Originally Posted by Iconised Ghost:
I think I would have lost it if someone did that to me! I would seriously have ranted and raved at him and had a huge fit and stuff. How insensitive! Why did he think you would find that funny?? Was he thinking at all??

This was my reaction. wtf, man.

But I guess in my head I'm thinking "If he doesn't realize I'm this heavy, telling him that it bothered me might make him realize I AM this heavy"...

I'm the person who only eats in front of a select few people and who NEVER comments on weight or diets, because I feel like as soon as I say something people will think "yeah, good thing you're dieting!"

Clearly I have issues lol And he is a superficial pig of a man.

I think several posters were right on- most people are just not good predictors of weight.

In my statistics class earlier this week the professor had a data set of people's weights. It took me a while to realize that they were actually weights- because the numbers ranged from 94 to 112 pounds. Huh? Really?

Now admittedly this was a very slight, short, woman of Asian descent, but still... has she looked out into her classroom of students lately?

I know what you mean about having difficulty discussing weight issues with the people that are close to you, ANewMeT.

Actually I haven't told any of my friends that I am trying to lose weight because I am afraid of the same thing you alluded to, that they would say "about time."

Even my boyfriend and I skirt around the topic of my weight. I know that I weigh 50 pounds more than him, but I would be so embarrassed to voice it aloud so I hide my weigh-ins from him.

I don't know if this is the appropriate strategy but my plan is to get to a place where I am comfortable with my weight and myself (this could mean at my goal weight or tomorrow or anytime that feels right) and be honest with the people around me.

Until then, my struggle is my own and support comes from online communities like this one :D

Maybe eventually you will have the power to tell him "Guess what, I was not that far from 200 in the original picture, so why don't you think next time before you make assumptions about people?"

I think you should let him know someday that what he did was messed up. who knows, maybe a year from now you'll be down in weight a bunch, and you can say, hey did you know when you did that photoshop joke of me at 200 pounds, i was nearly that heavy? yeah, not so funny anymore. he'll probably be shocked.... he does sound kinda dumb....

anyways, good for you for playing it cool. and i know exactly what you mean about weighing a lot for your height. i'm the same height as you, and started very close to your starting weight. i've lost weight, and i definitely feel lighter and better and healthier, but i'm not too much smaller, if that makes sense. hopefully soon that will change!!!!

Originally Posted by jaimie1980:
****This might be a little inappropaite****

I would take a pic of him and photoshop it with a itty-bitty-teenie-weenie. See how he likes it. An eye for an eye! He might get the hint. Just sayin'.

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Yep thats something I would do. ;)

Men are dumb and have no clue what is really going on in our heads about how we feel about weight and our bodies.

I think it's just fine that you didn't make a big deal and if anything, you have every reason to put him in his place about being more sensitive to people. It was a pigheaded thing to do.

But, I still catch all my guy friends (generally late 20s, early 30s) being just as pigheaded at every opportunity. I make a point of telling them that they are being rude and I put a quick end to it -- mostly by turning it around on them! And every single one of them would be thrilled to find their perfect woman (the single ones I mean) and they would welcome that special person regardless of size. I know that for a fact.

Like said, Men are dumb. But women can be whacky too so it all evens out eventually.