Originally Posted by painted lady (Post 2683760)

when i was still dating (now i'm in a long-term relationship), i found that eating whatever i wanted on dates made the guys go, "what? a girl that eats? that's awesome!" so i would always get a burger or something equally tasty.

that being said, i think relaxing your food plan for a first date is important. you don't want to look like a calorie ****.

Originally Posted by tkm256 (Post 2685526)

I've only been on official dates with one person, who I've now been living with for two years, but when we first went out to restaurants I ate whatever I would have eaten if I was there alone or with a female friend. It didn't occur to me to strategize, because the whole point of the date was to get to know each other. So deliberately altering my food choices to make him think I didn't care about the calories when I do would have been silly (as would deliberately choosing something ultra-healthy to look feminine if I regularly savor the splurge). If you would eat pasta when your guard is down, eat the pasta; if you would stay on plan and eat salad then get salad. The only reason he would feel uncomfortable with your healthy dishes is if you gave off the vibe that you judge anyone who doesn't make the same choices you do or you're denying yourself to look superior, which you won't if you thoroughly enjoy your food and the conversation with your date.