I am starting to get kind of annoyed with my family. I went on this website where you can simulate your weight loss and I got a picture of how I will look 50 pounds smaller. So I started printing it out so I can post it on the fridge and carry it around with me so I can think of it before I decide to eat off plan. So my sister gets an attitude and asks me why am I printing this crap out, etc. Why is it so difficult for family to be supportive and just say some simple word of encouragement instead of putting me down for wanting to lose weight.
I don't know much about your sister. Is she jealous that you're changing your life & eating habits? Is she afraid of change? Has she always been unsupportive of your efforts at things? (Some people are just... well... not the most supportive out there.)
For the record, I know you know this, but that's not crap. Anything that makes it easier or more inspiring to reach your goal is WORTH IT!
Next time she decides to say something like that. You look her in the eyes and TELL her that you're worth it.
I think the picture is a great idea. Whatever works to keep you focused is well worth the tiny effort of printing it out.
Is your sister just generally unsupportive and snotty or is it just in regards to weight loss? You'll find over time that you get some people who couldn't be more supportive and helpful and some who seem to take your weight loss efforts as a personal insult. Whether they are family or not doesn't seem to make a real difference; it just gives them more access to you. Avoid the nasty ones or just refuse to even discuss the weight issue with them.
I'm sorry you are having such a hard time with your family accepting your mission. It is one of those things that you would hope your family friends would be supportive of. My family urges, begs, terrifies me into losing weight. My mother brings up Diabetes and begins to cry, my dad frames my every accomplishment with “Now think how much nicer this victory would have been if you had started that diet 3 years ago, you’d be skinny now!”. I think your situation is worst though because I absolutely cannot go off plan, I have 4 sets of eyes watching me like hawks all the time!
You should just try to ignore your sister. Obviously she doesn’t know how you are feeling. She wants you to be happy and not dieting. My friends do this, they tell me it is crazy! They say I will never do it so why am I torturing myself and then they sabotage me at every step! Some people are brought down by the fact of other people dieting. They feel it tragic, sad or hopeless.
That’s why I am so glad I found this site. I hope it gets better for you and hey, what site did you go to that made a picture of you looking skinnier? I want one!
Sometimes, people are unintentionally hurtful. When I lost weight and was happily donating the "fat clothes" to non-profit groups, my mother flat out told me to keep them for when I gain the weight back. Nice to know that she has faith in me, right? Sadly, about six months later, I did regain weight, and now I'm trying to lose it again. You know what? I kept the clothes. This time, they're out the door.
Keep in mind that there are loads of people out there to support you, and we all wish you well. We can support each other and motivate each other, in place of family at times. Maybe your sister wasn't aware that she hurt you - I know that my mom wasn't. When I called her out (I can be brutally honest), she apologized, but still hinted that it would save money to save the clothes
The website I went to is weightview.com I heard about it on the Tyra show because she was talking about people from People magazine that are half their size. It was pretty cool and I was so excited to get my picture back. It really sparked a light in me.
I think the picture for motivation is a fantastic idea! I don't know why your sister cannot be enthusiastically supportive of you. I'm sorry that she isn't, but I am so glad you are here at 3FC!! Congrats on 20 pounds gone!
Lisa - if it's based on VirtualModel it doesn't show any changes past about 240 from what I remember (for me using 5'4"). I know if you try putting in a higher amount it will stop you at some point, but I wouldn't trust anything past 250 as even remotely accurate. Still, it's nice to see what I might look like at goal.
SouthernGal07 - I don't know why some people can be wonderfully supportive and others just can't. If you're like myself (always been overweight) maybe they just don't want to get invested in a process that they've seen stop before. My mother was never overly supportive, but never negative. When I was at my top weight I started a diet while she was away for a couple of months. I was almost 30 pounds lighter when she came back, and that seemed to actually help. In the end though she doesn't really understand the daily struggle, since she's never done it. If your sister is thin she may just not understand. If she's heavy and has tried/failed in the past she may just feel it's hopeless. Sadly, in the end you may have to support yourself through the journey. Or, you may find as you lose more weight that they'll finally get that you are serious about it.
Southergal
I am very sorry that your family isn't supportive. There could be many reasons and none of them are good ones. My daughter was very supportive until I am now only 16 lbs heaver than she is and she needs to lose at least 10 lbs. Her brother told her one of these days mom is going to be smaller than you. From that day she has offered me candy and all kinds of things that I never ate much of before I started to lose weight and sure don't want now. I tried to tell her, yes she should take off a few lbs but that has nothing to do with me. If she were at her perfect weight and I was at my perfect weight I would be smaller than her. I am built smaller. Not everyone weighs the same. People should never compare them selfs with someone else. She has to be happy with the weight she is at. If she is happy where she is and the doc says she is healthy it is up to her to decide about taking off a few lbs.
Is your sister over weight? Does she just not want you to succeed at something that is important to you? Try not to worry about it. Right here at this site you will find tons of support. We are all behind you 100%.
Not feeling very supported
