I have two kids with special needs, but not of a severe nature.

My older son, 16 has reallllly strong ADHD.

My younger son is autistic (high functioning).

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I also have a special needs 11 yr old son. He was born early at 25 weeks, and while finally his physical needs have decreased, his social and mental skills continue to be a challenge.

I have so much empathy for those parents who struggle with these challenges. People don't realize just how difficult it is, but you just do it.