How do you respond?
 

Maybe I'm not very good at small talk, but I find it difficult to come up with a response when my co-workers notice my weight loss. I work in the bakery department in a grocery store so I can talk freely about it with my department colleagues, but when someone from another department makes this comment! "You've lost weight!" Like it's not a question, it's just a statement. I always feel weird about just saying Thank you. I feel like it would be worse to say nothing at all but I feel really sheepish when I end up in that conversation.

So what do you say to people you don't know particularly well when they talk about your weight loss?

I just brush it off and go "yeah" I don't like compliment... but I secretly am excited inside...

I try to brush i off normally but sometimes i think that it just makes me feel a bit cocky.. so i try to thank them as much as i can even if it gets pretty uncomfortable when its the same people on and on .. you dont know if they are happy for you or they just started hating you for it.. lol

I've learned its just best to say "thank you" and sometimes I tell them how much they have made my day just by noticing! Kind of makes them feel better about speaking out what they thought. Plus it really does make me feel good inside. But I am TOTALLY a people person and do small talk for a living sooooo I get kind of used to lots of weird comments.

I normally just say "yep" and smile. If they ask more questions I answer them but I mostly leave it at that.

say thanks and compliment them back :)

Its very thrilling for me when someone notices, but yet at the same time I'm like you, and don't know what to say. I haven't had this happen but maybe a few times in my lifetime.

When someone you hardly know, says that as a statement I guess I would just say "Yep! I sure have!" with a big smile, and go about my business.

I say "yes I am thank you"

....but that hasnt happened yet. LE SIGH!

Thank you and a smile.

when i went home for xmas, everyone i know told me how much weight i lost. some even referred to it as " a ton of weight" which is weird, bc i really didn't lose that much.


anyway, when they said that, i replied:

"thank you, it's taken a lot of hard work"

which is true. all the hard work and fighting with yourself about exercise or food choices. don't brush that off. own it, you deserve it.

I usually just smile and tell them "thank you"

I think a polite "thanks!" would be just fine!

Just take it as a compliment girl ... say thanks! :)

"You've lost weight!" Says they.

"A little bit. Thank you." Says I.

Hehe, that wouldn't have worked today when I saw someone who hadn't seen me since April (before I lost 57 pounds). It was interesting, but not bad.

My cousin the other day had a weird way of telling me ...

"some people have asked me how many pounds you've lost so how much did you lose?"

i thought it was RUDE.

I alwasys say-- thanks, I have been working hard.

Or, if it's someone I know better, I say-- thanks, I have been working my *** off, literally! :)

jahjah, I do think that's rude. There is so much more about it than the pounds. I would get upset at my cousin.

I have a hard time when people notice my weight loss. I think it's wrapped up in psychological-BS, but I do get a little defensive and embarrassed.

But I just say "Yeah. Thanks." I try to keep it brief because it gets me bummed out--I over-read the compliment and turn it negative. Issues...

yup just take it as it is!!!

I like that answer. Happened to mine.

I had people saying things to me after I had lost just 3 lbs! Granted, those 3 lbs took months to lose, so I imagine I lost a bunch of inches/gained muscle.

Anyways, the comments come all the time at my work. It's hard because they all speak Korean so I have to say things in a way they can understand. Generally it looks like:

"You've lost weight!"
"Oh, I don't think much, but I'm trying."

"You're face is thinner"
"Oh, maybe, I'm trying to lose weight."

I don't mind telling people I'm trying to lose weight, which I know some people do. Personally, it gets people off my back when I take tiny portions of Korean food at work--mostly I take small portions because I don't like Korean food! ;)

Personally, I love weight loss comments. Better than the opposite, which I got many of---"Are you pregnant?"

Say "shame you haven't!" that might stop them asking.


(joke)

I was hoping that SOMEONE would notice that I had lost weight. My mother that I hadn't seen in 3 months didn't notice. I told her I had last weight and she said "really? I can't tell" bummer. Then a co-worker that I am not close to and I don't see that much said "oh! you've lost weight" and it was awkward! Now I don't mind that people don't notice or comment.

I hate those sorts of statements where they don't make any sense unless the person is implying something. If you took the "you've lost weight!" at face value, it just sounds stupid, heh. Don't you think the person already knows? I'll shut up now. :p

If you want to mess with them, you can look really surprised and go "Oh! Really? How much??" as if they just told you some news you didn't know. That one is fun.

Or just "Oh." in a very deadpan, monotone sort of way. I do that one to my grandparents, because they tend to say I've lost weight even when I've gained. ("No I haven't, but thank you for reminding me" didn't work.)

But, yeah, I generally just say "thank you."

AAAH, I absolutely hate it when people do that! I can handle "Wow, you've lost weight!" or "Hey, you look great!" and all your basic/generic comments about it, but why do some people feel the need to know exactly how many pounds I've lost? I know it comes from a good place (i.e. they're just curious, and want to celebrate with me, etc) but it's so awkward. Cuz I can't pretend like I don't know... If it's someone I feel comfortable telling - a friend, or a family member (with the exception of my mom or any family member that I know would tell my mom) - I just tell them and try to act like I'm proud of it, not ashamed. Haha. Anyone else, I just try to deflect it with "Oooh, that's a pretty personal question..." and usually they just drop it after that. :)

In general, I respond to compliments with an enthusiastic "Thank you!" and a big smile. I like hearing them, and I want people to know that positive comments are welcome and will not offend me. Heh. Usually people follow up with "How did you do it?" and that gets a little more complicated... Lol.

im always pleased, but always confused what to say too! Thank you? Thanks for what? Noticing? xD Should me more like thank ME for doing all the hard work when no change was noticable at all!

A friend of mine does this too! She drives me nuts always saying Oh youve lost so much weight every time you see her even if I have NOT lost any or even gained. WHY say that!? Its like they just say it b/c your fat and think youd like to hear it? I dont get it.

Now a couple weeks ago, the weekend before I started up again, one of my friends said this and I was like no I havent your crazy, your so full of crap, ect and laughed it off.
BUT I really had lost some b/c when I weighed in for that Monday it was down some AND I can get in jeans I couldnt get in the month before. So I guess the little changes I made had been paying off. Now I feel kinda bad that she was being sincere and I thought she was being a fake complimenter like others do.

To Op Id just say Yep and Smile ear to ear :D

But I guess to me even though Id be proud of myself for losing it someone saying just "youve lost weight" isnt really a compliment to me. Its just a fact. So I wouldnt say thanks. (even though it is a great accomplishment)

If they said Youve lost some weight your looking good. Id say thanks and then wonder what they thought about me before LOL So, I guess they cant win with me!

I guess if they just said youve lost weight you could always say THANKS FOR NOTICING AND SMILE. :)

I say thank you and smile big- because a. I HAVE! and b. for them to notice and actually say something is a big deal, and I'm proud of it, darn it! I don't like to spend too much time dwelling on it, but I do appreciate having it notice. I like the way I look now. It only makes me wonder what they thought I looked like before..yikes!

i say, yea....jealous? and strike a pose.
then they laugh and walk away

It's really quite simple. Just say "Yeah, I feel great!" and leave it at that. If they ask you how you did it, tell them.