please help
 

Kinda long, thank you in advance for reading it all, its sort of a ramble to, im sorry if it dosent make sense


well, im moving back home to the east coast, this really sucks, we orginally moved out here (vegas) so that I could go to school and become a vet tech, we sold allour stuff, packed what we had, said goodbye to friends and family and left.

Nothing at all has worked out the way it is supposed to, i dont have a job nor nave I had since we got here. Im homesick, and my aunt, the one that was supposed to help me out with the job, didint tell me i couldnt have it anymore until we arrived. Her other response, go work at dunkin donuts, I mean if i wanted to do that, i would have stayed home an not uprooted my whole family, across the country.

Since being here my aunt and boyfriend have had a huge falling out, they said everything was fine, but yet my aunt constaly says snippy remarks towards him and my cousin calls daily to threaten him. They always tell me they still love me, and how they feel toward eric has nothing to do with me, but cant they see that its taking a toll on me to? My bf and I have decided that it just is not working out here and that it is time to go back home, we still have 2 more weeks until we leave though, and im not sure how much more i can take, and god knows how my bf is feeling. I mean he said some mean stuff to my aunt but she was just as mean, she called him a low-life dad and said that he dosent spend anytime with his kids. He is not a low-life dad, the reason he dosent see the boys much is because he works 6 days a week, and when he is home, if they are stil awake, he spends all that time with them, what more can he do? Beucase he is the one making the money right now, i like to ask him if its ok if i take x amount here and there, and they think that, that is wrong that he should give me all the money and not have a say in it. The thing is, is that he does give me all the money, its in a bank account with my name on it and not his, he dosent even have access, i just like to let him know where its going.

I dont, since being here you guys are my only friends, and i dont know who to turn to seeing, as the only people i know out here are turning into my enimes

Im not really sure what im asking for help with...i guess im asking do you think were doing the right thing comming home? do u think we should stick it out? Getting our own place at the moment out here really is not an option.
I just dont know, its been really stressing me out.

Awww, honey, I'm so sorry for you that it has not worked out! :( That is one huge disappointment.

I must admit that I can not completely extract your situation from your post. What happened to your plans to study? Do you live with said aunt? Where are you going to live when you come back?

I think you are doing the right thing in coming back. It may feel like admitting defeat (and, in a sense, it is). But you say you are not even sure you can stick it out for 2 more weeks! Let alone for, say, months or years. Happiness is the ultimate goal, and you are definitely not happy out there.

Good luck, it sounds like a very difficult situation.

Yeah, Vegas can suck. When i first moved out here, my now ex BF and i went through ****. I settled in on a decent job and am now doing well, as is he (he ended up getting his CDL). Not sure what you're moving back to, But sometimes you have to do what's best for your emotional health. Sounds like the aunt/significant other thing is a time bomb that may have already gone off. Things are tight all around the valley (and the country). If you can secure a place to live back home, you may be doing your family a favor getting out of here. My heart goes out to you--- just know that whatever decision u make is just that. A decision. Whatever the outcome, you will be able to come through. ****hug****

BTW- have you called 211, the help line? You can call them for various job, social resources, etc. A friend of mine found a job on craigslist selling sausages for llike 14 buks an hour until her permanent job came through. Funny thing about Vegas-- you have to ask. Have you or your SO thought about the union or pre-apprentice programs out here? those pay REAL well and may still be hiring. Again, contact Red Cross or United Way for some resource booklets- they may behelpful. I'm trying to think of who else helps displaed families and unfortunately i'm drawing a blank. keep us posted with what ends up happening.

Elwig- yes, the said aunt is who we were are currently staying with when we got here, the whole reason i came out here was because my aunt said she would get me a job working at her hospital, and they pay for employess to go to school for free, and then i would have had to fulfill a contract with the company, they have hospitals all over the place, i was going to to come back to the east coast eventually. It wasnt until we got here that she told me i wasnt going to be able to work with her. That was the only reason we came, Weve been here for 4 months now, and I still am not able to get to job, I was told that since my uncle works from home he would help me out with the boys. my uncle is never here, and he dosent change diapers to boot, i have really been able to go out on my own and look.

I just wanted to say that that sucks and I'm sorry you're going through all of this. :hug: I moved to Vegas for about a month earlier this year and it ended up not working out. We packed all of our things in the car, drove out there, and a month later ended up driving to the East coast for a job opportunity that DB had. It was hard, and stressful, but you know what? It's a lot easier to start over and get a good foundation under you when you're surrounded by people that want to help you.

So if that's the opportunity that waits for you on the east coast then I say go for it. Living with your aunt doesn't sound like it's working out, and you can technically start over anywhere. Might as well do it in a place that you enjoy, around supportive people.

It's funny you say you have to turn to us because you don't really have friends there. That's how I feel sometimes, too! Being in a new place where you don't really have resources or know people for connections for jobs, etc, can be so hard and rough.

Also, surrounding yourself with positive influences will greatly improve your out look on life- it sounds like the people you are living with/around are not very helpful, in fact it sounds like they are kind of jerks.

You don't have to deal or put up with that. It's your life, don't apologize, make the decision that is best for you and do it with confidence. Do what you have to do to be happy and successful, because in the end you are the only person responsible for your happiness and success. Good luck girl, you know we're here for ya!

I have to admit I am very much in the same situation.... My husband and I moved 1500 miles from my family in the midwest, where I lived for 23 years to Florida, almost 1 1/2 years ago. We moved here for my husbands job and it worked for about 4 months and then completely fell apart. I had been a stay at home mom with our 2 yr old for 2 years. Once his job failed he lost his job and has been unempleyed now for almost a year (for other reasons). I got a job a year ago and have been very successful, but now my parents think my husband is a bum. The emotional toll is too much. And now all I want to do is just move home. I miss my family so much. We had to renew our lease for another year in July simply because we couldn't afford the $1000 to rent a U-Haul to move our things back. All I can say is pray, God never gives more than you can handle. All of these things happened for a reason, sometimes to learn a lesson... and sometimes its just not as obvious.