DH and I were out for dinner with two other couples. One of the men looked at me, commented how good I looked and that I was losing weight. Then said "Are you going to keep it off this time?"
In fairness he's watched me lose and regain twice before. Still...I was stunned. I know others (including me) may have thought that, but no one else has said anything.
My response was "I hope so" and then to move on. What would you have said?
I think you made the perfect response. What else could you say and not ruin the night?
Weight is a sensitive topic and everyone feels differently about it. Take the high road and assume it was a sincere question of interest and not trying to be mean and move on.
I agree that you handled it very well . . . calling him out on the condescension of his question may well have put a damper on the evening, and it sounds like he was sincerely trying to be nice.
Maybe it is just me, but I hate it when people I don't know extremely well comment on my weightloss - it is just too personal a subject imho. There are plenty of other ways to give a compliment - a simple "you're looking great" or "I love that dress" gets the job done, and lets ME be the one to decide if I'm comfortable addressing my weightloss.
I just spit water out onto my laptop keyboard when I read that..
I would have probably said exactly what you said. I tend to be one who tries to keep things smooth, so I downplay that kind of comment. I would have wanted to say something more witty, but inevitably wouldn't have thought of anything until hours later.
Last edited by Shannon in ATL; 02-18-2009 at 02:53 PM.
What would you have said?
