Nothing like that to really wear on a lady's self esteem. FYI- there are many different images of beauty and sexiness. And if that fails, remember- he comes home to you :D

i love u sometimes, jelbb :D

I've never seen the big deal with those places. I've always been a guys'-girl and would tag along to those places with em for beer and fried pickles (not nearly as often as I used to! haha). The guys I was with at least never ogled the chicks that work there...they were more into the sports on the TVs and how good the food was...

I wouldn't worry about anything. And if you're that bothered, ask to come along to help celebrate his birthday!

I love Hooters! Their wings really ARE great! ~ and trivia night is fun! Try not to worry about it too much. IMO it is more of a fun environment than a strip club type setting. The guys really aren't sitting around ogling the waitresses- not saying they don't notice but it isn't really acceptable there to be obvious about it. - You look like you could work there anyway. Now how would he like THAT? :P

I'm lucky to have an awesome husband who is oblivious to every other girl in the world (or at least pretends to be). He's never had a desire to go to Hooter's or strip clubs and whatnot. The one time we were at a bar, this half naked waitress brought our drinks and he couldn't control his laughing, he said she was classless and smelled like sweaty strip club and cheap Wal-Mart perfume. :)

That being said.... my ex's DID have a desire to go to such places; I had no problem with it and went on occassion. These days I'd object only because they're both highly overpriced and I'm a cheapskate.

It's just not something that's ever concerned me. I guess I didn't see a stripper or Hooter's girl as a threat. The ones I got jealous over were ex girlfriends hanging around. :mad:

Well I mean, you know your boyfriend more than anyone. Do you think its that he wants to go look at girls or he is just going out with the guys?
My boyfriend went to a strip club 2 years ago and it bothered me too but he went out of his friends wanting to go. He ended up leaving early and calling me talking about how trashy it was.. lol um he actually made a woman there cry.. not intentionally, but he was asking her what she was doing there and she starting talking about her 2 kids and got emotional.
Not only is it a depressing place when you consider what led many women to be strippers, but its a waste of money.. actually his wallet got stolen.
Safe to say, my boyfriend will never go back to one even if his friends want to..

I honestly think guys will go there thinking its a very guy thing to do and for that reason mostly. But the place you're talking about isn't even a strip club, so I sincerely doubt he will even care about the girls there, why would he? He has you.. I mean, I'm sure your boyfriend has seen a girl and been able to judge if shes attractive or not, just like you would with a guy, but it doesn't mean anything more than that. It sounds more like he just wants to hang out with the guys and if an attractive female happens to be there, it doesn't mean he is going to drop you out of his head and try to get with her.. at least not if he's a good boyfriend which, you can be the judge of. If anything, he'll have you on his mind all night, especially if his friends start talking about any of the girls there.

As a former...
 

waitress at a strip bar, and someone who's majority of female friends are retired pole dancers please let me tell you that you have nothing to worry about.

None of those girls want anything to do with your boyfriend or his friends. They just want their tips so they can pay rent. If it takes flashing the ta-ta's and wearing booty shorts to do it, so be it. I've been there before, and it sucks. You just take a deep breath, put your sexy smile on, call every man 'honey', 'sweetheart' and 'love' and start delicately touching shoulders and hands when giving suggestions. I didn't know, nor care about any of those guys. I did, however, want big tips. I made friggin' 3.15 an hour for cryin' out loud!

Men will always look. Nothing you can do about that. What you can do is be confident in the fact that he is with YOU. Who cares if he wants to go to dinner and be served by a chick with wall-eyed fake boobs and Paris Hilton hair weave? Let him go. Grab your friends and go out to do something you all enjoy. Go to the gay club and go dancing! TONS upon TONS of hot shirtless guys there, but no danger! :D

Just tell him he'd better not spend a bunch of money. That's the only thing that gets my goat.