Yeah, I mean I'm not commenting on the speed of it - if you fall in love quick, you fall in love quick - I'm just saying if she wants more time to work out she's either going to have to do it with him or not see him 24-7 (maybe 22-7 instead).

Seems things work themselves out.

He's hopefully going to get a job today (has an interview) at a new place with different hours. Less time together.

Though I don't want less time if that makes sense. He'll be working nights, I'll be working days.

At least I can excersise when I'm bored XD. man even that sounded sad to me.

I don't feel like we are moving fast at all. I have had some very very very @#$%#@% relationships in the past and this one feels different then all of them. It's so cliche but i've never felt this way about someone before. I am very much "still me" if any of you are worried and think I need to step back and take a breather.

Also when i mentioned moving in, we were talking like christmas time or new years. Nothing to soon.

Okay well good luck!!! I hope you can keep both on track!

I'm going to be the devil's advocate here. A lot of the ladies above have expressed concern about the speed your relationship is progressing, and I do know that a lot of people end up in messy situations because they fall too hard too fast.

I met my first boyfriend online (yes, both first and online--dangerous indeed) in the summer after my freshman year of college. By the start of sophomore year we were living together. We've been together for two years now, and do not foresee splitting up any time soon.

It may have worked beause the entire process of solidifying our relationship and moving in was not in the least bit romantic. He suggested a short-term lease, so if it turned out we weren't the perfect couple we would not have deposit nightmares etc. to deal with. We agreed to not share money. We made sure we had back-up plans for emergency accommodations.

It looks like things are working out for you, dizzysoi, but for the future I'd suggest this: if you want to exercise, just do it. It only takes an hour. You certainly don't want to be a few years down the line, unhappy with yourself because you lost the progress you had made, and blaming your sweetie for it. My boyfriend practically pushes me onto the treadmill if I haven't run for a while, because knows I get a boost of seratonin from exercise that gives our evenings together a definite mood lift.

Working different shifts like that is quite hard, we did it for a while, but it really forces you to have your own social life so you're not lonely. You'll be able to balance your diet just fine :) Except for when you guys go out. Healthy food on dates is so... ugh.

I think that instead of calling it dieting, just let him see you eating healthy, if he asks why you won't go to burger king, just tell him that you like having a healthy-lifestyle. You don't have to go into all of the details now if you don't want to. Also, get him to work out with you. My fiance isn't too keen on the idea of losing weight or "dieting" but he loves working out with me!

Metabolism slows down when your body isn't properly rested on a regular basis.

Oh, to be young and in love.

I've said it 200 times on 3FC and I will say it again. Nothing and NO ONE comes between me, my nutrition, exercise and sleep. NOTHING.

As for spending more time together--find some activities! Hiking, biking, indoor rock climbing. Whatever. You are young and in love. Let the sunshine in! :)

Hey, also--what about taking "healthy" cooking classes together. Learn to make sushi rolls or take a whole foods class or something.

On a slight side track I have to admit I'm another to say just go with the flow - if it feels right go with it. You're only here once.

Having said that I have my parents for a sickenly romantic (and real) example lol.

They moved in together 4 weeks after meeting, were engaged a week after that and were married 6 months after that! They've been together now for 29 years and going strong.

As for finding a balance that does come down to self discipline. You have to make the time for yourself and for your health. If he's a keeper he'll understand. If he's a keeper then he'll be there when you get back from working out. An hour out of the day isn't a large amount of time in the long run!

Good luck and enjoy :)

I must agree with Lyria here, go with the flow as well.

when me and my bf started dating ten months ago he told me he loved me the first week. and we work now because we go with it. Just don't think about it, and go with the flow and be happy with him.

Life is too short to worry what he'll think of your past, bring it up in conversation and if he's judgmental or criticizes then he's probably not worth your time. If he cares about you he'll be supportive and want to help as much as possible.

My boyfriend and I spend pretty much every day together, and we're still going strong. We're eating healthy together, we go to the gym together and we're both well informed of the others weight issues and feelings. I know my situation is rare, but if you're truly happy with him I think you should be able to open up a bit more. Communication is key to ANY relationship, romantic or not.