What a stressful day! Today was the hearing for the temporary orders and restraining order and for everything to be decided until the divorce is final. My lawyer was asking that Robert be kept away from me due to his assault of me. Apparently his lawyer decided to get nasty and accuse me of assaulting Robert first. The hearing went more than 3 hours long with one lawyer questioning and then the other cross examining and then back and forth with lots of objections. Robert's friend, Maria, testified how great he was and how she couldn't believe he would assault me and how she would trust her kids to him. He actually asked that he be given the house, I have to pay alimony to him so he could afford the house, that he get Brian and that I have to pay for everything and he wanted a restraining order against me. So much of it was his word against mine but I think it helped that the police report showed that he committed the assault.
In the end, the judge found that he committed physical violence and I didn't. I get the house, he pays child support and for his insurance and Brian's insurance, he cannot go near the house or my work and he gets Brian on every Wed from 5-7PM and first, third, fifth Sat and Sun from noon to 5PM. I'm assuming that if he gets a job and an apartment rather than living with Maria, her husband and their 3 kids, that he will get some overnight visitation which is fine. He is a good dad but just not good to me.
Brian is glad he is going to see his Dad this weekend. I didn't tell him what his Dad tried to do in court. He doesn't need to know that. I don't want to poison his picture of his Dad any more than it already is given that he saw the assault. At least he isn't scared of him and I trust his Dad not to hurt him.
I will probably have to testify at the misdemeanor criminal assault trial whenever that is and there is still the final divorce hearing after the family study and all the work that has to be done first, but I honestly think I am past the worst of it.
We will meet at the fire station to exchange Brian on the weekends so we are not in private and on Wed he will pick Brian up at day care and I will get him from gymnastics at 7.
Thanks to all of you for your prayers and best wishes. I have so little support that you all mean so much to me.