I'm definitely not 20-something but have to comment about POF. My 22 year old niece found her beau on POF and recommended it to me, who had been using Match.com. I hesitated to sign up as I thought it might be a Christian dating site (the Fish reference) for young people. Happily for me, had men my age and thanks to on line dating lessons I had learned on Match, I was able to negotiate my way past the players and have found a really great guy, just like my niece did.

I really think it's all a numbers game. Regardless of how you find them, you have to sort through the jerks to find the gems.

No experience with POF, but I met my husband of 3 years on Cupid. He's all that and a bag of chips...so it's possible to meet a great guy online!

I met my current boyfriend on POF. We've been together for a little over two years and are talking about moving in together this summer. I agree with the other posters about having to weed out the riff-raff since it's a free site. I didn't actually meet anyone else from there, but I talked to several guys and some of them were definite jerks.

I had a lot of luck with Match, too.

I tried the e-Harmony thing, but didn't like it. It was super expensive and I wanted to see what I was getting up front, which you don't always get to do with their site.

I guess I'm going to have to try POF again. I know someone who met their boyfriend on there and they get along really great. I, however, have not had any luck. I've also tried OKCupid without much luck. Maybe I need to get better at this weedwacking you all keep talking about.... :p

I actually accidentally met my ex on craigslist (I wasn't looking for romance...it just developed). That site has a LOT of crazies. But I posted on the "simply platonic" section when I first moved back after college and I ended up meeting some cool people who I still keep up with occasionally.

POF. UGH. I signed up and yes it seems to be like a hookup site. Gross.

Try Okcupid.com I've been on there for awhile and meet a few really great guys. The setup is better and the match rating between each other is nice. Plus it has messanger so if you want to chat you dont have to give them any info!

I'm loving all this feedback!

I have to add my experience as well. I met my bf on POF as well. We have now been living together for over a year and are planning on getting married and having a family. As long as you take your time and dont go into an online dating site with the wrong expectations, it can be quite fun!

I have no suggestion, as I have never used a dating site, but I just wanted to comment (sorry!!)

Y'all have completely changed my opinion of online dating!! My mom uses match (I think) and I've seen her go on dates with some creepers. I honestly didn't think that people could meet a long-term partner online - I guess just because of what I saw with my mom. I thought all of those "real couples" on the commercials were a bunch of bull. But I obviously had the wrong idea, and if I'm ever back on the market, I think I'll give the online route a try!

I met my bf on POF, too. We've been together a little over a year and a half. But I must say, I had my share of exceptionally odd dates from that site. The best was the guy who told me (after I had politely declined a second date because he was creepy) that he "thought I'd feel differently about him if we slept together." Nice.

Anyway, the whole online dating thing can be a real adventure. Definitely meet in a public place and don't give any personal info at first.

JustKeepSwimming, wow that dude was a total creeper or a genius. I hope that line hasn't worked on other unsuspecting fisherwomen. :D

My problem is, if I don't find you attractive sometimes it takes time for me to become attractive to you. IE personality. So when I go out with these guys from a dating website...if I'm not attracted to you even though your super nice or whatever you def don't get another shot. I'm the type of person that needs to get to know you on a regular basis and see you. There's this guy I wasn't attracted to at work (he works for another company) at first but the more I saw him and the more I talk to him I began to really like it. When it comes to online dating it doesn't work that, I don't want to waste time seeing someone after a first date that didn't interest me that much.

I'm going to echo the recommendation for OkCupid.com. I met tons of guys there--and none of them were creepy. You just have to go with your instinct about that. I mean, there are creepy guys out in the world, too, not just on the internet.

i told someone on there that I wasn't interested and then all of a sudden my profile was taken down and I was blocked from registering. I asked customer service and they said sent me a generic "here's the list of reason's why people get blocked from the site" and I had't done any of those, 3 emails later and they still would not tell me what I supposedly did so their customer service is awful.

http://hubpages.com/hub/Plenty-of-Fish--Review

Check it out!

OKCupid for commitment-focused dudes

Plentyoffish for casual stuff/penis pictures

Craigslist...now there's an adventure. I prefer Craigslist but it's pretty dead if you're not in a city/big metro area.