See ... I guess I don't see the drama here. I joke with my guy friends all the time about sex and boobs and whatnot. Then again I'm a wedding photographer, my guy friends are wedding photographers, and we all spend time in women's dressing rooms watching brides and bridesmaids dress.
So the whole "show him your boobs" thing .. honestly? My personal thought is "what's the big frickin' deal????"
And I"m not trying to be flippant or to dismiss your feelings, because your feelings are yours and I don't want to invalidate that.
I just ... I really and truly don't get it. And I feel a bit like a freak here since everyone else is all outraged, but honestly ... I have this type of conversation with my married guy friends all the time and I would NEVER think that it would be an issue. Heck, one of my guy friends and I have had this kind of back and forth banter in front of his wife and she just rolls her eyes and smiles - because she knows it's so very him.
In fact I'm thinking of a very specific conversation I had with a friend of mine (I"ve mentioned him before here - he's dealing with pancreas cancer, has had surgery, is undergoing chemo). I remember one day over a month ago we were texting back and forth and he mentioned how damn boring being in the chemo bay is and I made some flippant comment about showing up in a bikini to give him something else to think about. (I also joke with him like this because he lost 180 lbs 10 years ago and has kept it off ... so he has been very supportive about my struggle with weight and understands that right now (a) I'd never wear a bikini but (b) someday I'd like to think I could.)
But God's honest truth ... there is NOTHING between us. He loves his wife and kids and I'm happy with my guy. It was a fun, flirty joke and there was no intent there. But now I'm wondering - if I had had that conversation with your husband, would you think I was a sleazy bimbo luring him away from you?
That bothers me ... that so many women seem to automatically see their fellow women as lying cheating bimbos who are out to steal husbands from innocent wives. And are so ... freaked out ... by any conversation that has any hint of sex to it. And that the friendly banter I have with my guy friends could make someone perceive me as that way.
I dunno. I probably ought to remove myself from this thread before I get in trouble. I just don't get it.
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