I started working out with a trainer for a couple of months before I started restricting my calories so I started to feel a difference in how my clothes fit before I lost any weight. But I didn't notice a difference in the mirror and neither did anyone else.
I started limiting my calories in early November 05, and I distinctly remember that by the time I went home for Christmas at the end of December 05, I could really see a difference in the mirror. I'd lost around 10 pounds at that point. But not one single person in my family noticed that I lost any weight at all or even commented that I looked good--even after they knew I was working out regularly (I went to the gym while I was home)--it was sort of a downer
. The only people that commented on my weight loss were my oh-so-nice-and-supportive friends who already knew I was trying to lose weight (thank God for friends!
). It wasn't until Feb or Mar of 06, at which point I was probably down about 20 pounds, that people who didn't know I was trying to lose weight started commenting on it.
This year when I went home for Christmas, everybody in the family commented on how thin I was (except for one step sister who is always off in a little world of her own)!
You just have to stick with it; eventually they will all notice!
If you have any friends that are particularly supportive, it helps to tell them what you are doing. If they are smart, they'll tell you that you look great whether they can see that you've lost weight or not because they'll want to be encouraging. I also think that if people don't know whether or not you are trying to lose weight, they are reluctant to say anything until it becomes so obvious that they absolutely can't be wrong about it. It can be uncomfortable to ask someone if they've lost weight only to find out that they haven't.