Should I eat the cake? - 3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community

owensmommy4 · 10-23-2009, 09:56 PM

On Sunday my sister is having a b-day party for my nephew who just turned 1 year old. I am just getting back on the WL after a stall and I am worried that If I eat the cake it will throw me back into eating junk and binges. It seems that once I get off track I really have a hard time getting back on. I do have the extra 35 WW points for the week that I have not ate, so it's not a matter of having the extra to do it with, I'll still be within my points range. I just don't want to get off track again. So I'm not convinced that the cake is worth it.

cheerios · 10-23-2009, 09:58 PM

eat the cake but just have a small slice =) don't wanna drive yourself crazy cause you didn't have some and have fun at the party

misskimothy · 10-23-2009, 10:07 PM

Sounds like you don't want to eat it. Which is perfectly awesome. But remember that this won't be the only time you'll have to refuse food because life happens. And this is what the 35 extra points are for. So maybe this is the time to show yourself that you CAN work within the WW plan and deal with those life experiences that are gonna come around almost every month. And remember that you are on WW which plans for this. Others may say that "being thin tastes better than the cake" and blah blah blah. But only YOU will know how you want to live your life and only YOU will have to deal with the cake the day after the party. So decide on how you want to live and just LIVE. If this includes cake on special occasions and you can account for it, you can do it within the plan. If you want to give up the cake and special occasion foods, that's perfectly OK too. Just, live the way you want to live. Be consistent. The numbers will take care of themselves.

Tai · 10-23-2009, 10:31 PM

Even though you have the points for it, it sounds like it might be a trigger for you. At this point it might be a bit safer to skip it.

Have fun at your nephews birthday party. It's always so cute to watch a one year old eat their birthday cake!

kaybelle9 · 10-23-2009, 10:58 PM

perhaps skip the cake and spend the points on something else at the party that's not such a trigger... ice cream maybe? Although I do agree with misskimothy that the whole point of WW is to learn how to control your eating in real life situations.

caitybates · 10-23-2009, 11:06 PM

right now im on a diet that has room for indulgences in moderation and ive never been more successful at losing weight. i know it's personal for everyone but i used to be dead convinced that only 'perfect' days counted but when i didnt learn to have more feasible goals i found it made weightloss about 100 million times more difficult. skinny people eat cake. for me life without cake would be sad, so now i have a small slice. then again its really important to do what works for you. im just letting you know i really really thought for the longest time the only way i could lose weight was by being perfect for months and months and months until i got to my goal weight. that didnt work for years and years and now im on the most lax diet ive ever been on and the weight is coming off fast but its coming off at a rate of about 2 pounds per week and its like NO effort on my part.

VernDern · 10-23-2009, 11:20 PM

I think the key here is MODERATION except if you think even a tiny tiny peice will lead you to a binge.

If you dont think you can handle it dont eat it. Just block it out of your head. I always let loose a little for special occassions but even though it is a special occasion you and only you know your limits.

Enjoy the birthday!

garnetrising · 10-24-2009, 12:00 AM

Everything in moderation. I say, yes, have a small piece of cake. And that's the key - small. Especially since your typical piece of cake is not a single serving but multiple. XD

Jinksie · 10-24-2009, 12:25 AM

im wondering also... my brithday is coming up and the inlaws always get a cake.. but they know i wont eat it... hmmm

Heather · 10-24-2009, 12:46 AM

If I have one piece of cake I will then want to eat 100. It's a trigger for me. Unless I ate the last piece of cake... but then I might want more sweet foods anyway.
If you're like me, don't eat the cake.

rockinrobin · 10-24-2009, 12:56 AM

I really don't believe in "anything in moderation". Many people just can't "do moderation". Just any any alcoholic or crack addict. Or me - a sugar "addict". One small shot (or even a sip) can send someone right off the wagon. There are some things that are better left untouched. It is waaay easier to not start at all, then to start and have to stop. I wouldn't think it's worth the risk. There's just too much at stake.

It sounds to me like you've already made up your mind, which is a good thing. I think you're just looking for confirmation that this is an acceptable thing. And it is. It really, really is! I think it would be a wise move on your part.

ESPECIALLY given you are just starting back on the WL scene again. There's a time and a place for everything and right now, your job, your mission is to get rid of the weight. I believe it's not worth taking the chance that it can trigger days and days of "bad" eating. The first couple of weeks ARE difficult and it is essentially a detox period as you try to wean yourself from your former "bad" habits and eating patterns.

For me, it's always best to decide my stategy BEFORE I get to the event/party. This way there is no thinking about it when I get there. I've made my plan, made my decision and then I don't have to contemplate should I?/shouldn't I?.

I'll also just add, that I have never, ever not even one single tiny time, ever regretted NOT eating something. There's no shortage of mediocre (or excellent) cake in this world. It will always be there. At a later date. That self-control feeling in and of itself, never mind the weight loss, but just that wonderful self-control/discipline feeling is MARVELOUS.

Every time I said no to one of "those foods", I was saying yes to a healthier, slimmer, happier ME. And that feels wonderful. No deprivation what so ever. The deprivation is eating that stuff and remaining fat.

mateosmama2005 · 10-24-2009, 02:24 AM

U sound just like me...I would avoid It, when I'm doing really good, and say "okay just this time" I always want more.and more! Just avoid it if you can!

owensmommy4 · 10-24-2009, 07:07 AM

Thanks everyone! I know for me that once I have been without sweets for about a week that I no longer crave them and I know that from past experience that I can usually eat a small piece of cake, but then later I will be wanting more or something else and then that leads to the sugar binges. I do OK if I stick with sugar free items, like the SF pudding or jello. My family knows that I'm on WW so it wont be a suprise if I dont eat the cake, but I also know that most of my family are overwieght and think that I dont need to lose weight. I think I will take a SF pudding with me and eat that, that way I am still eating something that is like a treat and will ward off the evil cake! Maybe I am just thinking about this too much!

KDuffer · 10-24-2009, 07:47 AM

I realize that right now you are focused on losing weight and best course may be to not eat any cake since there is a high likelihood that it may lead to a binge later on.

However, you should also consider that it will not be necessarily practical (or fun) to avoid having cake (or any particular foods) for the rest of your life. At least for me, having this list of can eat and cannot eat foods, although it may help me lose weight, ultimately cause me to fail when it came to maintenance since I never learned to deal with my eating problems (I only avoided as best as I could). So, at some point I would feel like I am "no longer on a diet" and start eating the "cannot eat" foods, which will take me down my old paths.

In some ways, it's better to start learning how to deal with our particular eating patterns and eating certain things in moderation (within reason). So, from that perspective, I would say, have a small piece of cake within your points and deal with it--maybe brush your teeth as soon as you come home so you won't feel like eating any more or go to bed earlier. For me, learning how to eat like a normal person came with practice. It was hard in the beginning but got easier over time.

rockinrobin · 10-24-2009, 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by KDuffer

However, you should also consider that it will not be necessarily practical (or fun) to avoid having cake (or any particular foods) for the rest of your life. At least for me, having this list of can eat and cannot eat foods, although it may help me lose weight, ultimately cause me to fail when it came to maintenance since I never learned to deal with my eating problems (I only avoided as best as I could). So, at some point I would feel like I am "no longer on a diet" and start eating the "cannot eat" foods, which will take me down my old paths.

In some ways, it's better to start learning how to deal with our particular eating patterns and eating certain things in moderation (within reason). So, from that perspective, I would say, have a small piece of cake within your points and deal with it--maybe brush your teeth as soon as you come home so you won't feel like eating any more or go to bed earlier. For me, learning how to eat like a normal person came with practice. It was hard in the beginning but got easier over time.

Fun? No fun passing up on some mediocre birthday cake? Ooooh, I disagree. The year I was losing weight (& still) nothing was more fun then passing up on those foods. Nothing felt as good as being in control - finally. I loved that I was manipulating that scale (my body). Fun? Seeing that scale drop, seeing my size plummet, having added energy and stamina and confidence - now THAT was fun.

Some people can't deal with moderation. That's not a crime. Certain foods send me into a feeding frenzy. Like I said earlier, just ask any alcoholic. Should an alcoholic just have a few sips of that vodka, so that he can have some "fun"? One really has to define their own fun, don't they? Why does having fun have to be dependent on eating some cake? I think one has to learn how to have FUN while adhering to a healthy lifestyle. And now that I'm wearing size 4's and smaller, having my eating firmly in check, gained back my self-respect and self-confidence, I'm first having FUN. No, eating that stuff never provided me with fun or happiness or security or peace or calmness. Things that I've GAINED from NOT eating certain foods. Who wouldv'e thunk it.

As for eating like a normal person? No thank you. The majority of people are overweight and obese. Nope. I don't need to be "normal".

I eat carefully, mindfully and maturely. Passing up on certain things is okay. Really it is. And what are you passing up on? SUGAR, FAT? Certainly no nutrients. For many people brushing their teeth is not going to stop the cravings that can last for days on end.

As far as maintenance, I've been maintaining a 165 lb loss now for almost 2 1/2 years now, using these strategies. It's not difficult. It's enjoyable. Fun, in fact!

We all have to find out what works for us - and what doesn't.