Thanks for all the great feedback.

I suppose I should have explained - I trust him completely, it's her that I don't trust. And they are still friends I suppose, she's from out of town so she and her friend have to spend the night. Also the friend that she is bringing happens to be a good friend of my boyfriends... So they're all just getting together to have fun.


I did talk to him, told him that I felt weird about them sleeping over- and that i was nervous about her intentions towards him. He said that he's going to be sure to put her in her place if she tries anything, but he doesn't think she will since apparently she is seeing someone...

And you're right- she probably is jealous of me becasue I have an amazing wonderful boyfriend, and yes - since when does skinny mean pretty? I need to get over that. I'm not loosing weight to be thin like her, I'm loosing weight for myself - and I have to remember that or else I'm not going to get anywhere.

I feel better, still nervous - but I still feel better :) THANKS

Oh, and I'm totally not going to go out with them, they're going to have a million inside jokes from the years they've all been friends, and yeah... no fun. hah.

I agree with this 100% You shoud go!

I have to wonder why your boyfriend would want to hang out with his ex and why on earth would she be staying at his house. Sounds strange to me. If he invites you to go out with them great. If he doesn't maybe you should wonder why not. I have been married for a million years lol. I was 120 when I got married I was up to about 200 pounds. Weight doesn't make someone stay faithful nor does it make them fool around. Your weight isn't the issue. Your boyfriend is the issue.

hm, I think you should go out with them.
1st of all, they are your bf's friends. Maybe good friends (mutual good friend). So you should go out and make friends with them too.
2nd of all, you should go to make your ex-gf see that she's in no place to take him away. I mean, just you go with him in this situation can tell her that he's seeing someone and so you better back off.
3rd, if you don't go, you would never know the "inside jokes". I personally like to take the chance to go out, and discover things that i don't know about him in the past (not that it matters, but isn't it fun to know more about your bf?). The first few minutes might feel awkward but after that, you will be able to keep up with them, even if you don't understant completely. And that's fun.

I meet my bf's new friends all the time. They all talk about stuff i completely have no idea. But you can always ask, and like "oh, why is that? what happened?". You know, if it's a joke, it would be funny to re-tell it too. Don't you think so? :)

i would go too. i would be nervous to go, but i would go. with one of my best, sexiest outfits on, my make up all done and my hair all sexy. like someone said earlier, he is obviously with you for a reason, so show her that you are wonderful! its all in the past, so it doesnt matter now. all that matters is that you are with him and that that other girl is sadly stuck in a dream world.

So how did it go?

I didn't go, he invited me but I had to get up at 4:30 the next morning. I was leaving by the time they were just getting home, it was kind of funny.

My BF called me while he was out, and told me that he kept talking about me to her, and that I really shouldn't worry at all. I told him how I was feeling and he understood. So all went well I suppose, I still think it was pretty silly of them to hang out in the first place, oh well. I trust him.

That's good that it worked out. It is strange. I understand completely, if I had to be at work at 4:30 I wouldn't have either. Did you get to meet her?

No, but I met her last year at a fourth of july party that he had when I was still just meeting him... we talked a lot found out that her parents just moved in down the road from my parents *talk about small world*

She was nice... but still... oh well done and over.