Let's put personal issues and other reasons aside. This is completely theoretical and just a fun thing so there is no reason for anyone to give a speech on why you need to lose it for you. So, if losing all the weight (meaning you were at a healthy weight) meant that you could have pretty much any man you wanted (to date) would you do it?
I would have to say yes! I think about this often because I think I will do very well once I lose the weight.
i have to be honest with myself...im doing this for the male attention...even if i dont want to date them. i want them to want to date me. i want that confidence and that body that drives men wild! so yes....if i could get to a weight where i could have any man id want...id be very picky and choose the one I WANTED for a change.
Definitely, ClaireBear92. That's exactly how I feel. I've never been outgoing and confident. And for the rest of my life, I want to be that kind of woman.
For me, it's the entire package. I want a hot, healthy, fit and hot boyfriend/future husband, so why should I short change him and not give him a hot, healthy, fit and smexy girlfriend/future wife?
I'm married but as much as I am doing it for myself I'm doing it for my husband. I have dreams of being able to wear cute hipsters with a nice firm bubble butt LOL...oh and nice boobs...oh I can't wait
Also my husband is a very good lookung man and i always feel like I'm just blahhh but with this weightloss comes confidence I've never had
For me, it's the entire package. I want a hot, healthy, fit and hot boyfriend/future husband, so why should I short change him and not give him a hot, healthy, fit and smexy girlfriend/future wife?
ClaireBear--Very true words and I have to say I really liked your comment about being able to pick someone else out. Right now, I can go to a party and wait for the guy who thinks I'm somewhat decent to talk to and possibly move forward with but I want to be able to go in knowing that I am attractive and sexy and you know what, I want to have a choice here too...I'm going to go pick a guy out!!
So, absolutely, I would. I will be honest--quite a bit of my reasoning behind losing is to actually find myself, find my soul mate and live a life of fulfillment.
Definitely, ClaireBear92. That's exactly how I feel. I've never been outgoing and confident. And for the rest of my life, I want to be that kind of woman.
For me, it's the entire package. I want a hot, healthy, fit and hot boyfriend/future husband, so why should I short change him and not give him a hot, healthy, fit and smexy girlfriend/future wife?
...and yes I agree with this fully. I do not plan on living a delusional life of settlement. If my man looks good for me, I''m going to continue to look good for him.
i have to be honest with myself...im doing this for the male attention...even if i dont want to date them. i want them to want to date me. i want that confidence and that body that drives men wild! so yes....if i could get to a weight where i could have any man id want...id be very picky and choose the one I WANTED for a change.
I completely agree with this! Even if it is somewhat embarrassing to admit to everyone. I like to think that I'm doing it for myself, but I suppose at the end of the day it is also because I want other people to see me as beautiful/fit/worth it. And like jumelle said, if I want a hot and fit boyfriend, I feel like I should be the same.
I like to tell myself I'm doing this for my health--and part of it IS for that reason--but the bigger chunk is so that I can date the kind of men I'm attracted too. Which, is a fit, handsome man with a good personality. I can't date a man, no matter how HANDSOME he is, if he is jerk. I just can't do it. LOL.
But yeah, I finally figured out, in order to get what I want in a man, I need to find that in myself. After all, if I'm miserable all the time, what man would want to be around my negative energy? If I lose weight, I'll be happy with myself, and the rest will follow!!
My number 1 reason has always been health. But, now that I'm very healthy...I definitely have vanity in mind! I guess it's the idea that when I'm happy with myself, I project confidence and will *hopefully* attract a man I find equally attractive. Seems to be working pretty well for me so far!
Absolutely, I'd love more male attention as its a great confidence boost. Why is it a taboo for women to want to get male attention via weight loss and their looks, but for a man to spend every hour under the sun in the gym beefing up to impress women its totally normal?
I know a pretty good part of the reason why i want to lose weight is the attention.. ive always had lots of guy friends and it was never more than that. also, because my self-esteem was so low i would just settle for whoever and i dont want to do that anymore. theres this 1 guy in particular i want to just get smokin hot for.. hes not my boyfriend (yet) or anything but we definitly have a thing for eachother and i would just love to look great for him =)
I don't think so. It might be nice to get more positive male attention, but flaunting my body and dating/relationships aren't very high priorities for me. My life goals are a bit out of the mainstream, and frankly, I'm just so weird that finding a compatible partner would probably take a tremendous amount of legwork. There's one guy that I'd really like to impress by losing all the excess weight, but I have no expectation that doing so would lead to anything with him.
ETA: I realize "flaunting my body" might make me sound like a prude or something. I don't care if other people show some skin or dress to get men's attention. It's just not my thing.
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