Does this happen to you?

You're on Page 1 of 2
Go to
  • Hey ladies. Do y'all ever have anyone that pinches or grabs your chub?? I have this guy friend who always grabs my tummy roll and pinches me. It hurts and I have no idea how to handle it. I have said many times don't do that to me, but he thinks it is a game. He tries to say in his country (He is from Iran) everyone is touchy, feely and I shouldn't freak out about it...It is my chub for goodness sakes!! And he has bruised it!!

    Sorry I needed to vent.
  • To me his just being a plain inconsiderate a$$ culture or not. I don't think Iranians are touchy feely either but I may be wrong he could be feeding you a line of bull to "excuse" him from his bad behavior.

    Seriously, pinching me so hard that you leave a bruise is definitely knockout worthy or at least a good public scolding.
  • This happened to me once or twice back when I was more overweight. (I'm borderline o/w & healthy right now). I found it blindly infuriating and made a point to associate with that person less.
  • Wow, I can't believe anyone would be so rude! I wouldn't know what to do, I'd be standing there with my mouth hanging open in shock! The only 'chubs' that should be squished are my kitties tummies!
  • Um, yeah, I would knock him out.
  • I think that you need to retaliate, especially if he is leaving marks by doing this.
  • Bee20nine-I usually do not fall for "In my country..." especially when it comes to touching my chub lol. He is super sneaky when he does it too.

    DisgruntledOne-LOL!! I wish I had the courage to knock him out. One time I did smack him in the face and he smacked me right back....

    mazza-I agree less time would be more appropriate and maybe that would provoke him to ask why I do not want to be around him.

    Kitsey-LOL...Usually my face does reflect shock and awe...

    I am just glad I am on vacation and my chub can take a rest...It just reminds me of my childhood where someone would grab your face cheeks and pinch...
  • Quote: I think that you need to retaliate, especially if he is leaving marks by doing this.
    I should probably grab him where the sun doesn't shine huh lol?? He would probably like that..freaky...
  • OMG--NO. He really shouldn't be doing things repeatedly to make you uncomfortable. Let the whack job have it next time!
  • Quote: OMG--NO. He really shouldn't be doing things repeatedly to make you uncomfortable. Let the whack job have it next time!
    Yay I guess because this is the first time this has happened because I used to never let anyone touch me, so this is kind of making me want to revert back to old habits...
  • ooooooh I have it, next time he does it kick him in the nads and say " In my culture we do that to men who are inconsiderate a$$ holes. " and then proceed to hang out with your other friends.
  • Quote: ooooooh I have it, next time he does it kick him in the nads and say " In my culture we do that to men who are inconsiderate a$$ holes. " and then proceed to hang out with your other friends.
    LOL!! I like that statement a lot and shall be used in my future encounters
  • Also, for the record--I don't agree w/the "everyone is touchy, feely in Iran". I have lived in this part of the world and men and women aren't even in company alone together. Husbands and wives don't even touch in public. So, no I don't agree with his comments.
  • I'm sorry to say, but I don't think he is friend. He is abusing you. Im not sure why he gets off treating you this way but he has a serious problem. i would distance myself from him and if he asks, don't be afraid of telling him the truth.
  • Thank y'all for the support I will have to talk to him when I get back. I talked to my best friend about it and she agrees he is unstable and too pushy. This is not a healthy situation because his issues do roll over into mine...Ughh men.