Does anyone know what happnd to Nancy/Not the cheat?
 

Loved her posts and wonder if anyone has her contact details and could give her mine? I've tried thro here, but her message inbox full....

Thanks

I'm friends with her on livejournal, would you like me to pass this along?

Yeah that would be great :)just would love to know how she is getting along in general. Thank you :)

tell her I'm wondering about her too, and she's welcome here-- no matter what her weight or situation!!

And u know who else I miss from the old days? Xena?? Anyone in touch with her? If so say helloooooo. xx

I miss them both too!

me 2!!

I have forwarded this thread to her & she should drop by soon :D

I was thinking of her yesterday..weird..tell her hello from me as well! Also where is Berniece??

Wow, I am touched that people missed me. :)

Part of the reason that I haven't been around is that I managed to fall off my wagon to a good bit. I haven't gained back everything, but I gained back a good amount. It was weird - for a long time I just stopped caring. I am not sure what caused this, but it was weird that something that was so important to me became so unimportant. I think part of it was burn out. I think part of it was stuff to do with my relationship I was in. I let myself fall off.

I did end up ending my last relationship back in August. I know that I went into that relationship in a good place in myself and left it in a bad one. I am not blaming him, because I know that it is all down to me, but it is very telling to me. In a lot of ways it feels so much harder wanting to get back to where I was than getting there the first time around. Somehow failure with my weight after success seems even harsher than my original failures.

After some trial with doing some low-carb stuff I have definitely found that me and high-glycemic carbs just can't ever be friends. As much as I like them they do bad things to me time after time. If I can keep myself on nice lean proteins, veggies and a little bit of fruit I am fine. As soon as I start adding in anything else I get myself into trouble. I periodically go back to the gym in spurts, but I can't seem to get back to where I was with the consistency. I think one of my problems is that I keep looking backwards to where I was and trying to recapture that instead of looking forwards to where I need to be now. I am different than I was and while some of my tools may still work, I need to find the right way forward for me now.

I do know that one of the biggest things that kept me on track was this site and all of you. I keep thinking that I will get back into the swing of things and come back here, but maybe I have had it the wrong way around. I need to start coming back here and getting in the groove with everyone and that will help get me back into my own groove.

:hug: to everyone, especially Emily May and also Carol, who tried to keep in touch with me when I was first falling off and I was a bit of a jerk and didn't respond. Sorry about that.

Nancy-We have all been there. Some repeatedly. Don't beat yourself up too bad, because that doesn't help.

Nancy - thanks for stopping in. When your body and mind are at the same place it will come together for you. You always provided me so much support in your posts - like you were only speaking to me. The magnet is still on my fridge reminding me daily "Don't let your mind bully your body into believing it must carry the burden of its worries."

Hugs to you - keep in touch,
Carol

"I think one of my problems is that I keep looking backwards to where I was and trying to recapture that instead of looking forwards to where I need to be now. I am different than I was and while some of my tools may still work, I need to find the right way forward for me now."

This sums up where I was for a long, long time -- I was super athletic through a couple years after college, when my sports-related injuries started catching up to me. Then I had what my endocrinologist called a metabolic shift, and boom, 100 pounds in a year. It became harder and harder to reconcile what I could do with what I used to be able to do, and after a struggle, I just gave up and stopped.

It took a long time to get back into the proper headspace, and I'm still not perfect about it, but what really helped was finding something that I enjoyed doing that I hadn't done before (which in my case was, oddly enough, a recumbent exercise bike), and thus had no past successes against which to compete. Maybe there's something like that out there for you?

Nancy -- I got into a place where I wasn't caring too and it's really scary!! Proper headspace IS hard to maintain.

I hope you can come back here more regularly!! We'll help you and you help us!!

Ah its so nice to hear from you Nancy :) Huge hugs. First off seriously I identify so much with what you are saying about how u feel having regained lost weight....I think trying to deal with this is actually more important that the ability to lose large chunks of weight quickly as for so many of us who are or have been seriously heavy it is something that can derail us time and time again.....I am still struggling with the best way forward. For myself I decided a while ago, that losing weight really slowly is the best way for me (not saying so for everyone) but when I can move slowly downwards I don't seem to then have this backlash where I pedal backwards furiously for some unknown reason.....

I know I would have surgery if I could as I think that is probably the easiest way for someone who has been obese especially if very obese to lose weight and then maintain it. But even then it doesn't seem 'easy'.

Sooo in my very humble and imperfectly formed opinion, us ladies need to be here for ever really, not while things are going well, in fact thats when we need it the least. Most of us have not got to 300+ pounds without cycles of weight loss and gain, and therefore all of us can accept the ups and downs of combatting obesity which is SUCH a challenge.

Your thinking about high GI carbs is interesting for me, because that is totally where I am at now too. I read a very interesting book by Gary Taubes which I really enjoyed and believe more than ever that carb+fat+insulin is a large component in the pandemic of obesity in society. I now eat much less carb in general, and for example just don't buy bread any more and am finding my hunger much decreased and long term slow weight loss for the first time in a long time.

I also find, this only for myself, that the more strict and sudden a diet change, the more likely that I will rebel and start fighting with myself for control..I feel that the changes I make need almost to be so subtle I can't feel them, but build on them, for example, reduce cals/carbs,but gently and once I can deal with a lower amount, move to decrease it further.....

Sooo anyway, fantastic to see you and I personally want to partcipate here more because I feel that the support network of people who really KNOW my struggle with weight is a huge asset that I should invest more time in.

Love and welcome back

Emilymay xxx

Nancy, I remember you when I lurked around, before I was brave enough to start posting lol.

I myself struggle with carbs and once I start eating them I tend to sort of "stick with them" for awhile and find my weight stalling or going up. I don't think I can be best friends with them either lol. I think we all struggle from time to time, I do, and I think it is rare that a person doesn't.

I hope to see you around! :D

Nancy, I am so glad to see you posting. I fell off the wagon after hitting a BIG stall while doing low fat and low cal and I gained all but 30 lbs back, but I did some research and found a much better "fit" for me in low carb...Atkins to be precise and I am now at a lower weight than I ever was doing low cal/low fat. You need to find out what works for you...and for me it was ditching all the processed foods and eating clean and avoiding sugar and flour. I am also exercising which has helped as well.

Find what works for you and work it....and post when you can. I am the worst at doing that, but honestly it keeps me on track to post...and if I can't do that I try to get on to read...again lately its been crazy for me and I have not been here in a while, but I am going to try harder!

Tortis! (((hugs))))

Luv,
Ratkity

Backatcha RK!!