I hate to say it but my fiance is one of the big reason's I regained the weight I had lost. Please don't get me wrong its not his fault and I don't blame him in the slightest but his eagerness to feed me incredible! Of course, I am accountable for everything I put into my body.
I know he wants to feed me out of love and wanting to nurture me, Maybe that is one of the reasons I feel a dreadful guilt saying no to him. When I do say no, he gets such a hurt look on his face and will actually start making deals with me. Deals such as "I will sweep the house for a week" " I will do the ferrets litter for 2 weeks" "Last time, please" etc, He will go on for hours about it. A quick side note is he has a little OCD and when he gets something in his head he obsesses about it so it's not completely his fault. I am also completely unaware of how to deal with it. Usually after all this I tell him to go out and get whatever he is craving for himself but only for himself. He smiles like a 2yr old boy on Christmas morning while he gathers all his things and toodles on his way. When he comes back not only has he gotten himself a gargantuan amount of food but he's got some for me to, ignoring my previous plea's to not get me anything. When I express to him that I am not hungry, he looks so upset and I give in. I know I shouldn't cave but I hate hurting his feelings.
He continues to tell me he wants to lose weight with me because he feels like a fat pig but every night its the same silly story replaying itself. I have not asked him to join me, or forced him in any way to do something he has no said he wanted to do. We have talked about it and I have clearly stated that he in no way has to do or eat what I am do and I am totally good with working out by myself. However he stays adamant that he wants to get into shape with me, he is completely confusing me! One day he tells me "You shouldn't eat like your obese because your not" and the next he is saying he wants to work out hard and get into shape... Confusing!!!
I am going to talk to him about the bringing food home for me when I have asked him not to but how do you think I should approach the situation?
Any advice would be great, thank you in advance!