Bigger than my bf :(
 

Ok so recently, I got into a new relationship, both of us are super happy, and we really care a lot about each other.....only thing that sucks is, as the title states, I'm bigger than my bf. At first it didn't bother me that much, and I know he doesn't care either.

My thing is I just feel awkward knowing I'm a big girl and he's fairly small, plus I eat more than him. And I know in the future I may feel awkward about having tickle fights, him not being able to pick me up, etc, etc....

Which of course I can lose weight but it's years and it's so hard for me to see that happening for me. I'm gonna join Planet Fitness and get a Fitbit, and hoping that'll motivate, so there's that, but it can be awkward. But hopefully I'll feel better about it?

He could be a chubby chaser, I am a chubby chaser, always have been lol I like a guy with a belly and he just might like you with some meat on your bones too

I'm clinically overweight, but by modern standards not exactly huge, but my boyfriend wears a size 30 pants so it is hopeless for me lol. He also goes to gym regularly to bulk up, and I don't go to the gym at all because I'm lazy. I guess the best we can do at this point is try to be confident and not highlight that it is a problem. Insecurity is reality, but it isn't necessarily attractive on a day by day basis. Just go on being beautiful in our own ways.

I hope you see this, since I know it's comically late that I'm replying to this now. But first of all, don't lose weight for your boyfriend. Lose weight for YOU. Your relationship won't be able to handle that pressure if you're losing weight for him and by the sounds of it, he doesn't care about how much you weigh anyway.

I can completely relate to you, my BF is 145 lbs at 5'8" and is in amazing shape. I'm 175 lbs and close to obesity at this point. We're celebrating 8 years together tomorrow, and throughout that time I've been 200 lbs and 149 lbs. He's been with me through it all, through my awful eating habits stage and my super fit stage.

Love is love, it doesn't see weight or image, it's about the person. If you let the weight become an issue, then it will be an issue. There are times when I shy away from physical contact because I worry he's judging me if he puts a hand where I have a lot of pudge. That's not good! I should accept his adoration no matter what I think about myself.

I hope this helps!

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