Originally Posted by gremlina:
Is he "normal" or also overweight?
He is normal..but has HORRIBLE eating habits...

Oooooh TELL me about! My DH is a horrible eater. His idea of eating healthier is just eating less. But he still eats donuts, greasy hamburgers, etc off of the lunch/snack truck that stops at his work 3 times a day. Plus, its super expensive to do that and I always buy him lunch meat, peanut butter and jelly, whatever he asks and then he just goes and buys horrible food! He's really muscular and lean too, but he does really physical work and he works really hard every day and is usually exhausted by the time he gets home.

My husband is a normal weight. He is 5'10" and currently 198 lbs. He wants to lose about 5-8 more pounds to get to where he needs to be (he is commissioning into the military). But he was up to about 227 last year, and you could definitely tell. He has been working very hard at the gym 5x and eats pretty healthy (only bc. I do the shopping and cooking!). He can splurge and eat crap and still lose weight.. me, no way. If I have McDonalds/ice cream/etc., it SHOWS on ME and on the SCALE! I have never been skinny, including when we met/got married/had our daughter... so I don't think he expects me to be. I was smaller though, one size... which on my frame, makes a difference. I know that he thinks that I am beautiful just the way I am, but I'd love to be smaller just so that I am more confident... I'd love for him to think that I am 'hot'. It'd be really fun to catch him checking me out, I think!

Do you think your significant other wants you to lose weight?
Yes, I know he wants me to lose weight. He's told me before, but its not because he just wants to have a skinny girlfriend. My mother has diabetes and both he and I watch what she goes through. He is a health professional (pharmacist) and I will be one too when I'm done with school so both of us know the terrible things that go along with diabetes like: neuropathy, retinopathy, heart disease, and kidney and liver failure. Neither of us wants that for me and I am very high risk being obese at 23 and having a family history of diabetes. He wants me to be healthy so we can enjoy our lives together.

Is he "normal" or also overweight?
He is at his healthy weight. Not overweight, not underweight, but just right. He's actually pretty fit...

Do either of you ever talk about your weight or is it a "non-issue" and never brought up?
It used to be a non-issue because I would flip out everytime he brought it up. (I did this with anybody though) Finally, I realized that he only wants to help me and he does it because he cares so I lightened up about it. Its hard though because I have gained so much weight in the last year (40lbs) so I feel like I've failed him.

How has it affected your more, ahem, intimate life?
It used to, but he told me that it doesn't really matter that much to him. Plus he lets me wear a shirt while we do it so I don't feel so self conscious. :)

Do you feel he judges you for your weight, or do you think he understands?
A little bit of both. I think he judges me in the sense that I did let myself gain so much weight that he feels like I just gave up and I didn't care about what happened to me or our future together (with respect to my health). But at the same time he knows that its way harder for me to lose weight than it is for him. He is very supportive though and while I'm on track for my new healthier lifestyle he has agreed to buy all of my groceries! (I'm still a student so this is great!!!) Half of my problem is that I can't afford to go buy produce every week so that I can eat more fruits and veggies so he is my lifesaver!

Do you ever feel self-conscious?
Yes, I especially when we are out together because I feel like the whole world is thinking what is an attractive guy like that doing with a fat girl like her?? ( He is 5'11" and 175lbs and I'm 5'2" and 178lbs) But he makes me feel beautiful and he lets me know that there is more that attracts him to me than my size.

How long have you been together?
We've been together for about 2 years now, but we've been best friends for about 5 years.

Originally Posted by modkittn:
Oooooh TELL me about! My DH is a horrible eater. His idea of eating healthier is just eating less. But he still eats donuts, greasy hamburgers, etc off of the lunch/snack truck that stops at his work 3 times a day. Plus, its super expensive to do that and I always buy him lunch meat, peanut butter and jelly, whatever he asks and then he just goes and buys horrible food! He's really muscular and lean too, but he does really physical work and he works really hard every day and is usually exhausted by the time he gets home.

My hubby doesn't even do physical work..in fact his work has him sitting on his bum almost all day and he still eats like crap and doesn't gain a lb... I always warn him though that it might catch up with him later in life...

Do you think your significant other wants you to lose weight?It is actually a mutual decision together. We both want to lose weight so that we can be hot at our wedding a healthy for when we try to conceive

Is he "normal" or also overweight? He is also overweight. My FH is Hispanic and he mom cooks "oh so good" and it is hard to resist her cooking. But we have just I guess grown comfortable and let ourselves go.

How has it affected your more, ahem, intimate life? It has no affected that was so over, we have no problem in that area!! :)

Do you feel he judges you for your weight, or do you think he understands? He really understands because we are going through the same thing as far as losing weight. He has really been a wonderful supporter.

Do you ever feel self-conscious? I am self conscious when it comes to finding clothes and also I am really worried about what other people think of me. That has always been a downer of mine. But my FH always tells me I am beautiful.

How long have you been together? We have been together 6 years, and are planning a wedding for April 5, 2008.

Do you think your significant other wants you to lose weight?
i know he wants me to lose weight. he wants me to be healthy, happy, and confident...which is not where i'm at in life, and he knows it. he tells me im beautiful every day, but i know he wouldnt mind if i had a hot body

Is he "normal" or also overweight?
6ft 165lbs. he's pretty delicious.

Do either of you ever talk about your weight or is it a "non-issue" and never brought up?
its only been brought up a couple times on the negative side. i'm pretty defensive when it comes to my weight, so its hard for me to sit down and hear his concerns without me being offended.

How has it affected your more, ahem, intimate life?
i would say its pretty directly related to my ups and downs. i mean, there's always regular action...but when i'm more confindent in myself, and he's proud of what i'm doing, we're more into it, and its a lot hotter, and even more regular.

Do you feel he judges you for your weight, or do you think he understands?
its hard for him to understand because he's never been overweight. he's a bit judgemental but only when i complain about something and do nothing to fix it.

Do you ever feel self-conscious?
i think everyone feels self conscious sometimes. though i definintely get really self conscious when meeting his people, because i'm afraid of what they will think.

How long have you been together?
almost two years