what do you do
 

when you feel like dh is out too get you

really i have been on this diet since Sunday has he not seen this or what. has he not seen me out walking for 1-2 miles every night. i guess not so i call dh and ask him what he would like for super told him i was getting a grilled chicken salad. he said well i thought pizza hut sounds good. omg really does he wanna rub it in my face or what. so i told him well that nice but i can not eat it. then he says well you only have been on this diet for 2 days really ......i could have went off on him. so i told him were the-- have you been i have been on this since Sunday. he makes me feel like he wants me this way and don't really care how i feel. i want this more then anything but it would help if he was behind me too.

i guess it is not something he thinks about cause he don't really care. he don't care that i hate the way i look. i guess when some men get fat everyone just thinks yep he is getting old or wow he has been well feed but when a women gets fat from time or even having babies she has just let her self go. the way i see it i have been with him all threw the years(15 of them) and he helped me have the babies he can help me lose this weight.

i have spent most of my 20's overweight and hating the way i looked. with some years better then other. in a few months i will be 30 i would love to start it off with a new me..........
wow sorry some times he makes me soooo mad:mad: i know i need to be strong on my own but i guess i expected it from him too does make me really happy i have found this site i have gotten alot of support here

You can't expect your DH to change his eating habits just because you are changing yours. Being supportive of your diet does not mean that your DH eats all the same food you do. It's not really fair to expect that he is going to go on diet because you are going on a diet. If he wants to get pizza hut for dinner, he can order his own small pizza (or a personal pizza since Pizza Hut makes those) and you can still have your grilled chicken salad.

Sorry, I know this isn't what you want to hear but I think it's something you have to accept. My SO can eat whatever he wants and is thin as a rail. He has all sorts of food around here that I can't eat--chips, pastries, frozen mexican food, etc. I have to consider that food off limits. Usually we eat the same thing for dinner because he is too lazy to cook for himself, but other than that, he has his food and I have mine and we don't eat each other's food.

Are you looking at this as a "diet" or a lifestyle? Pizza is going to happen. My DH LOVES pizza. So once a week we have pizza. He gets a large pepperoni for him and the kids. I get a veggie lovers and have two pieces. Easy enough and stays within my calories for the day. Learn how to work around what *could* be an unhealthy option. I get a lot of veggies in by getting veggie lovers. Sometimes its McDonalds that the kids want...i dont tell them they are unsensitive for wanting McDonalds, i get them McDonalds and get me a salad and yogurt. Look for the silver lining.

Miller, I'm sorry he's not being too supportive. Men are dense that way! :lol: Especially skinny men! While I agree with what the other ladies said about these challenges coming your way, maybe you could ask DH to try and be a little more supportive of you, emotionally, if nothing else. He doesn't have to eat chicken salad with you, but maybe he could compliment you on trying, or whatever?

well really i think it was more of the way he said it like who care you have only been on it 2 days. well it has been 5 not 2. i know he is not going to always wont what i am eating. he is the king of eating and well not skinny either. but his weight gain does not bother him at all. now we are still close and all that but he just dont feel the same about it like i do. really do they have to be dense all the time

Maybe DH is worried. Afraid if you look too good all the guys will be after you and you would be tempted. Especially if he has added a few pounds himself. You should talk to him about what losing weight means to you and reassure him that you only have eyes for him. Keep strong and come here for all the support you need. They are not dense all of the time, just most of the time:D

Miller.... I know that my husband can not keep track because I go through this so often where I get gung-ho about eating right and working out and it lasts for a few weeks. And he gets confussed as to what week is what..... Also he doesnt think that I need to lose weight. He loves me the way that I am. So maybe it isnt that he is trying to sabotage you but he just isnt thinking about what he is saying. ( :