Online Dating???
 

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I'm so unsure of how to feel about this. I met a guy (don't laugh) online through a game called World of Warcraft. I know, I'm a HUGE nerd, but seriously, I enjoy it sometimes. Anyways, he's Canadian like me, and we've been talking now for almost 3 months. We've progressed to talking on the phone and in fact it went from internet to phone very quickly. The chemistry between us is crazy and mind blowing. Sometimes he'll say something and I'd been thinking it two seconds before.

The problem is, I've always been against meeting people online because I believed that you should be able to meet people in person since we as humans did it for a baggillion years without the internet right?

So then my brother meets this girl online and we meet her and she's absolutely wonderful! She's the nicest girl that I've met that he's dated in a LONG time. So that kinda gives me hope.

Moral of the story is I'm getting extremely attached to this guy who's across the country and we haven't even met yet.

Ooooh, and is it a good idea to even meet? Should I ask myself.. Maybe he's a lunatic? and then again, Maybe he's the love of my life? I don't know what to think. I know I like him and I know he likes me. We've seen pictures of each other and we're both clearly attracted.

BUT AM I CRAZY FOR HAVING MET SOMEONE ONLINE?!!?!?!?!?!?!

Thanks in advance for the support :)

People have been going on blind dates for years and years, I'm not sure how this is different :) ;) I'd say go for it. What's there to loose?

Not crazy one bit! (granted, I use an online dating site to help with my social life). I say go for it. Meet somewhere public, where you feel safe. Drive yourself.

Keep in mind: Even though you get along great on the phone, it might be a little awkward at first. Don't worry about it though, you'll warm up to each other.

One thing though: Make sure at least one person knows where you're going. Whenever I meet someone online, I tell a friend of mine where I am going. I also say that I will call [this friend] by a certain time. That way they know I'm safe. I highly recommend it. (I don't want you to be nervous or scared, but it is smart to be cautious.)

I met my husband from an ad I placed in the local newspaper/newspaper's website. We spent a lot of hours talking on the phone and in emails before we met (and we lived in the same town).

I don't see it as less safe than meeting some stranger in a bar. There's a lot of good tips on how to keep safe (I just googled: meeting someone you met on the internet, which is pretty much the same search I used before I met anyone from my ad.

That was about 8 years ago. We'll be married 7 years in November.

No matter how you meet a guy (even on a date set up by a friend, or a guy you meet anywhere, even at church), safety measures are a good precaution.

I met my squeeze on-line and this Saturday the 26th will be a year that we have been together. GO FOR IT.

1. Meet in a very public place.
2. Make sure you tell someone the name of the person you are meeting, where you are meeting, and give them your cell phone number.
3. DO NOT leave with them in there car to go elsewhere, even if they seem like a normal person.
4. Drive your own car.
5. Make sure they don't follow you home.
6. HAVE THE BEST TIME OF YOUR LIFE!!

I have had good and bad experiences... but I'm not an avid online dater either...sometimes I just get bored... The last one was really really awkward and I left crying haha however I have had good experiences in the past. You can get along with someone soooo well over the phone and internet and in person have nothing to talk about...believe me I know. Also be careful... I ended up meeting a criminal one time...just so happens I looked him up on a website that shows peoples criminal history...he had a full two pages of it and he was only 23. I would definitely say be careful and its easy to start having feelings for someone and it is easy to get hurt. And PS some of the rest of us are nerds too and dont mind playing games :)

I'd say meet now, sooner rather than later. Taking all the sensible precautions, of course.

Reason - even if he's not a grooming, axe-murdering perv (oops, me sounding old and cynical :D), though if he is, better know it now - real reason: it's so easy to become intense by email or phone and start imagining all sorts of romantic futures, really running ahead of oneself; it's better to fall for the reality, not the digital personality.

It can work really well: my brother met his partner this way and they are very happy.
(mind you, he met his ex-wife from **** this way too..... ;) )

I'm married to a guy I met here in my town, in person...but I've had relationships that started online before. My experiences didn't turn out so well, but my sister's online experiences HAVE been ok.

I met a guy who lived 8 hours away from me, and we talked online and by phone for a good 6 months before meeting. We had crazy chemistry on the computer and on the phone...but in person it was awkward for a while. It's harder to talk to someone face-to-face after only knowing them on a computer screen or the other end of a phone. But if you can get past that, or if it doesn't happen with you, then you're good to go!

That relationship ended because of lack of trust on BOTH of our parts. I was in a small little town with nothing to do, and he was in a big city, out at night in clubs and bars. Didn't end badly, but it ended. If you try it, especially long distance, TRUST will be a big thing...

My brother doesn't really date much and is an avid WOW player. I keep trying to get him to try and meet someone online that way, but he thinks it's weird. I say Do it! You guys know you have similar interests... And I can tell you that there are plenty of nice guys who play WOW, who just might be a bit shy in real life, so this might be there only chance to find love. :)

I'd say do it! I met my last bf through an online dating site and we were together for almost 3 years. The current guy I'm seeing I met through a similar site. I've actually found the guys that I meet online I get along better with because you're both more skeptical about the other person and dig deeper to get to know each other.

As for WOW, my brother has been playing for years and his current g/f (they've been together about a year and a half) and he met on the game about 6 years ago. They met up after talking for only about 2 months just to hang out as friends (my brother was seeing someone at the time) and have been best friends ever since. They're now planning on moving in together, and he says it's all thanks to WOW. Not only did they immediately find a common interest, but they could share it and use it as a means of communication when they were not together. Sure we make fun of them for being dorks, but aren't we all dorks really?

I did online dating for years- there's nothing wrong with it. Like someone above said, it's like a blind date. Just be careful, everyones given some really good tips.

Do it!

I met my boyfriend online when he was in England and I, obviously, was in Colorado. Needless to say he moved here and we have been together for 3 years and I adore him.

But do take the advice and do it safely.

I met my bf online, not thru a dating site, or a gaming site.. it was a chat program called mirc. I mostly was meeting people for friends since I had just moved, I was meeting both guys and gals, anyways, at a group thing, my current bf came. And we've been dating since - it's been 10 years. Be safe, and don't expect everything to be perfect, face-to-face is hard when you know so much about the person. It's possible to fall in love with someone's soul, but not really like them that much. If that makes sense!

Also - I'm Canadian tooooo.. :lol: I love seeing other Canadian's on here!

-Aimee

Loraloo, you should definetly meet him. Listen to all the tips people on here have said. Even try googling his name.

I have two exes that I met online. One was a great guy, we went out for nearly two years but we realized we wanted different things and went our own ways. The other one was... not so great, we went out for only a few months before I was sick of his nonsense. So you can definetly meet someone great online, just don't be disappointed if it doesn't turn out how you hope.

Oh and WoW... okay, one of my exes played WoW and I did too for a while but our problem was I was okay with spending time together and putting down the computer mouse! He was really addicted and wanted to play all the time... because playing together on the computer is the same as spending time together, right? :/
Just a little warning! Hopefully you guys will be on the same page with the WoW playing if you start a relationship :)

Good luck!

Our first dates were so awkward, I almost did give up on my hubby. We'd chat for hours on the phone, then get together and he'd say almost nothing - answer all of my questions with one or two word answers, then after the date we'd call each other and chat for hours. It was so funny.

Nothing wrong with meeting while playing WoW. If nothing else, you know you have at least one thing in common.

Definitely follow the advice of everyone here about staying safe when meeting someone for the first time, and I agree that meeting sooner rather than later is a good idea so you can find out if your gaming chemistry and phone chemistry still exist in real time.

I have a friend who met a guy playing WoW and they got married last spring. He's a really decent guy and they suit each other well.

So...you never know.

I met my husband online, so I say it's worth a shot! We talked online with AIM for 2 months before meeting and it was like I had finally found someone with whom I could be dorky and I could just be myself when I talked to him. It turned out that he had grown up about a half an hour away from where I grew up, but we never would have ran into each other. I tried stalking him (sounds bad!) before meeting in person - looked up his screen name and real name online seeing if I could find other traces of him on the internet to see if he was legit - facebook was also useful because I could see that he had real life friends and seemed to be who he said he was, lol.

I agree with the previous posters - drive yourself, even if you end up going to more than once place when you meet (we went to dinner, movie, bowling, and dessert all in one night!). My brother knew what I was up to so I knew I could call him if something didn't go right.

And also as mentioned, it was weird when we first made that transition from online to real-life. We just clicked when talking online and he was sooo cool and easy to talk to, but then actually trying to carry on a conversation in person was challenging at first! It definitely took me awhile to put the two different "people" together.

We play WoW too :D Good luck!

Thanks so much guys! You've been so helpful. I never really thought about where we would meet, whether it would be here in Ontario or in BC, and I can understand why it would make more sense for him to come here, especially safety wise. But does that mean it's wrong for me to go there?? Just because I'm the girl? I think that's what my parents would want too. << that probably makes it sound like I'm 16 lol. Anyways. I'm 21 and still live at home, and they are fully aware that I have made a connection with someone online. They're skeptical and concerned as good parents should be, but I wish I could make them be ok with it. I guess it's possible its a generational thing too. However like I said, before I met him, I was TOTALLY against online dating. The main reason for that was my sister did it a bunch and only found losers and unfortunately is still with one of them.

But that's another story.
thanks again guys!!

I met my current boyfriend on WoW. We've been dating for two and a half years and I've been living with him for about 4 months now. It's great! We raid next to each other Tuesday nights and give kisses between wipes. ;)

I say go for it. If it works out you can always laugh about how you met. If it doesn't then at least you know you went for something. I met my current boyfriend playing Grand Theft Auto and we have been together almost 2 years. He lives in Chicago and me in Florida. We have been doing the long distance thing and visiting every chance we get. I plan on moving to Chicago within the next 6 months and I can tell you I regret not meeting him sooner. He is truly the one I feel I can spend my life with. He convinced me to fly all the way to Chicago to meet him for the first time. It was totally scary not to mention my first time on a plane, but it was like I knew him all along. Plus you know what they say "Couples that play together stay together" haha Good luck!

I think you should give it a shot, just be careful. I met my husband an online, in IRC to be exact. We spent some years as friends and eventually ended up in a long distance relationship (he is from Denmark) needless to say things worked! We've been married for over three years and he makes me very happy. It's true that you can meet psychos or loosers online but you can meet them RL too.
Just remember to be careful, like it has been said here meet somewhere public and let a couple of close friends know where you are. Another thing that might be a good idea is to have someone called you at a specified time when you meet that way you'll both have an extra safety net and a way out in case things just don't feel right.

I was very fortunate to have met my husband on an online dating site. I did not feel odd at all cause I had no trouble meeting guys just not the right ones. So I thought what the heck. I might as well give it a try. We met in person on NOV 6 1998 and got married on Nov 6 1999. We've been going strong ever since. We have two beautiful children together and I can't imagine my life without him in it. I say there is hope. Just use caution when you meet. As in any dating situation. I wish you both the best!!!

Im dating someone I met online and so far things are great! Our first date was in a public place and we didnt meet til about six months after talking and emailing. As long as your careful. Lots of luck

i think a few years ago it was a little taboo and people were way skeptical, but now thats just our society. everything is technology based. i just met someone online and all we've done is text so far. but now reading these posts, i'm really nervous to meet him. what if we dont get along that great? i'm still gonna do meet him though. i dont really have much to lose.

That made me laugh so hard. I met my BF online; we talked on the phone and computer for about 2 years before meeting in person, met once, and talked on the phone for about another 5 months before starting to actually date. I think a lot of the reason that those 5 months went by is because it was so awkward in person the one time we met. We still talk about it, him accusing me of thinking he was a wierdo stalker and me accusing him of being too cool for me in real life. We did the same thing after we met in person, talked for about an hour on the phone afterwards.

To the OP: Go for it! I've been with my BF for almost 3 years and it's the best relationship I've ever had. He's truly my best friend. Be safe, but don't be scared!

Okay, so I play FFXI....I have for years. I met this guy online in game (i live in TX and he lives in Cali)...and he was honestly the most interesting person i've ever met. I'm pretty sure he's the only guy I ever dated who was intellectually on the same level as me....we could hold a conversation about anything. I was HEAD over HEELS for him in less then a week....i would get on the game just to sit there and talk with him and not actually do anything in the game...and like you said, it progressed to talking on the phone very quickly. before I knew it I was on the phone with him every night, sometimes for hours at a time...We actually started "dating" about a month after we'd met...

Honestly...I don't consider it online dating. Yeah I met him online, but you meet people in all sorts of weird places. Of course, we would play FFXI together, but we also talked on the phone a lot...and he would actually read me a couple chapters out of a book every night over the phone...and a whole bunch of nerdy stuff like that. lol

Both times he came to visit me...i never went there. The first time he came, one of his friends came with him...and my mom went with me to pick him up from the airport...that was we both had someone around that we knew. he stayed for a week...and honestly it was awkward for all of 2 minutes...and then it was like we'd known each other our whole lives..

The second time he came down, he came alone. He spent I think two weeks there...and was actually at my house for his birthday. Once again, not awkward at all....and we had so much fun just hanging out. It was that kind of chemistry you have with your best friend you know?....where it's just not awkward at all and you can always find SOMETHING to do.

We could finish each other's sentences and we were always saying things like "i was just about to say that" or "i know exactly what you mean" or whatever...because we just fit that well together.


Now, in the end after over 2 years, it ended up not working out. He was raised Mormon, and it never really caused an issue in the relationship (i'm presbyterian) until he started falling more and more in love with his religion, and he said there was no reason to continue the relationship if I wasn't going to convert...

We're still on good terms though....to this day we still talk, and he's constantly making references to how i should convert to the church of the latter day saints....so obviously there is still chemistry. lol.

Honestly, if it wasn't for that, I'd probably still be with him right now.


Long story short - GO FOR IT! you NEVER know until you try! he could be the person you're meant to be with!....oh, and yeah long distance relationships can suck sometimes, but you'll always be able to go run instances on WoW together ;)

Go for it! I met my fiance on a dating site 3 years ago. He was from a different city but we met once at the beginning and things didn't really click. Fast forward a year of being just friends and other relationships and we started dating. There are plenty of nice guys on online dating sites, mostly the ones who sign up out of curiosity.

In this case, I say give it a shot if the opportunity arises.

i used to play a game called Everquest.. played it for years.. anyhow, i met a man on there and we played together every day for about 1.5 years.. then we started talking on the phone daily, then he flew over from england to meet me.. we got married and just had our 5th anniversary sept 19th...

btw eq is a lot like WoW, just been around longer and not as cartoony lol

I have mixed feelings. Warcraft and a game I play called Tibia are MMORPG, and thanks to the RPG part and the fact that the women to men ratio on these things just makes it so easy, it's easy to get attached to people. I live in Tennessee and got QUITE attached to a guy in Connecticut, for about 3 years. But since about December I've been struggling with the fact I've got to let him go because I have no plans to uproot and move to CT, and he has no plans to move to TN, and I'm not satisfied with JUST phone calls and a very very occasional visit.

I also realized I wasn't even looking for romance with any of the men where I actually live, and now years have passed and I don't know how to jump back into the game.

I'm not saying it's a bad idea! If I was, I'd be condemning myself too. But consider seriously if your relationship is "going" anywhere. I don't mean are you getting deeper on an emotional level, but is one of you actually willing to move to be with the other person? If not, you may find yourself like me 3 years later and still alone and mad that you wasted all your time and energy and sometimes money on a relationship that couldn't last.

I met my husband online. I never thought I would be the sort of girl to do that, but it worked wonderfully for us.
My advice is to *try* not fall in love before you meet him in person. I know a lot of people who fell in love online only to have it all fall apart when they met in person. Things are different in person, and you need to meet in person before you know if this is someone you want to give your heart to.
Best of luck,
Beth

Naturally, I very much like this person, but I already have trust issues and have trouble saying the L word. It has nothing to do with men, just in general.

I have heard of Everquest, in fact, the boy also used to play everquest prior to playing wow.

I really appreciate your support guys. As for the up and moving thing. The only thing that attaches me to Ottawa is my family. I almost feel like I want to leave. Not because of him, and not because its going to come to that ANY time soon, but because I need to go away to uni at some point and DONT want to stay in Ottawa. Maybe BC has a program that would rock my world as well as a boy??! but maybe not, maybe i'll stick with my original plan and go to New Zealand. Either way, my decision will not be based on a person. it will be based on what i want and what i decide. I at least know that much :)

I actually met my boyfriend online while playing MapleStory..long story short we've been living together for almost 7 months :] There's nothing wrong with meeting someone online, just be safe :) Let us know how it goes!

My husband and I met on myspace in fact! LOL I chewed him out for trying to hit on my cousin and then we met 2 weeks later (he lived on the other side of town) wouldn't change a thing and just so you know WOW is awesome I used to play a lot, but got caught up in life GREATTT game though! Give it a shot what do you have to lose!

Oh and we've been married since 2007, wouldn't have it anyyy other way!

I'm kind of in the same boat, in some ways. Been online best friends with my guy for about 3 1/2 years now (he's actually the ex-friend of my ex-boyfriend from college... that's how we "met" online, while me & the other guy were dating).... for the first 2 1/2 years we were always there for each other through other relationships and other life stuff (in fact he helped me get over his ******* friend, and also ended his friendship with the guy after what he did to me), made each other laugh like crazy and listened to each other... despite the major culture differences (yes, he's 7000 miles away)... and eventually after a few months of not being able to talk due to both of us moving for work and family, etc, we realized that we just want to be with each other. I'm going to visit/stay with him for a month in a few months, and I just got my visa approved for it. I was going to go there for vacation to visit other college buddies anyways, but to have him along will (hopefully) be 10x better. :)

I don't know if its going to work, like so many people above have said... but out of any other relationship I've ever had, truly I've never had such a connection and understanding and whatnot with anyone else. Why NOT give it a chance? Seems to me, like all those stories above show, that you have a 50/50 chance. You never know. :) And you should have a good time and learn some interesting things on the way!

"The only you should regret is what you didn't do."

I try to go by that. :)