Do you feel pressure from others because you are an example?
I sometimes feel that people are watching me to see if will keep the weight off. It's good in a way because it is an incentive to maintain my weight, but the pressure can be annoying.
i lost a lot of weight in 2006, and now that i have put it back on again i do feel a sort of disappointment from other people. I dont know if that is mostly in my head or not, it probably is, and thats part of the reason that i havent shared my weight loss desires with people i know in real life- i dont want that judging to become real if it is all in my head
Sometimes I feel like I'm being judged. Like if I get a cheese burger everyone is like what are you doing? It's just assumed that I'm going to get the salad. I think my fear is more that most people only see one food decision they think that I have an eating disorder because I'm either eating too little or I'm eating to much at that meal so I must either be starving myself or binging.
I definitely feel that pressure. I've been told by friends at work that i'm inspiring them to get healthy also. It may be a good thing though... more initiative to keep it up!!
Yeah, it's funny. Whenever I'm out with friends and eat something that's not extremely healthy they freak out on me. Like "oh my God, YOU'RE eating pizza?" I don't really see what the big deal it quite frankly, just because you've lost weight doesn't mean you can't indulge every once and a while...sheesh.
I do sometimes, but I, on the other hand, feel like everyone doesn't want me to eat "diet" foods. I do eat all things in moderation. Somethings are more worth it than others. So far its working for me!
Oh I totally understand! It kind of aggrivates me when I eat something that isn't too healthy, someone will say "is THAT on your diet????" or "can you have that". I am just like, leave me alone.. I have lost weight so obviously I kinda know what I am doing!! People don't understand that you can indulge in pizza, ice cream, cake, etc as long as you have enough calories to spare that day or work it off later!! That drives me crazy...
Yes! I hate trying to eat around people anymore, mostly at work. I am a cashier at publix and I went on break and bought a bottle of water and a candy bar (I had saved calories for it because I had been craving it all day) and my friend was checking me out and said "What happened to the healthy Nikki?"I was like "All I have eaten today was a bottle of water and a sandwich! I think I can splurge for a candybar." I hate this pressure, and when I don't eat at work they judge me. Like RememberHowToSmile said, I am either anorexic or bingeing. I hate the added pressure.
I lost a lot of weight 2004 - 2005 and I have more or less maintained it since then (though I keep hitting plateaus and I did recently regain about 10 lbs), and people in my family still comment on how good I look. I think most of the people in my family, esp. extended family, assume I know what I'm doing, so I don't get any weird looks if I have a piece of cake at a party or anything.
There are a FEW people in my life, however, who never knew the 264lb me and have only known me 175 - 190-ish lbs, still overweight and assumed that I must eat like a pig to be "so fat" (at 175 - 190lbs). Little do these people know how healthy I DO eat and how much heavier I've been. This same person(s) also assume I must be very lazy and never work out (bc I'm 175-190lbs). I feel a certain pressure around this one person (a workmate of mine) to NOT have a piece of dessert, even if I want to and even if I can afford to diet-wise, just to prove a point (that I'm not 175-190lbs bc I eat like a pig; I'm that weight because I *DON'T* anymore).
I get the 'oh but you lost it so fast' discounting comments.. like they're just waiting for me to gain in all back. (k. the first hundred was over 11 months)
I didn't feel the pressure when I had lost almost 50 pounds... It was really interesting, as KLK said, because I had just moved where people did not know I had lost even a lb., yet there I was having undergone a significant transformation. With people I knew, perhaps I felt slight pressure but nothing serious... Now I do, however. I've gained back almost all of that weight and I feel embarrassed around people who had seen me go from 260 to 210 and now back to nearly 260 again.. so ironically, now I feel the pressure.
I get pressure more from family than from friends. Women on my father's side tend to chunky, and I was headed that way. My cousin is having a hard time trying to lose.
I feel like some of them are waiting for me to regain.
I really don't feel much pressure. But I am super secretive about my calorie counting just because I don't want to be "that girl" who's always on a diet and won't have fun, and I don't want grief from anyone but myself if I go out some nights and over do it.
For those who have lost weight
