[mel hughes]

I'm just feeling slightly frustrated right now. I have been on my Weight Watchers plan for 3 weeks now. I've been sticking to it pretty well, more so than I've ever done any other time I've tried dieting.

The one thing I'm struggling with is exercise. Last week I did some on the treadmill at my parents' house, 20 minutes a day, for 4 days in the week..I believe.
Well I'm not at my parents' house all the time. I have 2 very small children. So I've thought multiple times that it would be great if my husband and I could take the kids in their strollers to the park or the track and just walk. For at least something physical.

I asked my husband if we could go a few minutes ago, and he says to me "Do you wanna go with Jordan, and Gage and I will stay here?" I don't know if he is just blind, but he doesn't seem to understand how much I want/need his support in the exercise area. I've got the food thing down on my own. [This morning I got him breakfast from McDonald's and came home to make my own..]
But it would be so much easier for me to work out if he came with me.
My husband was 310lbs before we met, and when we did he had just lost 131lbs in 6 months. From running and dieting. So one would assume he could understand why I need the support? But I guess not. Maybe its different for men.. Or just him..

[dragonwoman64]

go tell him, maybe he's just being dense

[CLCSC145]

I think you need to spell out what you need and expect from him more clearly, even beyond using the word "support". He may think he is being supportive by letting you go with just one kid and by not coming up with excuses why you don't need to go.

I think you should go. Make it YOUR time. Leave BOTH of the kids with him and get out there.

[SnowboundChick]

I agree, you have to have a conversation with him and let him know what you need! That's what I did with my Hubby!

[TamiL]

Just say, "I am going for a walk, please keep an eye on Jordan and Gage". Then you leave. It took two to make and it takes two to raise em!

[TJFitnessDiva]

Usually you have to just come out and say it for guys to get it. I'm sure once you do he'll be more understanding

[Michelle1210]

Tell him you need his help. you need your time. I do know when my husband was watching his weight it made me feel insecure......it could be he is feeling that way with you. what if you lose weight and look attractive (not that you dont) . it made me get off my butt and take care of myself.

[Jennelle]

I absolutely agree with Tamil's answer! If for some reason that won't work in the dynamics of your marriage, then perhaps you can come up with a workout schedule so he knows when you will need him to watch the kids.

I have the same issue with hubby not wanting to go to the gym with me. I finally gave up and just started going by myself. I invite him every time, but if he doesn't want to go - oh well. (Of course, I don't have little kids to watch, either.)

[mel hughes]

So I did sort of discuss the situation with him. I just decided to go alone. He kept both of the kids, and I went to the local track. I walked a mile! It took me 21 minutes, but I was very proud of myself. It made me feel good to know I could do something like leave the house for 30 minutes to walk..that I didn't need anyone holding my hand or watching me to be sure I did it.

I had a smile on my face the entire last lap.

On a side note, I seriously need to invest in some better tennis shoes. I have blisters on my pinky toes and on the bottoms of my feet next to my toes.

[mel hughes]

And thanks for all the replies ladies! It helps a lot!

[Alana in Canada]

Good for you, Mel! Well done.

Men are just different creatures altogether--especially when it comes to motivation. I'm glad you went by yourself and found yourself STRONG while you were at it.

That's the ticket!

[mel hughes]

Originally Posted by Alana in Canada

Good for you, Mel! Well done.

Men are just different creatures altogether--especially when it comes to motivation. I'm glad you went by yourself and found yourself STRONG while you were at it.

That's the ticket!

Thanks Alana! It really did feel amazing..

[KnitALisa]

Mel - That's so awesome!! I love walking; gives me time to clear my head and get outside. Definitely invest in some good walking shoes. If possible, go to a running store or something like it. The staff should watch you walk and help you pick out a good pair.

On a side note, you mentioned that your children are very small. In my opinion, your hubby is supporting you more by caring for both of them while you get some "me" time. My godbabies are 2 and 1 and I know that just leaving the house with them can be a trial (Do we have enough diapers/bottles/toys/blankets, etc?). Anyhoo, congrats and keep going!

[mel hughes]

Originally Posted by KnitALisa

Mel - That's so awesome!! I love walking; gives me time to clear my head and get outside. Definitely invest in some good walking shoes. If possible, go to a running store or something like it. The staff should watch you walk and help you pick out a good pair.

On a side note, you mentioned that your children are very small. In my opinion, your hubby is supporting you more by caring for both of them while you get some "me" time. My godbabies are 2 and 1 and I know that just leaving the house with them can be a trial (Do we have enough diapers/bottles/toys/blankets, etc?). Anyhoo, congrats and keep going!

You know, I hadn't thought of his support in that way. It is so hard to take the boys out. And after he and I discussed it, he told me he was also concerned about it being too hot outside for them.. It was 88 degrees when I went to walk.

[QuilterInVA]

I don't think you should depend on anyone else to exercise when you do. Exercise is your responsibility, the same as what you eat is. Leave the children with him and go for a walk.