe that I will get fruit instead..so at least there will be something I can eat. I don't like the idea of buying food I cannot eat.

Have a fabulous weekend..looks like the rain is coming back gain...waaah.

Meliss: I am so sorry to hear about the breakup:(. I dont have anything to say that will lessen your pain, except i will be thinking of you, and you wil get through this. As mentioned before, dont give up on yourself, or your goals, you are worth it:).
Catherine: it sounds like you are getting quite a bit of excersise in. I have manged to either do the treadmill or drag out my richard simmons videos, lol. I havent "graduated" to Tae-Bo yet:). The simmons videos are fun though, and very encouraging and motivating.
I hope everyone has a great weekend. I have to work 12hrs the next two days, so i will be busy. I have started really planning my meals at work, and bringing things in; this makes eating healthy much easier!
As i have said before, i am very grateful i found this board, and you wonderful ladies on it. Thanks for all the inspiring stories, and the helpful tips you bring.

Hi girls!
I wanted to say thank you for all your "condolances" or what have you...I shouldn't have just run to this message board and blurted out something like that..it's a bit dramatic and what I love about 3fc is that we're usually so much better than other message boards about being "SO not about the drama." I just wanted to say that we had a long talk (we're notorious for those) and we decided that all we keep doing is hurting one another...but that we're still so passionately in love that we don't know what to do without the other. Basically we've decided that we both need some time to work on "ourselves" because we both have personal issues to deal with (me with my weight loss, owen with his poor self esteem and self loathing).

So we're going to be friends for now until one of us decides we're ready to be in a relationship. I know we're meant to be together, I just think right now is bad timing. Ugh.

I had an ok day food-wise. I'm really disapointed though that I didn't exercise AGAIN...albeit I was really busy...I had another radio shack audit and a bunch of mystery shops to do, blah.

Lillion -CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I am so happy for you, that is so awesome...I absolutely cannot wait to be under 300 pounds..it's cool cause it's a very realistic goal to aim for. From now on you're in twoterville!

Karen Joy: man oh man have i had some good cries today!! LOL...my grandmother came over and immediately her maternal instinct kicked in..."what's the matter...why are you crying???" See the thing is, I'm not the type to cry in front of people...I have no problems venting about day to day stuff, but I have a hard time talking about my feelings with other people besides Owen. It's just never been something I've felt comfortable talking about.

IWillBe - thank you for your kind words :) they mean a lot...how are things going with you lately?

Julee - I didn't know you and Jason broke up once....maybe I will ask you the wretched details later so that I can feel a bit better about my hunny bunny :( (yes i can be a sap, i know).

Catherine - I know just how you feel about the body image thing...I am usually so ashamed to go out to nice places, or any place where I feel people typically go to "pick up" others...this could be anywhere from the beach to the mall to the video store. One of the things Owen and I were always arguing about (oddly enough) was my poor self image..he would always tell me that I was so beautiful to him and it just never sunk in and I just felt like deep down he felt sorry for me or something, cause he's not really even fat at all. I was always like "what does he want me for?" I am really proud of you and you have been an inspiration to me.

Kym - thank you for your words!! :) Do you work in the city? what do you do? He he i'm just soooo very very nosey!!!

Ok, on that final note...I just wanted to pop in and sort of give some sort of "closure" to that silly post i made this afternoon...I was just feeling depressed, but I feel better now. *Deep breaths* Thank you all for listening!!! And please tell me that I can't have any of those blue bunny ice creams that some traitor in this house bought!!! *mad face*