Well, I have said many times that I dreaded the day...and today was it.
As sweet as can be Jacob turned to me and said "Mommy, you know what? Your tummy look like it has a baby in it" I kindly explained that I don't have a baby in it and that Mommy is just Heavy. And I left it at that.
I tried very hard not to make a big deal out of his comment. But inside I sunk.
from experience I know how that makes you want to hide your head in the sand. It hurts so much. I think you handled it wonderfully and telling him the truth is a great way to be accountable for your weight. I know the day will come Sandi that you will remember this day as the beginning of the determination to loose all the weight.
cheryl
I can so relate. My 3yr old daughter made a comment about a month ago that really got me going.
She very honestly looked at me and said " Mommy why do you have 2 tummies?" I kinda just stood there in aww. She then said I don't have 2 tummies and daddy doesn't have 2 tummies. WHY?
I was very honest with her and explained that I was just overweight.
Let me tell you it definitly jump started me back into focus.
Just think of it this way. If we can't rely on our loved ones to be honest then who can we rely on.
Best of luck to you and don't let it get you down.
Oh Sandi, I think you handled it very well. It's tough when our loved ones ask something especially embarrassing to us (it was the faded stretch marks on my arm for me), but don't let it get to your determination. You can definitely lose weight. You know you can lose weight. GOOD LUCK!
Yep, I know just how you feel. I also know that you have it in you to change the circumstances. Sending you encouragement to reach for the possibilities!
A couple of months ago I picked DD up from school and she walked behind me so I could block the sun. She asked me why I can block the sun I told her b/c I was big, I didnt mean for her to think I was fat. So she asked why I was big and I told her b/c I ate too much, then she asked Why did I eat to much, Leave it to a 3 yo to ask a ton of questions. Every now and then she'll bring it back up that I eat too much.
Kids have a very innocent way about them that can really bring us to face the music.
Sandi, I'm so sorry that the dreaded question came up. Not only did I fear it coming from my children, but from their friends as well. And any other little innocent child too. Obviously they mean no harm. But nevertheless, it hurts. A LOT.
He's so lucky to have such an honest, straightforward and thoughful woman for a Mom.
Jacob used his sweet innocence today, imagine the next time - he just may use it to say something like "Hey, mom, how come it seems that you're melting away?!?!"
Oh, my, I know you were really dreading this, Sandi. Stick with your plan today no matter how bad you feel. Look at your letter to him, and let him be motivation for you to continue.
I once had a similar comment, only mine was at Disneyland with lots of people around, including some family & friends. I had on a babydoll top (to accomodate my large belly) and the Tigger character (Disney characters roam the park and always attract a big crowd) ask me (loudly) when my baby was due!! Not one to lie, I said I wasn't pregnant, just fat. Eveyone laughed, so I cracked a smile, but inside I wanted to crawl under a rock!