*Warning this is very off topic and probably will end up a little rambly!*
Ok...so here's a quick history, 7 months ago, broke up with my bf of 5 years. When I was together with my ex this guy I know asked me out to dinner, I explained my situation and we stayed in touch a little because of mutual friendships. Awhile ago we ran into one another again and he found out I was single.
So this guy and I start hanging out about a month and a half ago. When we first started hanging out he was on vaca (he's a cop and had like a month off) and we hung out a lot, we went to dinner a few times and went out all the time. I also met a few of his friends when he invited me to some training he had for work. I also know he's told some of his friends about me. He was never pushy at making moves on me, I always had to make the first move. I think he's actually a gentleman!
Fast forward to now...
Well he's back to work, and is very dedicated to his job, which has crazy hours and lots of overtime. So I rarely see him. Maybe once a week if I'm lucky. There hasn't been a day I don't hear from him, usually by text message, but he usually texts me first and if I don't answer right away he'll text me again to get my attention. He's always flirty, and in the past has said that he thinks I'm wonderful because I'm not the typical "crazy" girl. I don't get all worked up over drama etc etc... He's made funny references about me being his "sheriff wifey" so all this to me sounds like he was possibly interested in not just a fling but a relationship. Not to mention before we started seeing one another he was pretty persistent in being interested in me.
Well now that I barely see him, I'm just sooo confused! I don't know what he thinks of us, and I don't wanna ask because I feel its kinda soon. I don't know if he really is just THAT busy. I feel like if you're really interested in someone you make time. But then again, I don't have a job like he has. ...I know he's not out and about at bars or even with other girls but I just can't read him! I haven't slept with him yet and I don't want to until I know what's going on. I refuse to just be a fling. I guess my question is, do you think he'd actually go through all this trouble if he was just trying to sleep with me? Seems like a lot of work. I guess I'm getting skeptical because he's really quite perfect, aside from the fact he's 35 and single. I get a little curious when people are that age and not settled down. But I know he's not the player type. (I've known his circle of cop friends for awhile and he's DEFINITELY the most well behaved) My thought was he was maybe just one of those very career driven guys who would like a relationship but really doesn't have a lot of time. I also think he probably doesn't jump into relationships very quickly. Ugggggh I'm so confused. I hate the unknown!! I hate falling for someone when you don't know their feelings.
Well ladies, sorry this was sooo long but I would love your outside input.
Am I having one of those "He's just not that into you moments"???