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Originally Posted by Bex1984
What kind of judge says you didn't file in time?!?!?! It can takes years of abuse before you get the nerve to report it!!!
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Before becoming a SAHM my job required me to attend family court and sometimes testify. What you say is true, it can take years of abuse before getting the courage, but for every person who has a legitimate reason for needing a protective order (the way OP does), there's another who is abusing the justice system to get back at or hurt someone else, often their ex. Sad but true. I've seen it firsthand.
I think that the judge is right to want to hear his side of things and gather evidence. It sounds like he is just trying to do his job correctly and make a fair ruling.
Good advice has been given: document EVERYTHING. Get any police reports, hospital records, lease agreements, absolutely anything. You made a very smart decision getting in touch with the women's group, they are a great resource. Don't worry about that text message, you didn't threaten
him and any judge with half a brain looking at it in it's original context would see it for what it is - your ex trying to get a rise out of you. If I were you I would make sure I have the records of that entire text conversation so that
you can put it into context if need be. When in court keep your cool and don't let your ex provoke you or make you feel as though you're somehow in the wrong - the judge will see the truth of the matter.
Good for you for getting away from this jerk, you deserve better. As a human being you deserve a loving relationship with someone who treats you with respect.