barely 30 something
 

new here and still trying to figure out everything. my goal is to loose 50 pounds...i have 40 more to go. at times it seems near impossible. any suggestions?

Hi Trob! :welcome3: You're off to a great start! Just keep it up! And come here for encouragement! :D

You can do it...
 

I, too, am a newbie, but can offer support. I started my "life change" when I saw a picture of me and didn't recognize myself! When I looked in the mirror it wasn't reality. I had become the obese person that the doctor warns you about!

My first piece of advice...LOVE YOURSELF! Too many times we get caught up in wanting to "look good" for people. The measurement shouldn't be what others think of us, but rather how we feel about ourselves. Lose weight to be HEALTHY.

Looks like you're already doing a fantastic job! Keep up the good work!

Think about the end result. Picture yourself in new clothes, in a new career, or whatever works. What are people saying to you that's different? How do you feel about yourself? Keep that in mind when you are looking at others eating those chocoloate covered strawberries. Laugh at them inside yourself and feel good about the changes you are making. It's hard to do it, but this forum is proof that there are others out there going through the same thing. :D

Fitafter4, I think that looking good has something to do with feeling good about yourself, wouldn't you think? Perhaps it's me and my situation that makes me hate myself for being this fat. My mom CONSTANTLY nags me about it, and she's obese herself, but not as big as me. My fiance says he loves me no matter what, and met me when I was fat so I believe him. My daughter says she won't love me anymore if I'm skinny, because she's only known me as fat and associates fat with Mommy.

It's hard to feel good about yourself when it comes up so often, and makes you feel bad. I'm not one of those happy, jolly fat people. I'm the wall flower in the corner crying because I feel ugly.

I'm tired of it! I wanna lose this weight and feel good about myself again. I wanna show everyone that I can do it. I haven't even told my mom that I started Jenny Craig, and I don't plan to. I want encouragement, not nagging. I want her to look at me and say, wow, you are looking good, instead of geez, when are you going to lose weight?

My way of dealing with it is to go for a walk now. And I'm taking on larger models to show the world that fat people are beautiful too! :D If I can do it so can you! You're doing great! Keep it up!

Welcome to the board! I look forward to getting to know you.

You can do it! This board is a great place to come for modivation. Your doing great!