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I am on MFP and I have a family member on there so of course she has no filter. She is constantly commenting on my diary and just bashing what is working for me. I love having my diary open but if it keeps up I'm going to have to make it private! I've lost close to 24 pounds now! :carrot: Yes, I realize the last 2 days I have had a lot of candy but you know what? I'm under calorie budget and hadn't had any in 2 months. Yes, I realize I eat out on Tuesday/Thursday but I'm trying to cut back and eat at home instead of grabbing something on my way home. It just makes me mad when every other day she's commenting on something like that. I'm celebrating in what I have already lost and working on what I still need to work on (eating out and candy). I'm eating great most of the time it's just a few days a week I splurge and it's not in a go over calorie splurge. I think today was because I really did eat poorly today but she doesn't have to point it out all the time. We all have bad days! Sorry for ranting but I just had to get it out there!

You need to gently remind her that MFP is not for fat bashing (of any sort) and if that kind of talk continues you may have to remove her. You need positive reinforcement as opposed to negative. Is it so hard for her to say "Good Job!" and leave it at that *despite* what you may have actually eaten?

I would go private and when she asks why, you can have the conversation with her. You don't need that kind of thing on MFP. (I'm Leighish on MFP if you want a cheerleader :D)

Oh wait! I think you ARE my friend on MFP!

Thanks! I really appreciate the support :) I'm debating between removing her or going private. Either way there will be questions!

She criticized my .2 loss! I had to remind her I only weigh in twice a week and I don't focus on the number on the scale anymore. I used to be addicted to the number on the scale. If that's what I had today then that's what I have!

you know what?

leave her up there - make her comments public (if you can do that).

reply with nothing more than "unh-hunh.... " "okay".... "thanks"... etc and keep posting your results.

let's see how long it takes before she realizes how utterly ridiculous she is making herself look.

It's in private message so I can't but I made my diary private. I may make it public and just ignore her messages

What is mfp?

mfp = my fitness pal, it's a website where you can track your calories and exercise.

Hey, I am on MFP and would like more friends, if people can add me

SN= srt4852

Congrats on the 24 lbs!

As for your cousin, let her know that while you understand she wants to keep you on track, what you are doing is working for you. Her point out that you are not eating properly and/or go over is really just frustrating for you.

Originally Posted by threenorns:
you know what?

leave her up there - make her comments public (if you can do that).

reply with nothing more than "unh-hunh.... " "okay".... "thanks"... etc and keep posting your results.

let's see how long it takes before she realizes how utterly ridiculous she is making herself look.

or you can just tell her how utterly ridiculous she is and to stfu. I'm illtempered and I would eventually lose it on someone like that. But that's me. If it's not bringing you down in anyway then that's awesome! And good job on you're success so far!

Originally Posted by puneri:
What is mfp?

haha I was thinking it was some sort of mental disorder at first. :o

Originally Posted by MiZTaCCen:
or you can just tell her how utterly ridiculous she is and to stfu. I'm illtempered and I would eventually lose it on someone like that. But that's me. If it's not bringing you down in anyway then that's awesome! And good job on you're success so far!



haha I was thinking it was some sort of mental disorder at first. :o

LOL! You sound like me! I was so close to losing it! I'm just that type of person that after so much I just lose it. I lost it last weekend on my uncle oddly enough he lost it later that day when I asked if he put salt in the water softner. You never know what will set someone off LOL

Thanks though :) I'm taking her with a grain of salt!

Originally Posted by SugarRomeoTango4852:
Hey, I am on MFP and would like more friends, if people can add me

SN= srt4852

Congrats on the 24 lbs!

As for your cousin, let her know that while you understand she wants to keep you on track, what you are doing is working for you. Her point out that you are not eating properly and/or go over is really just frustrating for you.

Thanks! Easter got me and I went a bit candy wild. I'm cutting it out slowly!