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LittleBigGirl 04-21-2008 03:02 AM

I hear you on the stretch marks. Got them all around my hips, thighs, breasts, and upper arms. There old and silvery now but still bad because in highschool my thyroid suddenly stopped working and I gained over 100lbs in less then a year. Not fun, and I have to live with the fact that even after I loose the weight they will always be there. :(

amouse 04-21-2008 03:08 AM

i was not a fat teen by any means my skin is obviusly just crap lol .. my boobs had a daisy look to them.. stretch marks coming out from the nipple all the way around.. lol i got probably 8-9 small ones on my hips and thighs ect. lol but pregnancy one omg .. they are something else lol ... they are now all about half and inch .. but when i was preg they were huge .. lol fun hey.. wrotten things.. stupid week skin lol,

MCheyenne6 04-21-2008 10:59 AM

boils.... I have had them my whole life and it's horribly embarassing. I have them on my inner thighs and thanks to my genetics of being black and italian every single one of them scars.

It's so ugly and I feel so ashamed. When i started dating my boyfriend 3 years ago I was actually scared to have sex with him. I'm so embarassed. When we fight and he tries to hurt my feelings that is the first thing he brings up. he says it looks like sh*t on my legs.

It doesn't help that my thighs are huge and rub together which causes all the skin in that area to become dark.

So hair problems, I can see how that is embarassing, I'm not demeaning anyone, but I'm in **** too. Welcome!!!

shrinkinglizzy 04-21-2008 02:56 PM

Haven't seen anyone mention hairy nipples. Anyone? Hairy nipples?

As for the tops of my feet, def def, but i just shave them. Toes, too. I kind of regret having started doing that, I feel like it just grows back coarser. But there are worse things. Like hairy nipples, for example.

S

Taylor86 04-21-2008 03:24 PM

I am dark haired girl (duh LOL) and I am also hairy. I have to shave everything except my head and eyebrows.

But I have have scarring for two breast reductions I had when I was 16. The first surgery got infected on both breasts had 5 inch gashes where the infection tore open the healing areas. I had to go in once a day and get dead tissue removed and shower and clean them twice a day with antibacterial soap.

After a year of healing and going to get the scarred areas massaged to help keep the scar tissue soft for surgery I had to get an implant in my right breast and reconstructive surgery on the left.

Needless to say it left me with scarring on both breasts. Some of that scarring is still purple from over 5 years but the majority has gone white..

My doctor did a beautiful job and gave me a nice C (I was an 42E at 16) but the scars are still with me.


I also have stretch marks, but I am not so worried about them. They are there and apart of me - just like anything else. I got more okay with my stretch marks, however, after getting my first tattoo. That tattoo is always with me and reminding me of things I believe in - and I suppose my stretch marks are with me to help remind me why I have changed to this healthy life-style and help me stay on track.

BrandNewJen 04-21-2008 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Michelinacc1 (Post 2160894)
When we fight and he tries to hurt my feelings that is the first thing he brings up. he says it looks like sh*t on my legs.

What are you DOING hun???? I'm telling you, the one MAJOR sign of a bad relationship is that when the chips are DOWN... when things are at their WORST... you can still be sure that your loved one will NEVER bring up the things that you both know can stab you to the core.

For me, it's my weight. My hubby knows that the ONE thing he can say to truly hurt me is to bring that up... and even in some of our KNOCK DOWN and DRAG OUT fights... NEVER EVER has it been brought up.

If you can't be sure that even at the worst, your man won't protect your feelings where they hurt the most.... well, what else can't you depend on?

HarpoChicoGroucho 04-21-2008 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Michelinacc1 (Post 2160894)
boils.... I have had them my whole life and it's horribly embarassing. I have them on my inner thighs and thanks to my genetics of being black and italian every single one of them scars.

It's so ugly and I feel so ashamed. When i started dating my boyfriend 3 years ago I was actually scared to have sex with him. I'm so embarassed. When we fight and he tries to hurt my feelings that is the first thing he brings up. he says it looks like sh*t on my legs.

It doesn't help that my thighs are huge and rub together which causes all the skin in that area to become dark.

So hair problems, I can see how that is embarassing, I'm not demeaning anyone, but I'm in **** too. Welcome!!!

Someone who is that cruel to you isn't worth your time! How incredibly hurtful! He won't get any better, he will only get worse. I would dump him! ASAP! If any guy purposefully tried to hurt my feelings like that, he would be kicked to the curb. I dumped the last guy I was with because he told me I needed to go back to work before I was medically released from my surgery/illness that nearly killed me! It made me so mad. He tried to make me feel bad for not going back to work earlier. Guys like that are not worthy of girls like us!

shrinkinglizzy 04-21-2008 04:56 PM

Yep, I agree with those other two. Reading that you're BF intentionally tries to hurt your feelings made me see red. Not OK!!

Halichick 04-21-2008 05:13 PM

I agree as well. That was a terrible thing to say to you, what a jerk. :devil:

preetyladyserenity 04-21-2008 05:24 PM

Are you sure you got the right blood test? It is weird. I have POCs but I am not overly-hairy(nothing a good waxing can't fix for the month) , do not have irregular periods (just a tidbit heavier that normal) but apparently I had them since I was 12 and that is why I could not lose weight (a doctor asked me to have a blood test recently and we discovered it). I also have low insulin resistance (below 6. You need to have 10 to be able to start losing weight normally) and I take Glucophage 3 times a day.

How was your blood taken? I mean I went to a specialist for the POCs and he told me that be best way to know if you have POCs is to have your blood taken and tested either the 3, 4, or 5 day of your period. I have done that and it never failed to me.

MCheyenne6 04-21-2008 05:35 PM

you guys are right. He can be pretty obnoxious. Most wonder how or why I put up with it. I grew up in a not nice home with adopted parents who were similar. I was always told I was ugly, not good enough and I was made fun of. I'm used to it and I try to drown it out. For the most part I'm good at it.

Not to make excuses, but my boyfriend has a condition pretty close to bipolar. He has a nasty violent side and I have to keep my mouth closed most of the time because I know I need to pick and choose battles with him.

It's a mess and man does it make weight loss harder than it has to be and harder than it is already. I am strong though, I have been through a lot and I just keep going.

shrinkinglizzy 04-21-2008 06:10 PM

Oh my goodness girl get yourself into therapy!! Please please please!!
I'm sorry to be presumptuous, but what you're describing sounds like a textbook pattern of an abused person. Just because you're used to it doesn't mean you deserve it! You must have such deeply ingrained patterns...they are hard to get away from. So you end up re-creating the relationships that you already understand, which in your case seem to be emotionally abusive relationships.

Now I need to get back to my paper that I need to write for my master's degree in psychology (gee, could you guess?). You seriously sound like you are in a dangerous situation and I can only hope that you will seek the help you need.

PM me if you want, anytime.

S

BrandNewJen 04-22-2008 04:59 PM

Guess what? My dad had HORRIBLE bipolar disorder (hence why I have no contact with him anymore) and we have a streak of it running through all my siblings. I can just feel it ROARING up sometimes... but that doesn't mean I don't hold my tongue for fear of destroying my hubby by saying something awful.

Illness or not... he's just a jerk.

MCheyenne6 04-22-2008 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by BrandNewJen (Post 2163501)
but that doesn't mean I don't hold my tongue for fear of destroying my hubby by saying something awful.

Illness or not... he's just a jerk.

I hear ya jen, but I hold my tongue because he is so much bigger than me and I'm worried he will have an issue keeping his hands to himself if I rub him the wrong way. It's easier for me just to give him the silent treatment

bjeweled 04-22-2008 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Pinkadot (Post 2157344)
You girls are not alone!!! I know what you mean by not being able to talk about it.. I am so open about everything else!

I have too much hair too, not only that but I get really really really bad ingrown hairs everywhere. I cant shave my bikini line because I get PERMANENT ingrown hairs.. I have had some for years and they never go away.. so I have lots of scars from them. So I cant wear a one piece, and god knows I cant wear a bikini.. so im stuck with tankinis with boyshorts only. >_< I also have some on my stomach.. its black.. and it sucks. That and the stretch marks makes me think I will never wear a bikini for the rest of my life.

Luckily it isnt too bad on my face.. the ones on my chin are blonde somehow. I need to do my upper lip 2 times a month >_> I use depilatory for that which works pretty good.. im just glad I dont get the ingrown hairs there. what also sucks is I get bumps no matter what whenever I shave my legs, and you can still see the hair follicles even if its a wicked close shave.. because its so coarse and black. So they never look very good :( Also get giant ingrown hairs on my armpits, and my skin there is discolored and scarred.. so i never wear sleeveless things. :(


Try TendSkin you can get it at Beauty Brands. I havent seen an ingrown hair that this stuff cant combat. Its a miracle potion seriously.


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