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Old 10-18-2007, 11:47 PM   #1  
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Unhappy Someone noticed my weight loss. And I denied it.

Yep, that's right. Somone FINALLY noticed. Someone I have seen every day for the last three years. My boss.

Lately my pants have been too loose and even with a belt I am constantly pulling them up. (It's actually quite annoying but hey, new jeans arent in my budget right now) Anywho, she noticed me in my akward jean pulling and said "Are you losing weight?" And my first thought was "10 months and thirty pounds later someone finally noticed...thank goodness." But the words that came out of my mouth were these: "Uhh...mmm....not that I'm aware of." And she said "I think you are....you look really nice." And i mumbled something like "oh...well i'm kind of annoyed by my pants."

Another friend at work mentioned it before and all i said was "really? hmm I dont know."

I'm so lame. Why wouldnt i just say "Yes! Thank you." I am a very self concious person and she brought it up in front of some other co-workers so I think I just got nervous. But it was as if I was ashamed....or embarrased.

I dont know...what do you guys think I should do if someone else says something?
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Old 10-19-2007, 12:22 AM   #2  
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Beforehand, you practice saying a gracious, "Yes, I am. Thank you for noticing!" This will come up repeatedly, so find a good way to say "thank you". Congrats!

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Old 10-19-2007, 12:56 AM   #3  
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I completely sympathize. I too seem to have to lose a good chunk of weight before people take note.

But like phantastica said, the best thing to do is practice saying something to the extent of "Yes, thank you!"

Way to go so far, though! :-D
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Old 10-19-2007, 05:53 AM   #4  
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I dunno... while saying "Yes, thank you" is a fine and appropriate response, I don't always want every other person on earth to know what I'm doing.

However, it does seem like you -do want- people to notice, so yeah, the simple "Yes, thanks for noticing, that makes me feel motivated." is fine. No need to go into any detail or keep talking about it if you don't want.
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Old 10-19-2007, 08:37 AM   #5  
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At least someone noticed. I have lost 40 pounds and not one person has noticed or if they did haven't commented . But if they do a simple "Yes, thanks for noticing " is all that is necessary. Or jist a simple "yes" .Denying it will make the other person uncomfortable. They might think you are losing because you are sick.About the jeans, I get mine at second hand stores such as Goodwill. Salvation Army or Savers. They only cost a few dollars .I have even gotten designer jeans this way.
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Old 10-19-2007, 09:01 AM   #6  
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Congrats on someone noticing! You'll learn to take it in stride - I've finally learned how to accept a compliment, although it took me a good 6 months of people complimenting me to do so! It's completely beyond me how people couldn't notice a 30 (or 40!) pound weight loss, though! You guys weren't even very big to start with. I know 30 pounds on me has drastically changed my body and face.
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Old 10-19-2007, 09:20 AM   #7  
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People who see you often will most likely not notice (for quite a while) your weight loss. Since you lost the weight slowly, they just got used to this being your "normal" look. You can always say "Maybe I did?" if you don't want to talk about your weight loss, or just say "Yes, I've noticed that lately too. Thanks!" if you want to acknowledge it but don't feel like having a ten minute conversation about it
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Old 10-19-2007, 09:26 AM   #8  
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( You guys weren't even very big to start with. I know 30 pounds on me has drastically changed my body and face.[/quote]
Excuse me being 30 or 40 pounds overweight is TOO BIG and unhealthy, too.
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Old 10-19-2007, 09:38 AM   #9  
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Maybe you are afraid that you won't keep it off. If you start celebrating with other people your weight loss, you'll also have to admit to them your defeat if you gain it back. Anyway, that's how I would feel about it.

So, start TELLING people how excited you are over your weight loss and cubby hold yourself into keeping it off!
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Old 10-19-2007, 09:39 AM   #10  
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And i mumbled something like "oh...well i'm kind of annoyed by my pants."
I'm sorry, but this totally cracks me up. I could imagine saying something like that.

Anyway, congratulations on your weight loss. You know that you've lost weight, that's the most important thing.
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Old 10-19-2007, 10:01 AM   #11  
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We are going to see people this weekend that haven't seem me since I have lost the 26lbs. While I don't notice any difference my husband and kids say it is really noticeable. ( If that is the case why don't I see it ).

He said what are you going to say when they say. Oh finaly the meds are out of the system and you can lose weight, they know it has really bothered me. You are looking great. I thought about this for a few min and then said. " I am going to say thank you and in another few months when I have dropped the 50 I have left to get rid of. You will see me at Giant Eagle in the frozen food section butt naked singing. La lalala I want some fish sticks." He looked at me, cracked up laughing and said you are such a trip. No wonder every one smiles around you.

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Old 10-19-2007, 12:44 PM   #12  
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shy moment - lol

i do things like this too. totally non weight loss related. one time the guy i was seeing was staying over... we were making out. he said mm you smell good. i had on purpose put my really expensive burburry lotion in dots behind my ears, on my neck and writs and waht did i say? oh thanks? oh no, i said... hmm i wonder if its my face wash or something. :eyeroll: who knows why those things come out of our mouths.

anyways - to the op - GOOD JOB YOUR YOUR WEIGHTLOSS!!!
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Old 10-19-2007, 01:22 PM   #13  
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Rennie you are sooooooo funny
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Old 10-19-2007, 08:44 PM   #14  
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Humbleness is always a good character trait. However, you worked really hard to get to where you are today, so you should take pride in that. Congratulations on your weight loss.
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Old 10-21-2007, 02:05 AM   #15  
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Like most have said before me, smile and thank them then be on your way.

However, I relish every moment when someone says something about the change. It fuels my motivation... all the more reason to keep on going. But then again, no one likes someone with a big head so I just say thanks and transition to the next topic. I'd expound on how i've done it only when asked
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