It really is the emotional part that is the challenge. I am sitting here in tears feeling hopeless. Overall I have had a great weekend but there were a couple things that happened that really made me feel
lonely. I have never been married and really desire to be. I know it isn't all wonderful but I still want to find Mr. Right. There is someone I really want to be with (and dated last year) but we are only
friends right now. Between him and trying the online thing and then add in some
Not being invited to a an event many other people I know we're invited to and lots of things that need done around the house and it all just makes me feel alone! I tried to fix the house alarm this weekend but wasn't able to. I tried to fix a light but couldn't, it has taken 2 weeks and 2 trips to the auto store just to get screws the for that license plates!!! REALLY? Life should not be so difficult. So with all this in addition to normal everyday single parenting and work and it makes it hard to resist eating for comfort. It does bring me pleasure to eat. So how do I get that comfort and pleasure without the eating? I can tell you it ain't coming from sex and now I have to cut out the food. I just feel alone! I'm tired of being alone! Sorry for the long ramble! At least I'm rambling and not eating!!

Doing much better today. Sorry for the ramble and stressed out post. Sometimes it is all just overwhelming.
Goodnuff: VA is great! Have you been able to get to the ocean? I lived in Maryland as a kid and we would go to the beach in VA. Yes, I know we can do this. I am pretty close to where I started but hey at least I am here.
Gamechanger: I'm sorry we are going through similar challenges but you are right; visiting 3FC is very helpful to our success.
Hopefully, I haven't scared people away from me from my crazy posts!!

Girl, you haven't scared anybody off. We are all (in one way or another) going through the same thing. Bottom Line: We use food to feel better. But as in every toxic relationship, we love it but it doesn't love us back. However, you've hit the nail on the head with your question, "How do we find a healthy way of comforting ourselves?" Well, I don't have a definite answer. I can simply tell you that I think we'll have to arm ourselves with an arsenal of comforting tools so that we don't have to rely on just one. In other words, we need backups and contingency plans. It's kind of like something that Chicken George said on Roots, "When the first plan don't work, get yo' self another plan." Maybe instead of turning to Haagan-Dazs, we can turn to each other in our 3FC community, or to music, or to a hobby, or to inspirational or Biblical scriptures as sources of strength and comfort. I know what it feels like to be lonely and alone, but right now I'm typing you this message instead of making a run for the border at Taco Bell. I think that's a good start, so keep on communicating with us. Let us know how you're doing because a little rambling never hurt nobody.

Hope you did not make it to Taco Bell. :-)
Yesterday went pretty well and today is OK. I am working on that list of back up and contingency plans. I think I will start a thread to see what others have come up with .
How are you doing?

I'm glad your day went well yesterday. An easy day is worth more than gold. Fortunately, Taco Bell never entered into the picture. ;-> However, the Haagen-Dazs ice cream did become an issue. Well, I'm still a work in progress. I've got to do better. You're right about the list/contingency plan. We definitely need some easily accessible and healthy coping tools. I'm going to be on the look-out for your thread so that I can glean all the knowledge I can. I'm also working on self-motivation. I've become so use to external driving forces. (Not Good!)

Well, I' m glad you're having a good day. My day had been okay, so I'm very thankful. I hope your day continues to go well for you, and I'll chat with you later.