I secretly fear that as I get closer to my goal weight, my relationship with my boyfriend will change. I fear that I won't feel the same way about him, not because I don't love him, but because I will feel differently about myself.

I really am bothered by this sometimes. He is my first and only BF (of 6 years now) I am afraid that when I lose the weight, I will get more attention from the boys, and then feel like I missed out on dating, one night stands and all of that stuff I never did because I always felt like I was too fat.

I really hope I am not alone in this feeling :(

Silverfire: you're not alone, I feel the same way. But I am determined for us to have a wonderful relationship, so I try to keep those thoughts to myself.

I am so glad people have the same fears as me!
Just today when dishing up my dinner i looked at it and thought "oh gosh I think im turning into an anorexic" so after dinner I made myself eat 3 biscuits coz i was under my calories for the day...... then I feel guilty for having the stupid buscuits!

I also feel like my relationship with my bf of almost 5yrs will change - im scared he wont love me anymore and even more afraid i wont love him - its completely ridiculous but I cant help it!
To me skinny people will always be mean (my sister was skinny and everyday for as long as i can remember she called me a fat pig - so in my head -and i know this is not true as i know plenty of lovaly skinny people - skinny people are mean) so im afraid i will become a nasty person when i get to my goal weight.

Another bad habit is I count every single calorie! even in food I dont eat!

Anytime I go on a diet I always end up fasting. It's not something I plan, and it is not something I want to do. It just always happens anyway, and I hate it. So I try not to go on a diet. I've managed to maintain the same weight for the last few years now. So it isn't really a big deal right now. But you never know if something will set me off.

Fortunate - As crazy as it is, I sometimes think that too! I like to say that I'll always be fat on the inside!

I love making 'before and afters' of myself. But I'm too shy to post them. This makes me feel guilty because a key motivator for me joining up to 3FC was looking at the goal/mini goal threads. They were so inspirational.

I enjoy looking at before and after shots of other people and envy their success, despite the fact I am almost done with losing weight myself and my before and afters are pretty epic too. I just don't want to reveal them to the interwebs!

I agree 1987, I feel pretty embarassed to show others my before and afters...

Sometimes I feel like my boyfriend won't truly be attracted to me until I'm thin...even though he has said and shown no feelings to support this theory. Even deeper still, I fear that he won't want to marry me unless I show the dedication it takes to reach goal weight, even though he entered the relationship with me when I was 200 lbs. Stupid head creating stupid feelings that aren't true >_<

Confession - I was trying my best to get into a healthy mentality but I just went a bit off the rails this week. Pizza, wanting McDonald's (but resisting), drinking Coke despite not having it consciously for 2 weeks. I just ruined my good streak for no good reason! Why can't I just get on with things and do it?!

I confess that I am so happy that I won't be shopping in the plus-size section of the store anymore. I have such shame, esp. in places like Macy's since the ladies' room is in that section of the store. I feel like I am the only large one there for shopping, everyone else is there for the potty. I spent way too many years hiding out in the plus-size section and plus-size clothes and I'm done.

healthy intentions...new bad habits
 

I notice I want to starve myself of "weigh in" days (for me Thursdays)
it was particularly bad last week when my weigh in buddy said "please don't ever do that again" lol
I was soooo cranky~!!
and miserable and ultimately it didn't/doesn't really help anyway, maybe a 1/2 pound or less of a difference but that mentality comes from somewhere?
And isn't just "going away" even though I know intellectually it's destructive and unpleasant for me and my loved ones:hug:
Any suggestions on better ways to handle "weigh in days"
thanks

I'm afraid of reaching my goal weight, because I don't want to be one of those people you hear about who lost 100+ lbs and then promptly gained it all back.

My weight loss confessions:

• I'm afraid that I will forever be caught in this 'lose weight-gain weight' loop, and just always be obese and unhealthy

• I'm fear that my husband will start treating me different (better) if and when I lose the 100+ pounds I'm carrying, and that will make me want to leave him
• When I'm alone for a long while I'm tempted to binge on the worst foods; like a whole pizza, a bunch of items from taco bell, etc
• I'm 5'1 and I'm a size 20

Just a quick congratulations to all of you who have managed to lose weight :-) I hope to be one of you soon!

I feel the same way Silverfire.

I'm terrified that my body won't ever fully recover from the abuse I've heaped on it, and that ill look even worse when I'm done

that's my fear nr 1 :(

fear nr 2 is that people will always think of me as a girl who keeps gaining and losing weight or the girl who is starving herself to stay thin, even though i don't do that.

fear nr 3 is that no matter how much weight i loose i will always be the biggest in the group of my friends and that i will never have a boyfriend because of my insecurities.

I have a lot of the same fears as everyone here, which makes me feel a ton better. My fear right now is that even though I have lost 15 lbs, I wont ever look like I have lost anything. I cannot see a difference in myself in the mirror and when I do look at myself, I feel like I have actually gained 15 lbs, not lost it. I feel like my stomach is sticking out even more and my jeans don't feel any differently. I keep being asked if I have lost a jean size yet and I'm ashamed to say no.