I dread the up-down look I get from people!!

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  • I gained 50 lbs really quickly due to binging/living at home. I moved out but I remember how terrible it felt to see people 50 lbs heavier, and them giving me that up-down look. They are perfectly nice people (and didn't comment) and its understandable-its an automatic reaction when someone looks totally different-kind of like if someone dyed their hair pink. But still, I hate it and sometimes old friends from yrs ago want to see me and I really really would rather if they wait a few months, because I don't want even more of those up-down looks!
    Anyone else know what I mean...?
  • Yes!!! I avoided going back to my old college because of the weight I gained. I got over it but it was definitely a weird feeling at first.

    P.s. I love your avatar. It's so adorable.
  • Ohhhh I so know that feeling!!! I'm skipping my reunion this year lol!
  • liliesinmycereal-Thank you! Its me in my past life
    Mhill-Exactly! I am going to try to push off a reunion as much as possible, and it will give me more motivation to get in shape!
  • I almost skipped my college reunion because I had gained about 40 lbs since I last saw them, but decided not to.. and I'm really glad I went, though it has motivated me to lose and keep it off for the next one.

    I'm not going to be one of those people who say "go or you'll regret it forever!" but if you have really good friends who will be there, they'll be happy to see you whatever you weigh.

    Flipside - I have skipped my highschool reunion and have no intention of ever going because I don't want to see those people whether I weight 150 or 250
  • I can relate - at least to the pink hair part ;P

    I definitely have gained weight since high school, but I've always been fat so when I see old classmates it's not so bad for me... but my first boyfriend ever came back to the area about two years after we broke up and I absolutely wanted to DIE after I saw him by chance a Wal-greens! It ended pretty poorly between us and I found out later he nicknamed me 'The Orca'... so of course after going up a size or two, I felt even worse. I often dream about seeing him after I hit goal and his jaw dropping! Ahhh, to dream ^^
  • I know exactly what you mean! I can put weight on so quickly that people literally look stunned when they see me. It's beyond embarrassing and makes me wanna crawl under a very large rock! On the other hand, I realize that I have the right to exist and be around, regardless of my weight. Same thing goes for you....don't worry about the looks because your weight does not define you.
  • I got that look when I was 8. Most memorable event of my life!
  • People give you that up down look when you've lost weight too.
  • I don't get the up-down look, I get the STARE AT YOUR BOOBIES LIKE A GIANT CHOCOLATE CAKE looks. Some people have no class -_-
  • Quote: People give you that up down look when you've lost weight too.
    Oh yeah, I remember that lol
    I'm half dreading it, because I'm a pretty shy person in general. Ah well
  • I too gained a lot of weight in a little bit of time and I seriously retracted from going anywhere and when I did I felt like sh**. I had 4 t-shirts I could wear and other than that my wardrobe was stale. I feel a lot better...not sexy, but better. I am looking forward to the OH MY GOD YOU HAVE LOST WEIGHT STARE. I have not seen myself below 174lbs since the 11th grade so it will be interesting.
  • Yea I'd rather them have the balls to comment then just stare at me. That happened when I moved back home last year but they actually said it to me. Omg you're so fat now. But when I began losing weight the comments of you're looking great also came. so either way it happens. I can't wait for them to see me in October when I go home! I'll be (hopefully) 30 pounds less then what they saw of me when I left back in last October.
  • Chalk it up as yet ANOTHER reason to lose weight; at least that's what I do. I've been avoiding visiting my hometown like the plague. When I do visit, I'm a homebody in someone else's home.

    Just think.. before we know it, we'll be healthy and fit again!
  • I totally understand what you're talking about. I feel especially horrible when it's a guy that I find attractive who does it. Major self-esteem killer.